How do you feel about making decisions that go against the majority opinion?
- I’m comfortable going against the grain if I believe I’m right.
- I sometimes do it, but it makes me a little uncomfortable.
- I try to avoid it unless it’s really important to me.
- I find it very difficult and often doubt myself.
What’s your favorite thing about being part of a group?
- The feeling of belonging and shared purpose
- The support and camaraderie
- The opportunity to learn from others
- The feeling of safety and security
What makes you nervous about social situations where you don’t know anyone?
- I worry about saying the wrong thing or not fitting in.
- It depends on the situation, but I generally feel a bit anxious.
- I’m usually fine once I get to know a few people.
- I actually enjoy meeting new people and don’t get nervous.
How prepared are you for a situation where you have to make a difficult decision under pressure from others?
- I’m quite prepared and trust my judgment even under pressure.
- It depends on the situation, but I’ve handled pressure before.
- I’d probably feel stressed and might second-guess myself.
- I’m not very prepared and worry about making the wrong choice.
What happens if you find yourself disagreeing with the majority opinion on a social or political issue?
- I voice my opinion, even if it’s unpopular.
- I might share my opinion with close friends but keep it to myself otherwise.
- I usually keep my opinions to myself unless asked directly.
- I often question my own beliefs when they differ from the majority.
What do you think you need to become more independent in your thinking and decision-making?
- I’m already quite independent, but I can always learn more.
- I could benefit from being more aware of my own biases.
- I need to develop more confidence in my own judgment.
- I need to spend less time worrying about what others think.
You have a choice of attending a large social gathering or spending a quiet evening at home. Which do you choose?
- I’d definitely choose the social gathering, I love being around people.
- I might go to the gathering, but it depends on my energy levels.
- I’d probably opt for a quiet evening at home, I find large gatherings draining.
- I’d definitely stay home, I cherish my alone time.
A specific situation arises where your friends are all engaging in behavior you find morally questionable. How do you react?
- I speak up and express my discomfort with their behavior.
- I might try to subtly steer them in a different direction.
- I’d probably stay quiet but feel uncomfortable about it.
- I might go along with it to avoid conflict.
How often do you find yourself questioning the beliefs and values you were raised with?
- Frequently, I enjoy examining my beliefs from different angles.
- Occasionally, certain experiences make me re-evaluate things.
- Rarely, my upbringing instilled strong values that I still hold.
- Never, I have no reason to question my beliefs.
How comfortable are you expressing an opinion that you know will be unpopular with your social group?
- Very comfortable, I don’t shy away from expressing my truth.
- Somewhat comfortable, I’ll do it if I feel strongly enough.
- Not very comfortable, I prefer to avoid conflict.
- Not at all comfortable, I don’t want to rock the boat.
What keeps you up at night about the future of society?
- The increasing polarization and division between people
- The spread of misinformation and the decline of critical thinking
- The growing gap between the rich and the poor
- Climate change and its potential impact on humanity
Which of these would you enjoy the most?
- Leading a team, I thrive in positions of authority.
- Working independently, I value my autonomy.
- Collaborating with a group, I enjoy bouncing ideas off others.
- Mentoring someone, I find it rewarding to help others grow.
When you think about your social circle, what are you most concerned about?
- Whether everyone feels included and valued
- Maintaining harmony and avoiding conflict
- Ensuring everyone is growing and learning together
- That I’m being a good friend and offering support
What aspect of being part of a community makes you the most happy?
- Working together towards a common goal
- The feeling of belonging and shared identity
- The opportunity to connect with people from diverse backgrounds
- The support system and sense of security
What is most likely to make you feel down about your social interactions?
- Conflict or disagreement within the group
- Feeling like an outsider or not fully belonging
- A lack of meaningful connection or shared values
- Gossiping or negativity within the group
In a perfect world, what would your social life look like?
- A large and diverse group of friends with whom I share common interests and values
- A close-knit circle of friends and family who love and support me unconditionally
- A balance of social interaction and alone time, allowing me to recharge and pursue my passions
- A life focused on personal growth and self-discovery, with meaningful connections along the way
If you could wave a magic wand, what would the perfect outcome be for humanity in regards to our social instincts?
