Here is a complete Enneagram Test built with interact quiz maker, this is what we’ll go over how to make in this article
Enneagram Overview: Before we go into the logistics of setting up an enneagram test let me just break down real quick what exactly it is. The enneagram is a personality quiz in which you are assigned one of 9 “personalities” (called types in the Enneagram). You are also assigned a secondary “type” so your results come out as “3w4” which would be a Type 3 with a Type 4 secondary.
In order to build an enneagram test you will need three parts.
1. The results (the 9 types)
2. The questions
3. The logic to connect the questions to the results
In this article we will give you all three of those parts, feel free to use this as the template for your enneagram quiz. In order to build the quiz into an interactive format like this you can use interact quiz builder.
Part 1: The 9 Types
Type 1: The Perfectionist
Perfectionists believe they must be good and right to be worthy. Consequently, Perfectionists are conscientious, responsible, improvement-oriented and self-controlled, but also can be critical, resentful and self-judging.
Focus of Attention: What is right or wrong, correct or incorrect.
Life Lesson: To change what can be changed, to accept what cannot be changed, and to develop the wisdom to know the difference.
What Type Ones tell us about themselves:
- I live with a powerful inner critic that monitors my thoughts, words and deeds.
- I strive for perfection and feel responsible for making things right.
- I focus on being good while representing my impulses and desires for pleasure.
- I get angry when important rules and standards are ignored or violated.
- I seek love and approval from others by being good and right.
Relating to Ones:
- Take their concerns seriously.
- Respect their integrity.
- Be responsible and honor your agreements.
- Admit your mistakes.
- Recognize that Ones are especially sensitive to criticism.
For Ones, take a moment to reflect on the following principles:
- There is nothing to correct or improve; everything is perfect as it is.
- Differences are a natural part of life.
- We are all inherently worthy.
- Self-forgiveness and compassion bring inner peace.
- Serenity comes from being at ease with imperfection, letting go of judgments and accepting things the way they are.
Type 2: The Giver
Givers believe you must give fully to others to be loved. Consequently, Givers are caring, helpful, supportive and relationship-oriented; they also can be prideful, intrusive and demanding
Focus of attention: Others needs, feelings and desires.
Life lesson: To develop the humility that comes from allowing yourself to be loved without being needed and to have needs of your own.
What Type Twos tell us about themselves:
- I am preoccupied with the needs of others.
- I take pride in giving and helping.
- I sometimes feel that people take advantage of me.
- I have a hard time expressing my own needs.
- I can be manipulative and alter how I present myself to others.
Relating to Twos:
- Step forward to make contact; offer approval or appreciation when possible.
- Stay constant and provide steadiness, paying a’ en%on to their needs.
- Join them in valuing warmth, personal contact and partnership.
- Avoid being critical or not taking them seriously.
- Head off outbursts by addressing their dissatisfaction or resentment.
For Twos, take a moment to reflect on the following principles:
- Love does not come from giving and getting – it is found in oneself.
- Allowing others to give to us is a gift to them.
- At first, separateness can feel like loss or pain.
- We are all responsible for ourselves.
- Joy can be found in others well-being and happiness, ‘ separate from what we do for them.
Type 3: The Performer
Performers believe you must accomplish and succeed to be loved. Consequently, Performers are industrious, fast-paced, efficient and goal-oriented; they also can be inattentive to feelings, impatient and image-driven.
Focus of attention: Tasks, goals and recognition for accomplishments
Life lesson: To reclaim the truth that love comes to you because of who you are, not because of what you do.
What Type Threes tell us about themselves:
- I identify with accomplishment and success.
- My image drives my need to work hard and look good.
- I seek approval and acceptance based on performance.
- I am highly competitive and love winning.
- I feel constant pressure to perform.
Relating to Threes:
- Let them know that you care regardless of their accomplishments.
- Encourage them to pay a’ en%on to feelings.
- Show and tell them what is really important to you.
- Express your appreciation for what they do.
- Join them in being active, getting results and earning recognition.
For Threes, take a moment to reflect on the following principles:
- Our innate value does not depend on how others see us.
- Feelings are a natural part of life.
- Love comes from being as well as from doing.
- Failures can be opportunities for learning and growth.
- Everything is not dependent on our efforts – when we slow down and let things be, we can be truly present for ourselves and others.
