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Zen Jen/Ben
You have found a way to be relatively fulfilled by your life and your own existence, but that doesn’t mean you’re perfect (sorry). Even though you typically handle things with the emotional adjustment of a Buddhist monk, you can still be your own worst enemy when it comes to other people. You handle stress like a champ, but you sometimes forget that other people…don’t. You can ask too much of people, or fail to take their emotions into account, or when you do, you might come off as condescending, like they simply haven’t achieved your zen mindset yet, and are less than you because of it. The hardest part of emerging adulthood for you is probably your interpersonal interactions.
Some words of comfort: Despite these challenges, you have a huge advantage in your corner: your inner comfort. You know yourself, you’re confident in yourself (usually), and you know how to keep yourself sane when things go wrong. This is the first step to dealing with problems successfully, so good on you!
Words of wisdom: When people talk about their problems, ask them how they feel, how they’re coping, what else in their life might be making it harder to deal with whatever is going on. Don’t offer advice, not unless they ask. This is all about getting to know people and their emotional motivations and being sensitive to that rather than trying to “fix” people to be more like you.