- That we would embrace our differences and celebrate our shared humanity
- That we would prioritize cooperation and collaboration over competition
- That we would use our collective power to create a more just and sustainable world
- That we would find a balance between individual freedom and social responsibility
How often do you make an effort to connect with people from different backgrounds and cultures than your own?
- Regularly, I actively seek out these connections.
- Occasionally, when the opportunity arises.
- Rarely, I stick with people who are similar to me.
- Never, I don’t see the need to.
You are at a party where everyone is discussing a topic you know nothing about. What do you do?
- I listen intently and try to learn as much as I can.
- I might ask a few questions to try and follow along.
- I’d probably feel lost and try to blend in.
- I’d excuse myself and find someone else to talk to.
What’s your go-to activity when you need to recharge and de-stress?
- Spending time in nature
- Curling up with a good book
- Listening to music
- Catching up with friends
What social issue are you most passionate about?
- Social justice and equality
- Environmental protection
- Animal welfare
- Education and literacy
What’s your favorite memory of a time when you felt truly connected to a group of people?
- Volunteering for a cause I believe in
- Traveling with close friends
- Celebrating a special occasion with family
- Attending a concert or sporting event
How would your friends and family describe your role within your social group?
- The leader
- The peacemaker
- The listener
- The life of the party
Tell us a little about your comfort level with public speaking or performing in front of others.
- I love it! It’s exhilarating.
- It depends on the situation, but I can handle it.
- It makes me a bit nervous, but I can get through it.
- I avoid it at all costs.
If you could choose any animal to symbolize your social instincts, which one would you choose and why?
- A wolf, loyal and pack-oriented
- An elephant, empathetic and family-centered
- A bee, hardworking and community-minded
- A cat, independent and self-sufficient
What’s the first thing that comes to mind when you hear the word “conformity”?
- Suffocating
- Necessary
- Comforting
- Unimportant
What affects you more: Criticism from strangers or criticism from loved ones?
- Criticism from strangers doesn’t bother me; loved ones’ opinions matter more.
- They both affect me, but in different ways.
- Criticism from strangers bothers me more; it feels unfair.
- I don’t let criticism get to me, regardless of who it’s from.
What’s your idea of a perfect society?
- A society that values individual expression while promoting social responsibility
- A society that prioritizes cooperation and harmony over competition
- A society that celebrates diversity and embraces different perspectives
- A society that allows individuals to thrive while ensuring the well-being of all
What is your strongest quality when it comes to navigating social situations?
- Empathy
- Diplomacy
- Assertiveness
- Adaptability
How often do you consciously think about how your actions might be perceived by others?
- Frequently, I try to be mindful of my impact.
- Sometimes, depending on the situation.
- Rarely, I focus on being true to myself.
- Never, I don’t care what others think.
How confident are you in your ability to read social cues and understand unspoken communication?
- Very confident, I’m a natural at reading people.
- Fairly confident, I usually pick up on social cues.
- Somewhat confident, I can misinterpret things sometimes.
- Not very confident, I struggle with nonverbal communication.
How do you handle a situation where someone is spreading rumors or gossip about you?
- I confront them directly and defend myself.
- I might try to discreetly clear my name with others.
- I’d ignore it and hope it blows over.
- I’d likely feel hurt and withdraw from the situation.
Do you have a strong support system of friends and family?
- Yes, I’m lucky to have a fantastic support system.
- I have a few close friends and family members I can rely on.
- I have some people I’m close to, but I wouldn’t say it’s a strong support system.
- No, I mostly navigate life on my own.
How well do you stick to your convictions when faced with peer pressure?
- Very well, I stand by my beliefs.
- Fairly well, I try to stay true to myself.
- It depends on the situation and the pressure I’m under.
- Not very well, I can be easily swayed.
Which of the following is most accurate when it comes to your approach to conflict?
- I address it directly and try to find a resolution.
- I prefer to mediate and find common ground.
- I try to avoid conflict whenever possible.
- I tend to get defensive or withdraw.
To what degree do you experience FOMO (fear of missing out)?