Type 4: The Romantic
Romantics believe you can regain the lost ideal love or perfect state by finding the love or situation that is unique, special and fulfilling. Consequently, Romantics are idealistic, deeply feeling, empathetic and authentic; they also can be dramatic, moody and sometimes self-absorbed.
Focus of attention: What is missing.
Life lesson: To reclaim wholeness in the present moment by appreciating what is here and now, feeling the experience in their bodies rather than over-indulging in the story of what s happening, and accepting yourself as you are without needing to be special or unique.
What Type Fours tell us about themselves:
- I long for what s missing, distant or unattainable – the ordinary pales in comparison.
- My deep sense of abandonment translates into a belief that I will never be fulfilled.
- I envy and idealize what others have that I don t.’
- Authenticity and meaningful experiences are essential to me.
- My suffering sets me apart from others.
Relating to Fours:
- Appreciate their emotional sensitivity, creativity and idealism.
- Reveal your own feelings and reactions; avoid being overly rational.
- When they are upset, don t take everything they say too ‘ literally since they may be expressing a momentary feeling.
- Return to the present and be positive while acknowledging their experience of what is missing.
- Seek to understand and empathize without necessarily agreeing.
For Fours, take a moment to reflect on the following principles:
- Wholeness already exists, here in the present moment.
- Emotional intensity isn t necessary for emotional fulfillment.
- One’s value is inherent ‘ – it does not come from being special.
- When we focus on what s missing, we miss out on ‘ appreciating what we have.
- Cultivating the happiness of others helps us overcome envy and longing.
Type 5: The Observer
Observers believe they must protect themselves from a world that demands too much and gives too little. Consequently, Observers seek self-sufficiency and are non-demanding, analytic, thoughtful and unobtrusive; they also can be withholding, detached and overly private.
Focus of attention: Intellectual understanding, accumulating knowledge, and potential intrusions from others agendas, needs and feelings.
Life lesson: To reconnect to the vitality of your life force and your heartfelt feelings, realizing that ample energy and resources are available.
What Type Fives tell us about themselves:
- I have a strong need for privacy.
- I limit intrusion from a world that wants too much from me.
- I hoard time, space, energy, knowledge and myself.
- I detach from feelings and observe rather than participate.
- I am a minimalist.
Relating to Fives:
- Respect their need for privacy (understanding this is not rejection).
- Make it safe for them to share themselves, especially their feelings, giving them the space needed to do so.
- Approach them slowly and thoughtfully, and avoid pressuring them for immediate contact or fast decisions.
- Join them in talking about ideas and valuing the inner life.
- Don’t make assumptions about what s going on with them.
- Ask them for direct communication.
For Fives, take a moment to reflect on the following principles:
- Letting go of attachment relieves suffering.
- A rich life means embracing the full range of human experience.
- Being present and engaged with others expands our available resources.
- Generosity includes receiving as well as giving.
- Knowledge is more than gathering facts and ideas; true wisdom comes from within.
Type 6: Loyal Skeptic
Loyal Skeptics believe you must gain certainty and security in a hazardous world that you just can t trust. Consequently, Loyal Skeptics are intuitive, inquisitive, trustworthy, good friends and problem-solvers, but also can be doubtful, accusatory and fearful.
Focus of attention: What could go wrong, worst-case scenarios and how to deal with them.
Life lesson: To reclaim trust in yourself, others and the world, and live comfortably with uncertainty.
- What Type Sixes tell us about themselves:
- I am preoccupied with safety and security concerns.
- I greet everything with a doubting mind and contrary thinking.
- My vigilance, active imagination and intuition help me anticipate and avoid problems.
- I question authority and people un%l they gain my trust.
- I procrastinate because I fear making the wrong decision.
Relating to Sixes:
- Be consistent and trustworthy.
- Disclose your own personal feelings and thoughts.
- Appreciate their attention to problems; agree on rules and procedures.
- Join them in acknowledging what can go wrong before moving ahead.
- Put your cards on the table as much as possible – don t be ambiguous.
For Sixes, take a moment to reflect on the following principles:
- Insecurity is part of life.
- Flight, fight and freezing are all reactions to fear.
- Courage is not the absence of fear; it is moving ahead in spite of it.
