INSTRUCTIONS• Gift yourself 10min of uninterrupted reflection time• Answer as swiftly as possible with your intuitive body• Answer as the current you (not as wounded past nor desired future)• Write down your result before exiting your browser
Overly naïve, trusting, and disclosing of intimate details before others have earned my trust, thus attracting narcissists, sociopaths and/or con artists who take advantage of my openness.
A.
Strongly Disagree
B.
Disagree
C.
Neutral
D.
Agree
E.
Strongly Agree
2.
Enmesh too quickly in intimate relationships, without taking time to know others or set wholesome boundaries.
A.
Strongly Disagree
B.
Disagree
C.
Neutral
D.
Agree
E.
Strongly Agree
3.
Carry a constant and inexplicable fear that I’ll hurt others, that I’m unsafe to be around.
A.
Strongly Disagree
B.
Disagree
C.
Neutral
D.
Agree
E.
Strongly Agree
4.
Suffer from hyper-vigilance, always waiting for the other shoe to drop.
A.
Strongly Disagree
B.
Disagree
C.
Neutral
D.
Agree
E.
Strongly Agree
5.
Exist only to please others, taking on the full weight of their needs / desires at the expense of my own needs / desires.
A.
Strongly Disagree
B.
Disagree
C.
Neutral
D.
Agree
E.
Strongly Agree
6.
Chronically over-commit and stretched too thin, fearing the sky will fall if I put it down.
A.
Strongly Disagree
B.
Disagree
C.
Neutral
D.
Agree
E.
Strongly Agree
7.
Imposter syndrome (fear/anxiety of being discovered as a fraud, freeze at key times)
A.
Strongly Disagree
B.
Disagree
C.
Neutral
D.
Agree
E.
Strongly Agree
8.
Highly reactive/permeable to stories of trauma/violence, as if they’re happening to me (eg. news, horror films, refugee camps).
A.
Strongly Disagree
B.
Disagree
C.
Neutral
D.
Agree
E.
Strongly Agree
9.
Chronically over-give, over-do and overcompensate just to get the same success and/or validation as everyone else.
A.
Strongly Disagree
B.
Disagree
C.
Neutral
D.
Agree
E.
Strongly Agree
10.
Rarely content because life is ruled by impossibly high standards of perfection.
A.
Strongly Disagree
B.
Disagree
C.
Neutral
D.
Agree
E.
Strongly Agree
11.
Organize life around duty and survival (eg. debt, clutter, barren home) rather than thriving (eg. beauty, joy, pleasure).
A.
Strongly Disagree
B.
Disagree
C.
Neutral
D.
Agree
E.
Strongly Agree
12.
Carry the false belief that it’s evil to have (money, love, joy, pleasure), that I need to be poor to be good (like Mother Theresa).
A.
Strongly Disagree
B.
Disagree
C.
Neutral
D.
Agree
E.
Strongly Agree
13.
Fear that prosperity will lead to painful loss/betrayal (eg. I’ll have to leave my family/friends behind. I’ll have no more excuses to stay married. Men will only marry me for my money.)
A.
Strongly Disagree
B.
Disagree
C.
Neutral
D.
Agree
E.
Strongly Agree
14.
Often feel depleted, trying to keep afloat and/or care for others at my own expense.
A.
Strongly Disagree
B.
Disagree
C.
Neutral
D.
Agree
E.
Strongly Agree
15.
Crushed under the weight of scarcity, with never enough time, money, opportunities, support, love to go around.
A.
Strongly Disagree
B.
Disagree
C.
Neutral
D.
Agree
E.
Strongly Agree
16.
Unable not to give to others, even if at my own expense, exhaustion or annihilation.
A.
Strongly Disagree
B.
Disagree
C.
Neutral
D.
Agree
E.
Strongly Agree
17.
Take a lot of uncalculated risks, living close to the edge, with few safety nets.
A.
Strongly Disagree
B.
