5.
#HEARTBREAKER: "I just broke up with someone and am here to heal my heart (and break yours)."
You got the #HEARTBREAKER PROFILE, which means...
You literally just broke the eff up with someone and are "trying to get back out there" after being off the market for months, years, or decades! 😵Which is great for you (the attempt, not the breakup), but is so, so dangerous + obvious to those of us trying to date you 🙅🙅♂️You're ALL. ABOUT. THAT DATING. LIFE which is so 🔥fire-fire-fire 🔥- you're open, curious, a little jaded, and ready to meet new peopleYou're not quite steady on your feet yet... because you don't 100% remember what it's like to be on your own - you're trying to "find you" and "do someone" at the same time 🏃
Everybody's chatted to a person, who when describing their recent life, says "I just got out of a ## year relationship. Just looking around."
WEE-OOO-WEE-OOH SIREN OF NON-COMMMITMENT.
I'm oversimplifying it, but there's definitely some red flags on your profile that you might want to make sure to tone down, because it's screaming that you haven't really been dating that much, that long, or that.... expertly?
(Not dating-dating, but dating around. Other people apart from 1 person who you've Netflixed and chilled with more times than you can count.)
Not that you need to have it all figured out right this moment, but people who are rebounding are tricky.
They're not sure of themselves, of their actions, or of the potential of others - both of their capability to love and to hurt.
So emotions are runnin' RAMPANT, y'all.
And sometimes that's hot and fiery.
But other times, it's a big old garbage wreck... literally on fire, careening off a cliff.
You obviously can't change your circumstances, but you cannnnn treat this as an opportunity.
Treat online dating as a new start.
Yes, a lot of your photos will be with your ex.
Yes, so will your memories.
But those memories created a new YOU.
Take what you've got, and move forward with it in a new way (without mentioning what you hate, why you're here, and why you're lonely).
This takes courage, vulnerability, and a fresh set of eyes to see the world with.
But there ain't nothin' better than a person that's open to newness. And you're PRIMED for that, baby.