- When we relax our vigilance and stay in the present moment, we notice that everything is ok.
- When we cultivate faith rather than seeking certainty, we begin to trust in the process of life.
Type 7: The Epicure
Epicures believe you must stay upbeat and keep your possibilities open to assure a good life. Consequently, Epicures seek pleasurable options and are optimistic and adventurous; they also avoid pain, and can be uncommitted and self-serving.
Focus of attention: Multiple options and idealized future plans.
Life lesson: To reclaim and accept all of life, the pleasures and the pains, in the present moment
What Type Sevens tell us about themselves:
- Life is an adventure!
- I seek pleasure and have an insatiable appetite for new experiences.
- I am optimistic, active and energetic.
- I see multiple options, but have difficulty with commitment.
- I do not like limits and avoid boredom.
Relating to Sevens:
- Join them in having fun and envisioning new possibilities.
- Appreciate their stories and positive ideas.
- Let them know what you want or need from them.
- Support them to move into painful situations and commitments.
- Listen to their suggestions and avoid insisting on one way of doing things.
For Sevens, take a moment to reflect on the following principles:
- Uncomfortable or “negative” emotions are an integral, valuable and unavoidable part of being human.
- Noticing hunger for stimulation and gratification is a reminder to return to the present.
- When we stay on the surface, we miss the depth of experience and pleasure.
- Feedback and criticism are opportunities for learning and growth.
- There is a difference between a real feeling and the idea of a feeling.
Type 8: The Protector
Protectors believe you must be strong and powerful to assure protection and regard in a tough world. Consequently, Protectors seek justice and are direct, strong and action-oriented; they also can be overly impactful, excessive and impulsive.
Focus of attention: Injustice, not being controlled by others, and getting things moving in work or play.
Life lesson: To harness the life force in productive ways, integrating self-assertion with vulnerability.
What Type Eights tell us about themselves:
- I thrive on having lots of energy in my body and enthusiasm for life.
- I am strong and protect the weak.
- I am direct, willing to confront when the need arises, and express my anger immediately.
- People see me as aggressive, intimidating, intense and impulsive.
- I have trouble staying with my own vulnerability and sad feelings.
- I have a strong sense of knowing what is fair or right in my body center.
Relating to Eights:
- Be direct and forthright, yet flexible and open.
- Stay steady and present in the face of confrontation and conflict; hold your ground.
- Call them on destructive or threatening behavior, while being empathetic to their underlying hurt feelings.
- Express your own feelings, including softer, tender ones. Join them in getting things moving in work or play.
For Eights, take a moment to reflect on the following principles:
- Truth resides in opposites and differences.
- True mastery includes non-action and no blame.
- The mundane, the moderate and the mild have their own virtues.
- Vulnerability is not the same as weakness.
- True power comes from the appropriate or proportional application of force.
Type 9: The Mediator
Mediators believe that to be loved and valued, you must blend in and go with the flow. Consequently, Mediators seek harmony and are inclusive, amiable, easygoing, comfortable and steady; they also can be self-forgetting, conflict-avoidant and stubborn.
Focus of attention: Other people s agendas and the external environment.
Life lesson: To reclaim yourself and wake up to personal priorities.
What Type Nines tell us about themselves:
- As a harmonizer, I can see all sides to every issue.
- I avoid conflict and want a comfortable solution.
- I have difficulty saying “no” and can get resentful later for agreeing to something I don t want to do. ‘
- I am ambivalent or unsure about my own needs and wants.
- It’s much easier to go along with others than to rock the boat.
Relating to Nines:
- Ask them what they want and need, and give them time to discern the answer.
- Avoid coming on too strong, getting impatient or creating pressure.
- If you sense they are reluctant or unsure about something they said “yes” to or agreed to do, let them know that it s ok to say ‘ “no.”
- Encourage them to determine their priorities and support them to take action
- Stay present to them when they are angry.
- Share body-based activities such as walking, exercising, cooking or eating.
For Nines, take a moment to reflect on the following principles:
- Right action comes from valuing ourselves as we value others.
- Knowing what we don t want can help us know what we do ‘ want.
- Self-worth is self-defined; it comes from within.
- Every complaint contains a hidden want, wish, need or desire.
- Conflict is an unavoidable part of being human.