Disagree
C.
Neutral
D.
Agree
E.
Strongly Agree
18.
Shy, always redirect focus on others to hide true self, worth, and/or power.
A.
Strongly Disagree
B.
Disagree
C.
Neutral
D.
Agree
E.
Strongly Agree
19.
Overwork and rarely create sustainable systems to fulfill my deepest needs & desires.
A.
Strongly Disagree
B.
Disagree
C.
Neutral
D.
Agree
E.
Strongly Agree
20.
Display chronic patterns of self-neglect, depriving self of enjoyment, by hoarding money for a rainy day or giving it all away out of duty or guilt.
A.
Strongly Disagree
B.
Disagree
C.
Neutral
D.
Agree
E.
Strongly Agree
21.
Carry heavy false belief that life is lonely, unkind or not made for people like me.
A.
Strongly Disagree
B.
Disagree
C.
Neutral
D.
Agree
E.
Strongly Agree
22.
Suffer from severe self-doubt and/or selfhatred due to lack of loving recognition, by self and/or others, of my unique gifts.
A.
Strongly Disagree
B.
Disagree
C.
Neutral
D.
Agree
E.
Strongly Agree
23.
Enter unfulfilling relationships where only one gets to be seen, the other must supress their needs / desires.
A.
Strongly Disagree
B.
Disagree
C.
Neutral
D.
Agree
E.
Strongly Agree
24.
Known for being eccentric, quirky, fun, weird, unique, and/or socially unpredictable.
A.
Strongly Disagree
B.
Disagree
C.
Neutral
D.
Agree
E.
Strongly Agree
25.
Chronically borrow against my own well being by over-working and under-earning.
A.
Strongly Disagree
B.
Disagree
C.
Neutral
D.
Agree
E.
Strongly Agree
26.
Live in chronic stress/fear that it’s dangerous to be seen (eg. I’ll be burnt at the stake or hacked down to size).
A.
Strongly Disagree
B.
Disagree
C.
Neutral
D.
Agree
E.
Strongly Agree
27.
Feel like the black sheep of the family, never really fitting in anywhere, and longing for true belonging.
A.
Strongly Disagree
B.
Disagree
C.
Neutral
D.
Agree
E.
Strongly Agree
28.
Often leave communities, not deepening relationships, thus creating chronic sense of loss and/or isolation.
A.
Strongly Disagree
B.
Disagree
C.
Neutral
D.
Agree
E.
Strongly Agree
29.
Diminish and/or rarely celebrate my gifts and accomplishments, as if they’re invisible.
A.
Strongly Disagree
B.
Disagree
C.
Neutral
D.
Agree
E.
Strongly Agree
30.
Extraordinarily capable and self-reliant, rarely creating support systems that allow others to give to me, thus feeling alone and isolated (the curse of self-sufficiency).
A.
Strongly Disagree
B.
Disagree
C.
Neutral
D.
Agree
E.
Strongly Agree
31.
Chronically feel unwelcomed and/or left out, as if my person is not wanted/valued.
A.
Strongly Disagree
B.
Disagree
C.
Neutral
D.
Agree
E.
Strongly Agree
32.
Lack of trust, unable to lean on others, fearing the enormity my my needs.
A.
Strongly Disagree
B.
Disagree
C.
Neutral
D.
Agree
E.
Strongly Agree
33.
Repeatedly enter relationships with overly dependent partners, thus shouldering the heavy burden of their every need/desire.
A.
Strongly Disagree
B.
Disagree
C.
Neutral
D.
Agree
E.
Strongly Agree
34.
Overly over-give or fail to ask for what I need / desire, then get resentful that others aren’t reading my mind and reciprocating.
A.
Strongly Disagree
B.
Disagree
C.
Neutral
D.
Agree
E.
Strongly Agree
35.
Feel obligated to jump in and rescue / fix everything that is wrong, unable not to.
A.
