How are you co-creating?

Quiz Questions

• 1.
  Who is "right" in your relationship?

  • A.
     I am, though sometimes my partner has a good point and I do let them know that.
  • B.
    I am. And I make sure my partner knows that at every possible opportunity.
  • C.
    I am, and my partner thinks so too.
  • D.
    We are both quick to take responsibility in an argument, and to give credit where it's due. 
• 2.
  What does your bedtime ritual consist of?

  • A.
    Each person shares the high point of their day, the low point of their day, and two things they are grateful for.
  • B.
    We usually just talk in bed. It starts off as talking about our days, but often ends up being about something more serious like the relationship, which keeps us up late and often leads to going to sleep feeling slightly uneasy.
  • C.
     Most nights we go to sleep at different times, or get in bed and finish up a few things on our phones before we turn the lights out.
  • D.
    We have sex pretty much every night that we are in the same place.
• 3.
  How do you both feel about your individual sense of purpose in life? 

  • A.
     I know I'm not there yet, and neither is my significant other. We're both feeling stuck in our current jobs and having a hard time either understanding what we should be doing, or making that switch.
  • B.
    We are both pursuing our passions in life, or we have at least identified what that is and have created the path to get there. 
  • C.
    We talk about this sometimes, but the relationship itself feels more alive than our jobs and careers at the moment.
  • D.
    One of us is totally fulfilling our purpose in life, and the other one is still in that "stuck place".
• 4.
  How do the concept of love languages play a role in your relationship?

  • A.
    We took the love language quiz once. I don't really feel like that quiz got us anywhere.
  • B.
    My love language is quality time, and his/hers is acts of service. We have a goal of doing one thing to fulfill the other's love language each week, and we check in on it regularly.
  • C.
    Love languages? Love is so abundant between us, we practically read each others' minds.
  • D.
    It feels difficult enough to keep up with work and plans, do we really need more languages?
• 5.
  When an argument happens, which negative emotions are expressed in your relationship?

  • A.
    We tend to hide them from each other.
  • B.
    Not many negative emotions yet.
  • C.
    Anger, blame, hatred, frustration, numbness, shutdown.
  • D.
    Fear, shame, sadness, disappointment, helplessness.
• 6.
  What do you do with resentment towards your significant other? 

  • A.
    Clear that shit asap. We might be on a plane, at a wedding, or at Trader Joes. It's never a bad time to clear that ugly feeling and give it space to move. 
  • B.
     I have only felt resentment towards him/her in very small doses, but never enough for it to be a "thing".
  • C.
    I wait until a good time to bring it up. Sometimes that good time doesn't come for another week or two. Sometimes a month.
  • D.
    I keep it bottled up inside, and then dump it on friends at our next ladies brunch/guys night out.
• 7.
    When was the last time you asked your significant other what they like in the bedroom?

  • A.
    We send each other articles, and sometimes it comes up in conversations with friends, but the last time either of us asked directly was about 6 months ago.
  • B.
    On our fourth date (which was more than a year ago).
  • C.
    We have so much sex, this comes up constantly.
  • D.
    A few weeks ago. We practice active giving and receiving pretty frequently in our relationship and in the bedroom 
• 8.
    How well do you feel you know your significant other?

  • A.
    We are attached at the hip, always staring into each other's eyes and reaching new depths of understanding.
  • B.
    I understand the evolution of my partner, and I see the daily shifts they are making to hone certain aspects of the self and also to grow.
  • C.
    We are at the point where we learn new things about each other all the time but in uncomfortable ways. These new learnings often cause us to question the relationship.
  • D.
    I have this uneasy feeling that my significant other is not sharing everything about themselves with me...almost like keeping a piece of themselves separate.

Quiz Outcomes

• 1.
  Lovebirds

  Hello, love train! Your relationship still feels somewhat new. Maybe you still live in different cities. Conversations are long and intense and deep, and you just want to share everything about yourself with this other person. There's not enough closeness in the world to satisfy you. Sex flows easily, and any bumps in the road are smoothed over pretty quickly (likely ending in more sex). You are on a fast track to love. Or, maybe you're on a fast track to life partnership. You're wondering how to go even deeper so you can determine whether this is 'the one'. Keep your eyes on your inbox for my 7-day intimacy challenge, an absolute must for lovebirds like you who want to grow into long term partnership, and click below to schedule your free call.
• 2.
  Plateau

  "Challenge" "questioning" "just okay" and even "on the rocks" are words that may come to mind when you think about your relationship. Well, over 50% of couples are in the same boat. Perhaps you've passed the "honeymoon phase" and things feel a little different, but you're holding on because you know how good things once were, but you can't figure out how to get back to that place. Roadblocks may be showing up in any or all of the following realms: the bedroom, basic communication, conversations about the future, and fun & play. I see you, and I know how easy it is to feel so far away from the person we love most. You are not alone. The best thing you can do for your relationship is come together and reconnect through a project that's focused on your love. Sound like a lot of work? Good news- a 7-day intimacy challenge will be delivered to your inbox soon. I've laid out a step by step daily guide, so all you have to do is follow my lead and you'll start feeling that closeness again. Does 7 days of intimacy sound impossible? If it does, don't worry. Of all relationship types, yours would benefit the most from a little extra support. If you want to explore what this can look like, click below to schedule a free discovery call with me now.
• 3.
  Exploring

  Congrats to you on your curiosity for "something more" in your relationship. Somewhere along the road, you've peeked the possibility of something really exciting for you and your partner. You just aren't quite sure how to get it, in a way that sticks. Maybe you've tried meditating, or you've read up on tantra, but you don't really know how to incorporate any of it into your life. Perhaps you've scratched the surface of real intimacy but it only happens 'sometimes'. You've got conscious partnership training wheels on, and it's time to seek out the next level. The best thing you can do for your budding conscious relationship is come together and grow through a project that's focused on your love. Sound exciting, but you're wondering how to even start? Good news- A 7-day partner intimacy challenge will be delivered to your inbox soon. I've laid out a step by step daily guide, so all you have to do is follow my lead and you'll start feeling the closeness you're seeking. Does this sound exciting but a bit overwhelming? Of all relationship types, yours would benefit the most from a little extra support. If you want to explore what this can look like, click below to schedule a free discovery call with me now.
• 4.
  Launching

  Bravo. You are more than a few steps in to the direction of creating a conscious container for your relationship. You have practiced intimacy, in and out of the bedroom. You have allowed yourselves to be vulnerable and you're still standing. You're ready to take this further and to call it a lifestyle. So how do you go to new levels of depth and create an unshakable conscious foundation? The best thing you can do is continue to learn new tools and practices and to create consistency in your relationship. Keep an eye open for my 7- day intimacy challenge in your inbox. This is the perfect way to cultivate more consciousness in your day to day relationship. You'll feel the deepening between you in just a week. Loving the sound of this? Of all relationship types, yours is truly primed to take off, with a little extra support. If you want to explore what this can look like, click below to schedule a free discovery call with me now.