*Results adapted from First Presbyterian Church Lancaster
Part 2: The Enneagram Test Questions + Logic
I’ve been romantic and imaginative (4)
I’ve been pragmatic and down to earth (6)
I have tended to take on confrontations (8)
I have tended to avoid confrontations (9)
I have typically been diplomatic, charming and ambitious (3)
I have typically been direct, formal and idealistic (1)
I have tended to be focused and intense (5)
I have tended to be spontaneous and fun-loving (7)
I have been a hospitable person and have enjoyed welcoming others into my life (2)
I have been a private person and have not mixed much with others (4)
It’s been difficult for me to relax and stop worrying about potential problems (6)
It’s been difficult for me to get worked up about potential problems (9)
I’ve been more of a “street-smart” survivor (8)
I’ve been more of a “high-minded” idealist (1)
I have needed to show affection to people (2)
I have preferred to maintain distance with people (5)
When presented with a new experience, I’ve usually asked myself if it would be useful to me (3)
When presented with a new experience, I’ve usually asked myself if it would be enjoyable (8)
I have tended to focus too much on myself (4)
I have tended to focus too much on others (9)
Others have depended on my insight and knowledge (6)
Others have depended on my strength and decisiveness (1)
I have come across as being too unsure of myself (6)
I have come across as being too sure of myself (1)
I have been more relationship-oriented than goal-oriented (2)
I have been more goal-oriented than relationship-oriented (3)
I have not been able to speak up for myself very well (4)
I have been outspoken – I’ve said what others wish they had the nerve to say (9)
It’s been difficult for me to stop considering alternatives and do something definite (5)
It’s been difficult for me to take it easy and be flexible (1)
I have tended to be careful and hesitant (6)
I have tended to be bold and domineering (2)
My reluctance to get too involved has gotten me in trouble with people (9)
My eagerness to have people depend on me has gotten me in trouble with them (2)
Usually, I have been able to put my feelings aside to get the job done (3)
Usually, I have needed to work through my feelings before I act out (4)
Generally, I have been methodical and cautious (6)
Generally, I have been adventurous and take risks (7)
I have tended to be a supportive, giving person who seeks intimacy with others (2)
I have tended to be a serious, reserved person who likes discussing issues (1)
I’ve often felt the need to be a “pillar of strength” (8)
I’ve often felt the need to perform perfectly (3)
I’ve typically been interested in asking the tough questions and maintaining my space (5)
I’ve typically been interested in maintaining my stability and peace of mind (9)
I’ve been a bit cynical and skeptical (6)
I’ve been a bit mushy and sentimental (2)
I’ve often worried that I’m missing out on something better (7)
I’ve often worried that if I let my guard down, someone will take advantage of me (8)
My habit of being “sand-offish” has annoyed people (4)
My habit of telling people what to do has annoyed people (1)
I have tended to get anxious if there was too much excitement and stimulation (9)
I have tended to get anxious if there wasn’t enough excitement or stimulation (7)
I have depended on my friends and they know that they can depend on me (6)
I have not depended on people; I have done things on my own (3)
I have tended to be detached and preoccupied
I have tended to be moody and self-absorbed
I have liked to challenge people and “shake them up” (2)
I have liked to comfort people and calm them down (8)
I have generally been an outgoing, sociable person (7)
I have generally been an earnest, self-disciplined person (1)
I’ve wanted to “fit in” with others – I get uncomfortable when I stand out too much (9)
I’ve wanted to stand out from others – I get uncomfortable when I don’t distinguish myself (3)
Pursuing my personal interests has been more important to me than having stability and security (5)
Having stability and security has been more important to me than pursuing my personal interests (6)
When I’ve had conflicts with others, I’ve tended to withdraw (4)
When I’ve had conflicts with others, I’ve rarely backed down (8)
I have given in too easily and let others push me around (9)
I have been too uncompromising and demanding with others (1)
I’ve been appreciated for my unsinkable spirit and resourcefulness (7)
I’ve been appreciated for my deep caring and personal warmth (2)
I have wanted to make a favorable impression on others (3)
I have cared little about making a favorable impression on others (5)
I’ve depended on my perseverance and common sense (6)
I’ve depended on my imagination and moments of inspiration (4)
Basically, I have been easygoing and agreeable (9)
Basically, I have been hard-driving and assertive (8)
I have worked hard to be accepted and well-liked (3)