Strongly Disagree
B.
Disagree
C.
Neutral
D.
Agree
E.
Strongly Agree
36.
Stay small and mousy, so not to make noise, make waves or bother anyone.
A.
Strongly Disagree
B.
Disagree
C.
Neutral
D.
Agree
E.
Strongly Agree
37.
Design my entire life inside chronic self-sufficiency and/or addictions (eg. workaholism), thus further isolating myself.
A.
Strongly Disagree
B.
Disagree
C.
Neutral
D.
Agree
E.
Strongly Agree
38.
Contort self to be what others want, so to be loved, accepted and/or validated.
A.
Strongly Disagree
B.
Disagree
C.
Neutral
D.
Agree
E.
Strongly Agree
39.
Chronically under supported… to the point of emotional, mental, physical trauma.
A.
Strongly Disagree
B.
Disagree
C.
Neutral
D.
Agree
E.
Strongly Agree
40.
Low-grade depression / hopelessness from ever being deeply and intimately connected (eg. to life partner, to tribe, to Universe).
A.
Strongly Disagree
B.
Disagree
C.
Neutral
D.
Agree
E.
Strongly Agree
41.
Overstay relationships that I’ve long outgrown because I can’t bear ending up alone and/or abandoning others.
A.
Strongly Disagree
B.
Disagree
C.
Neutral
D.
Agree
E.
Strongly Agree
42.
Lack spaces / structures that would allow me to unleash the fullness of my gifts (eg. Hogwarts School of Magic, or X-Men Xavier School for Gifted Youngsters).
A.
Strongly Disagree
B.
Disagree
C.
Neutral
D.
Agree
E.
Strongly Agree
43.
Constantly misunderstood and told to calm down, be quiet and/or stop moving.
A.
Strongly Disagree
B.
Disagree
C.
Neutral
D.
Agree
E.
Strongly Agree
44.
Chronically repress my needs/desires, never asking for their fulfillment, fearing that they are “too much” for others.
A.
Strongly Disagree
B.
Disagree
C.
Neutral
D.
Agree
E.
Strongly Agree
45.
Others are intimidated/overwhelmed by the bigness of my ambition, energy, speed, creative pursuits, voice, etc.
A.
Strongly Disagree
B.
Disagree
C.
Neutral
D.
Agree
E.
Strongly Agree
46.
Open relationships with people who can’t meet me where I’m at or who can’t keep up.
A.
Strongly Disagree
B.
Disagree
C.
Neutral
D.
Agree
E.
Strongly Agree
47.
Give away my resources (time, energy, money, body, services, etc.) for free or for very little, as if they were disposable.
A.
Strongly Disagree
B.
Disagree
C.
Neutral
D.
Agree
E.
Strongly Agree
48.
Chronically borrow against my own security and well being, thus perpetually feeling depleted, indebted and/or in survival mode.
A.
Strongly Disagree
B.
Disagree
C.
Neutral
D.
Agree
E.
Strongly Agree
49.
Often feel left out or left behind personally and/or professionally (eg. last one picked for dodgeball, first one laid off from team).
A.
Strongly Disagree
B.
Disagree
C.
Neutral
D.
Agree
E.
Strongly Agree
50.
Overstay in relationships/situations that require self-containment, thus denying my soul’s grandest and truest self-expression.
A.
Strongly Disagree
B.
Disagree
C.
Neutral
D.
Agree
E.
Strongly Agree
51.
Overstay miserable relationships and/or flee at the first sign of conflict.
A.
Strongly Disagree
B.
Disagree
C.
Neutral
D.
Agree
E.
Strongly Agree
52.
Unable to see my true worth, thus under/over-pricing my services to keep away money, safety and stability.
A.
Strongly Disagree
B.
Disagree
C.
Neutral
D.
Agree
E.
Strongly Agree
53.
Unable to receive, thus compulsively reciprocate any acts of kindness with an act of owing others back.
