Is Your Partner Right For You?

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Quiz Questions

1.
Would I want to spend the rest of my life with this person exactly as they are?
- A.
  Yes
- B.
  No
2.
Would I want this person to raise my child?
- A.
  Yes
- B.
  No
3.
Would I want my child to be exactly like this person?
- A.
  Yes
- B.
  No
4.
Do I want to rescue or “help” them because I see their potential?
- A.
  No
- B.
  Yes
5.
. I love the way they look or their status and it buildsmy self-esteem to be with them.
- A.
  No
- B.
  Yes
6.
We have some things in common and so I’m avoiding looking at glaring differences.
- A.
  No
- B.
  Yes
7.
My partner appears to be better than people I’ve dated in the past.
- A.
  True
- B.
  False
8.
I’m focusing on one important quality (money, sex,fun, humor, etc) and ignoring unmet requirements.
- A.
  True
- B.
  False
9.
My partner reacts to frustration with anger, rage or blame.
- A.
  True
- B.
  Fals
10.
My partner blames others or circumstances for life situation
- A.
  True
- B.
  False
11.
My partner tries to control everything, including me
- A.
  True
- B.
  False
12.
My partner is immature, impulsive, and/or irresponsible
- A.
  True
- B.
  False
13.
My partner is emotionally distant or void, aloof
- A.
  True
- B.
  False
14.
My partner is still pining for a past relationship
- A.
  True
- B.
  False
15.
My partner wants me to make their sad life better
- A.
  True
- B.
  False
16.
My partner is married or otherwise unavailable to commit to me
- A.
  True
- B.
  False
17.
My partner has an active addiction, addictive behavior (rationalized as “not a problem”)
- A.
  True
- B.
  False
18.
My partner is pessimistic and negative about things that matter to me
- A.
  True
- B.
  False
19.
My partner lacks integrity in dealing with people, money, etc.
- A.
  True
- B.
  False
20.
My partner has a judgmental attitude toward themselves & others
- A.
  True
- B.
  False
21.
My partner is unwilling to self-examine, accept feedback, take responsibility
- A.
  True
- B.
  False
22.
My partner doesn’t keep agreements
- A.
  True
- B.
  False
23.
What they say about themself doesn’t match reality
- A.
  True
- B.
  False
24.
Life with my partner is an emotional roller coaster, recurring or regular emotional drama
- A.
  True
- B.
  False
25.
This isn’t what I really want, but I don’t want to be alone
- A.
  True
- B.
  False
26.
My partner has changeable, inconsistent behavior
- A.
  True
- B.
  False
27.
My partner has the inability to listen
- A.
  True
- B.
  False
28.
I notice myself trying to change this person to fit what I want, instead of accepting them for who they are
- A.
  True
- B.
  False
29.
My partner talks too much (especially about self), monopolizes conversation
- A.
  True
- B.
  False
30.
My partner is overly quiet, withdrawn
- A.
  True
- B.
  False

Quiz Outcomes

1.
Not Yet
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This relationship seems to have many red flags and may not be the best one to go forward with without much help. If you need help with ending this relationship seek the help of a family member, friend, therapist or a coach.
2.
This relationship could have potential
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There a many things about this relationship that are working and just a few that are not. This might be the time to communicate and negotiate around what is not working. If you need help with this seek out the help of a family member, friend, therapist or a coach.
3.
You're Ready!
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Congratulations! It looks like you're ready to start taking steps towards a future with this person. You might want to start having those conversations with your partner.