Being accepted and well-liked has not been a priority for me (1)
In reaction to pressure from others, I have become more withdrawn (5)
In reaction to pressure from others, I have become more assertive (7)
People have been interested in me because I’ve been outgoing, engaging, and interested in them (2)
People have been interested in me because I’m quiet, unusual, and deep (4)
Duty and responsibility have been important values for me (6)
Harmony and acceptance have been important values for me (9)
I’ve tried to motivate people by making big plans and big promises (8)
I’ve tried to motivate people by pointing out the consequences of not following my advice (1)
I have seldom been emotionally demonstrative (5)
I have often been emotionally demonstrative (2)
Dealing with details has not been one of my strong suits (7)
I have excelled at dealing with details (3)
I have often emphasized how different I am from most people, especially my family (4)
I have often emphasized how much I have in common with people, especially my family (9)
When situations have gotten heated, I have tended to stay on the sidelines (5)
When situations have gotten heated, I’ve tended to get right in the middle of things (8)
I have stood by my friends, even when they have been wrong (6)
I have not wanted to compromise what is right, even for friendship (1)
I’ve been a well-meaning supporter (2)
I’ve been a highly-motivated go-getter (3)
When troubled, I have tended to brood about my problems (2)
When troubled, I have tended to find distractions for myself (7)
Generally, I’ve had strong convictions and a sense of how things should be (1)
Generally, I’ve had serious doubts and have questioned how things seemed to be (5)
I’ve created problems with others by being pessimistic and complaining (6)
I’ve created problems with others by being bossy and controlling (8)
I have tended to act on my feelings and let the “chips fall where they may” (2)
I have not tended to act on my feelings lest they stir up more problems (9)
Being the center of attention has usually felt natural to me (3)
Being the center of attention has usually felt strange to me (4)
I’ve been careful, and tried to prepare for unforeseen problems (6)
I’ve been spontaneous, and have preferred to improvise as problems come up (7)
I have gotten angry when others have not shown enough appreciation for what I have done for them (2)
I have gotten angry when others have not listened to what I have told them (1)
Being independent and self-reliant has been important to me (8)
Being valued and admired has been important to me (3)
When I’ve debated with friends, I’ve tended to press my arguments forcefully (5)
When I’ve debated with friends, I’ve tended to let things go to prevent hard feelings (9)
I have often been possessive of loved ones – I have had trouble letting them be (2)
I have often “tested” loved ones to see if they were really there for me (6)
Organizing resources and making things happen has been one of my major strengths (8)
Coming up with new ideas and getting people excited about them has been one of my major strengths (7)
I’ve tended to be driven and very hard on myself (1)
I’ve tended to be too emotional and rather undisciplined (4)
I have tried to keep my life fast-paced, intense and exciting (7)
I have tried to keep my life regular, stable, and peaceful (9)
Even though I’ve had successes, I’ve tended to doubt my abilities (6)
Even though I’ve had setbacks, I’ve had a lot of confidence in my abilities (3)
I have generally tended to dwell on my feelings and to hold onto them for a while (4)
I generally have tended to minimize my feelings and not pay very much attention to them (5)
I have provided many people with attention and nurturance (2)
I have provided many people with direction and motivation (8)
I’ve been a bit serious and strict with myself (1)
I’ve been a bit free-wheeling and permissive with myself (7)
I’ve been self-assertive and driven to excel (3)
I’ve been modest and happy to go at my own pace (9)
I have been proud of my clarity and objectivity (5)
I have been proud of my reliability and commitment (6)
I have spent a lot of time looking inward – understanding my feelings has been important to me (2)
I have not spent much time looking inward – getting things done has been important to me (8)
Generally, I have thought of myself as a sunny, casual person (9)
Generally, I have thought of myself as a serious, dignified person (1)
I’ve had an agile mind and boundless energy (7)
I’ve had a caring heart and deep dedication (2)
I have pursued activities that had a substantial potential for reward and personal recognition (3)
I have been willing to give up reward and personal recognition if it meant doing work I was really interested in (5)
Fulfilling social obligations has seldom been high on my agenda (5)
I have usually taken my social obligations very seriously (6)
In most situations, I have preferred to take the lead (8)
In most situations, I have preferred to let someone else take the lead (9)