A.
Strongly Disagree
B.
Disagree
C.
Neutral
D.
Agree
E.
Strongly Agree
54.
Take on others’ poor behavior as my own fault, enabling them to avoid personal responsibility and accountability.
A.
Strongly Disagree
B.
Disagree
C.
Neutral
D.
Agree
E.
Strongly Agree
55.
Vacillate between extreme perfectionism and extreme rebellion/non-conformity.
A.
Strongly Disagree
B.
Disagree
C.
Neutral
D.
Agree
E.
Strongly Agree
56.
Achievement driven and highly prone to addictions, especially workaholism.
A.
Strongly Disagree
B.
Disagree
C.
Neutral
D.
Agree
E.
Strongly Agree
57.
Extremely high expectations of self/others to be good, perfect, altruistic at all times.
A.
Strongly Disagree
B.
Disagree
C.
Neutral
D.
Agree
E.
Strongly Agree
58.
Act as heroic martyr who fixes problems (real or imaginary) in order to feel good about self and establish self-worth.
A.
Strongly Disagree
B.
Disagree
C.
Neutral
D.
Agree
E.
Strongly Agree
59.
Trapped in a loop of over-promising and under-delivering to self/others, thus disappointing and/or punishing self/others.
A.
Strongly Disagree
B.
Disagree
C.
Neutral
D.
Agree
E.
Strongly Agree
60.
Feel rejected by others for simply being me (eg. the Ugly Duckling).
A.
Strongly Disagree
B.
Disagree
C.
Neutral
D.
Agree
E.
Strongly Agree
61.
Always say yes and take on more than I can handle, stressing self to the max.
A.
Strongly Disagree
B.
Disagree
C.
Neutral
D.
Agree
E.
Strongly Agree
62.
Present self as having it all together and don’t need anything from anyone.
A.
Strongly Disagree
B.
Disagree
C.
Neutral
D.
Agree
E.
Strongly Agree
63.
Be a know-it-all, constantly correcting others with unsolicited advice, closed off to new insights, lessons, or perspectives.
A.
Strongly Disagree
B.
Disagree
C.
Neutral
D.
Agree
E.
Strongly Agree
64.
Often play the hero and make sure others know all my sacrifices and hard work.
A.
Strongly Disagree
B.
Disagree
C.
Neutral
D.
Agree
E.
Strongly Agree
65.
Uncomfortable in a room if not holding a position of power or importance (usually the leader, rarely the follower).
A.
Strongly Disagree
B.
Disagree
C.
Neutral
D.
Agree
E.
Strongly Agree
66.
Put up invisible shields against hearing the whole truth, fearing that negative feedback will hurt too much.
A.
Strongly Disagree
B.
Disagree
C.
Neutral
D.
Agree
E.
Strongly Agree
67.
Fail to have other powerful people in my life who have permission to coach / teach me.
A.
Strongly Disagree
B.
Disagree
C.
Neutral
D.
Agree
E.
Strongly Agree
68.
Suffer from chronic shame at not having actualized the potential I know I have.
A.
Strongly Disagree
B.
Disagree
C.
Neutral
D.
Agree
E.
Strongly Agree
69.
Often feel guilty for not keeping my word and disappointing others (eg. forgetful, running late, disorganized, no show).
A.
Strongly Disagree
B.
Disagree
C.
Neutral
D.
Agree
E.
Strongly Agree
70.
Chronically procrastinate, poor followthrough (eg. missed deadlines, late fees).
A.
Strongly Disagree
B.
Disagree
C.
Neutral
D.
Agree
E.
Strongly Agree
71.
Hide or fall off the face of the earth when I start to notice that I can’t meet all my promises.
A.
Strongly Disagree
B.
Disagree
C.
Neutral
D.
Agree
E.
Strongly Agree
72.
Use extreme disorganization to sabotage my own success and thriving.
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I am aloneI am not wantedI am abandoned
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