- Rarely, I’m content with my own life.
- Occasionally, usually in specific situations.
- Fairly often, I like to stay connected and involved.
- Very often, I hate feeling left out.
Which of these best describes your current social life?
- Fulfilling and active
- Content and comfortable
- A bit quiet, but I’m working on it
- I’m feeling isolated and disconnected.
What is your current biggest challenge when it comes to social interactions?
- Balancing my need for connection with my desire for independence
- Overcoming shyness or social anxiety
- Setting healthy boundaries
- Dealing with difficult people
What’s the first thing that comes to mind when you feel excluded from a group or activity?
- “Their loss!”
- “I wonder what I did wrong?”
- “It’s probably for the best, I have other things to do.”
- “I knew this would happen.”
How do you handle rejection or social setbacks?
- I bounce back quickly and don’t take it personally.
- It affects me, but I try to learn from it and move on.
- It hurts my confidence and can take a while to get over.
- I tend to dwell on it and let it affect my self-esteem.
How would you describe your relationship to social media?
- I use it to connect with friends and stay informed.
- It’s a fun distraction, but I don’t take it too seriously.
- I have a love-hate relationship with it.
- I avoid it as much as possible.
Are you stuck in a pattern of seeking validation from others?
- Not really, I value my own opinion.
- Sometimes, I’m working on it.
- Often, it’s a hard habit to break.
- Yes, I rely heavily on external validation.
What would you say are your top struggles right now in maintaining healthy relationships?
- Setting boundaries and saying no
- Effectively communicating my needs
- Letting go of past hurts and resentments
- Trusting others and allowing myself to be vulnerable
What is your ultimate goal when it comes to your social life and connections?
- To build a strong community of like-minded individuals
- To cultivate deep and meaningful relationships
- To live a life filled with love, laughter, and connection
- To find a sense of belonging and acceptance
What do you think is missing in your quest to build deeper and more fulfilling relationships?
- Time and energy
- Vulnerability and authenticity
- Shared interests and values
- Opportunities for connection
What is your current level of expertise in recognizing and managing your own herd instincts?
- I’m very aware of my instincts and how they influence me.
- I’m learning more about myself all the time.
- I’ve never really thought about it before.
- I don’t believe in herd instinct; I make my own choices.
A scenario arises where a close friend asks you to lie for them to protect their reputation. How do you respond?
- I refuse, explaining that honesty is important to me.
- I try to find a way to support them without compromising my values.
- I’d likely feel torn but ultimately give in to their request.
- I wouldn’t hesitate to lie for a friend, loyalty comes first.
What word best describes the emotion you experience most often in social situations?
- Excitement
- Anxiety
- Contentment
- Boredom
Which of the following do you notice yourself worrying about on a day-to-day basis?
- Fitting in
- Being judged
- Saying the wrong thing
- None of the above
How confident and self-assured do you feel in your social interactions?
- Very confident and self-assured
- Mostly confident, with occasional moments of self-doubt
- I have my moments, but I often feel insecure
- I struggle with low self-esteem and social anxiety
How well do you balance your need for belonging with your desire for individuality?
- I’ve found a good balance between the two.
- I’m constantly working on finding the right equilibrium.
- I tend to prioritize belonging over individuality.
- I prioritize my independence above all else.
Which of the following is most likely to frustrate you?
- Cliques and exclusionary behavior
- Superficial conversations
- Disagreements that turn into arguments
- Gossip and negativity
What is the trickiest part about staying true to yourself while also being part of a group?
- Balancing your own needs with the needs of the group
- Dealing with peer pressure and dissenting opinions
- Knowing when to speak up and when to go with the flow
- Accepting that you can’t please everyone all the time
Do you struggle more with speaking your truth or with setting boundaries?
- Speaking my truth
- Setting boundaries
- I struggle with both equally
- I don’t struggle with either
Do you have a system in place, such as journaling or meditation, for self-reflection and understanding your emotional responses in social situations?
- Yes, I find self-reflection very helpful.
- I’ve tried it, but it’s not a consistent practice.
- I’ve been meaning to, but haven’t gotten around to it.
- No, I don’t see the need for it.