Over the years, my values and lifestyle have changed several times (3)
Over the years, my values and lifestyle have stayed fairly consistent (1)
Typically, I have not had much self-discipline (7)
Typically, I have not had much connection with people (5)
I have tended to withhold my affection, and have wanted others to come into my world (4)
I have tended to give my affection to freely, and have wanted to extend myself to others (2)
I have a tendency to think of worst-case scenarios (6)
I have a tendency to think that everything will work out for the best (9)
People have trusted me because I am confident and can look out for them (8)
People have trusted me because I am fair and will what is right (1)
Often, I have been so involved in my own projects that I have become isolated from others (5)
Often, I have been so involved with others that I have neglected my own projects (2)
When meeting someone new, I have usually been poised and self-contained (3)
When meeting someone new, I have usually been chatty and entertaining (7)
Generally speaking, I have tended to be pessimistic (4)
Generally speaking, I have tended to be optimistic (9)
I have preferred to inhabit my own little world (5)
I have preferred to let the world know I am here (8)
I have often been troubled by nervousness, insecurity, and doubt (6)
I have often been troubled by anger, perfectionism, and impatience (1)
I realize that I have often been too personal and intimate (2)
I realize that I have often been to cool and aloof (3)
I have lost out because I have not felt up to taking opportunities (4)
I have lost out because I have pursued too many possibilities (7)
I have tended to take a long time to get into action (5)
I have tended to get into action too quickly (1)
I usually have had difficulty making decisions (6)
I seldom have had difficulty making decisions (8)
I have a tendency to come on a little too strong with people (2)
I have a tendency not to assert myself enough with people (9)
Typically, I have been even-tempered (3)
Typically, I have strong changes of mood (4)
When I’ve been unsure of what to do, I’ve often sought the advice of others (6)
When I’ve bee unsure of what to do, I’ve often tried different things to see what works best for me (7)
I have worried that I would be left out of others’ activities (2)
I have worried that others’ activities would distract me from what I need to do (1)
Typically, when I have gotten angry, I have told people off (8)
Typically, when I have gotten angry, I have become distant (3)
I’ve tended to have trouble falling asleep (5)
I’ve tended to fall asleep easily (9)
I have often tried to figure out how I could get closer to others (2)
I have often tried to figure out what others want from me (6)
I have usually been measured, straight-talking, and deliberate (8)
I have usually been excitable, fast-talking, and witty (7)
Often, I have not spoken up when I’ve seen others making a mistake (4)
Often, I have helped others see that they are making a mistake (1)
During most of my life, I have been stormy person who has had many volatile feelings (7)
During most of my life, I have been a steady person in whom “still waters run deep” (9)
When I have disliked people, I have usually tried hard to stay cordial – despite my feelings (3)
When I have disliked people, I have usually let them know – one way or another (6)
Much of my difficulty with people has come from my touchiness and taking everything too personally (4)
Much of my difficulty with people has come from my not caring about social conventions (5)
My approach has been to jump in and rescue people (2)
My approach has been to show people how to help themselves (8)
Generally, I have enjoyed “letting go” and pushing the limits (7)
Generally, I have not enjoyed losing control of myself very much (1)
I’ve been overly concerned with doing better than others (3)
I’ve been overly concerned with making things okay for others (9)
My thoughts have generally been speculative – involving my imagination and curiosity (5)
My thoughts have generally been practical – just trying to keep things going (6)
One of my main assets has been my ability to take charge of situations (8)
One of my main assets has been my ability to describe internal states (4)
I have pushed to get things done correctly, even if it made people uncomfortable (1)
I have not liked feeling pressured, so I have not liked pressuring anyone else (9)
I’ve often taken pride in how important I am in others’ lives (2)
I have often taken pride in my gusto and openness to new experiences (7)
I have perceived that I have come across to others as presentable, even admirable (3)
I have perceived that I come across to others as unusual, even odd (5)
I have mostly done what I had to do (6)
I have mostly done what I wanted to do (4)
I have usually enjoyed high-pressure, even difficult, situations (8)
I have usually disliked being in high-pressure, even difficult, situations (9)
I’ve been proud of my ability to be flexible – what’s appropriate or important often changes (3)
I’ve been proud of my ability to take stand – I’ve been firm about what I believe in (1)
My style has leaned towards spareness and austerity (5)
My style has leaned toward excess and over-doing things (7)
My own health and well-being have suffered because of my strong desire to help others (2)
My relationships have suffered because of my strong desired to attend to personal needs (4)
Generally speaking, I’ve been too open and naive (9)
Generally speaking, I’ve been too wary and guarded (6)
I have sometimes put people off by being too aggressive (8)
I have sometimes put people off by being to “up tight” (1)
Being of service and attending to the needs of others has been a priority for me (2)
Finding alternative ways of seeing and doing things has been a priority for me (5)
I’ve been single-minded and persistent in pursuing my goals (3)
I’ve preferred to pursue various courses of action to see where they lead (7)
I have frequently been drawn to situations that stir up deep, intense emotions (4)
I have frequently been drawn to situations that make me feel calm and at ease (9)
I have cared less about practical results than about pursuing my interests (5)
I have been practical and have expected my work to have concrete results (8)
I have had a deep need to belong (6)
I have had a deep need to feel balanced (1)
In the past, I’ve probably insisted in too much closeness in my friendships (2)
In the past, I’ve probably kept too much distance in my friendships (3)
I’ve had a tendency to keep thinking about things from my past (4)
I’ve had a tendency to keep anticipating things I’m going to do (7)
I’ve tended to see people as intrusive and demanding (5)
I’ve tended to see people as disorganized and irresponsible (1)
Generally, I have not had much confidence in myself (6)
Generally, I have had confidence in only myself (8)
I’ve probably been too passive and uninvolved (9)
I’ve probably been to manipulative and controlling (2)
I’ve frequently been stopped in my tracks by my self-doubt (4)
I’ve rarely let self-doubt stand in my way (3)
Given the choice between something familiar and something new, I’ve usually chosen something new (7)
I’ve generally chosen things I like, why be disappointed by something new I might not like? (6)
I have given a lot of physical contact to reassure others about how I feel about them (2)
I have generally felt that real love does not depend on physical contact (1)
When I’ve needed to confront someone, I’ve often been too harsh and direct (8)
When I’ve needed to confront someone, I’ve often “beaten around the bush” too much (3)
I have been attracted to subjects that others would probably find disturbing, even frightening (5)
I have preferred to spend my time on subjects that are not disturbing or frightening (9)
I have gotten into trouble with people by being too intrusive and interfering (2)
I have gotten into trouble with people by being too evasive and uncommunicative (6)
I’ve worried that I don’t have the resources to fulfill the responsibilities I’ve taken on (8)
I’ve worried that I don’t have the self-discipline to focus on what will really fulfill me (7)
Generally, I’ve been a highly intuitive, individualistic person (4)
Generally, I’ve been a highly organized, responsible person (1)
Overcoming inertia has been one of my main problems (9)
Being unable to slow down has been one of my main problems (7)
When I’ve felt insecure, I’ve reacted by becoming arrogant and dismissive (3)
When I’ve felt insecure, I’ve reacted by becoming argumentative and defensive (6)
I have generally been open-minded and willing to try new approaches (5)
I have generally been self-revealing and willing to share my feelings with others (4)
I’ve presented myself to others as tougher than I really am (8)
I’ve presented myself to others as more caring than I really am (2)
I usually have followed my conscience and reason (1)
I usually have followed my feelings and impulses (7)
Serious adversity has made me feel hardened and resolute (3)
Serious adversity has made me feel discouraged and resigned (9)
I usually have made sure that I’ve had some sort of “safety net” to fall back in to (6)
I usually have chosen to live on the edge and to depend on as little as possible (5)
I’ve had to be strong for others, so I haven’t had time to deal with my own feelings and fears (8)
I’ve had difficulty coping with my own feelings and fears, so it’s been difficult to be strong for others (4)
I’ve often wondered why people focus on the negative when there’s so much that’s wonderful about life (9)
I have often wondered why people are so happy when so much in life is messed up (1)
I have tried hard not to be seen as a selfish person (2)
I have tried hard not to be seen as a boring person (7)
I have avoided intimacy when I feared I would be overwhelmed by people’s needs and demands (5)
I have avoided intimacy when I feared I would not be able to live up to people’s expectations of me (3)