WHAT'S YOUR CONFLICT MANAGEMENT STYLE?

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Quiz Questions

1.
When I’m upset with my significant other, I tend to....
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- A.
  get quiet, pout or nag, and then complain to them and/or to others.
- B.
  pretend that nothing is wrong and hope it changes
- C.
  talk to them about what I’m upset about, listen to their side, and look to create agreements on how we can do things differently
- D.
  either yell at them or use passive-aggressive tactics (hello silent treatment!) to make my point
2.
When I get feedback from my boss that I don’t agree with, I tend to....
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- A.
  have a discussion with my boss to learn more about what the feedback means and check out my assumptions.
- B.
  start working longer hours and/or pick up new projects in order to look good to my boss.
- C.
  blame them and complain to others about how I’m unappreciated.
- D.
  check out and do the minimum to get by.
3.
When I hear my coworker complain about another coworker, I tend to...
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  offer to handle the situation for them.
- B.
  suggest that my coworker speak directly to the person they’re talking about.
- C.
  join in and share how I’ve been wronged.
- D.
  let the person they’re complaining about know what they’re saying.
4.
When I feel let down by a friend, I tend to...
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  feel unimportant and complain to others about what my friend has done.
- B.
  tell them how I feel and have a discussion about what really happened.
- C.
  tell them that it’s okay, even though I’m still hurt.
- D.
  stop talking to them and pull back from the friendship.
5.
When I don’t keep a promise to myself/don’t follow through with something I said I am going to do, I tend to...
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- A.
  beat up on myself and/or take out my frustration on others.
- B.
  acknowledge what has happened, look for the support I need and commit to doing things differently.
- C.
  feel guilty, ashamed and tell myself I just can't do it.
- D.
  tell myself that it is okay because I have a lot of other things going on.

Quiz Outcomes

1.
When things get tough, you tend to act like a Leader
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As a Leader, you feel more in control of your life and have closer relationships with effective communication. You are surrounded by people that both support you and know they can count on you. You find more success professionally and personally. You are proud of who you are, fulfilled with your life and excited to continue finding ways to grow. When you are a Leader, you have to say goodbye to the relationships that aren’t good for you. You must overcome fears and speak up about things that matter to you. You take personal risks by asking for what you want and are good at coping with others disapproval, disagreement, or judgment of you. Keep up the good work with this three step action plan: Continue taking risks to be more open, loving, understanding, communicative, and honest Continue holding others accountable in a loving way Continue practicing authentic leadership by supporting and empowering those around you to reach their full potential
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When things get tough, you tend to act like a Villain
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When you show up as a Villain, you choose to be right versus being happy. You can often get others to do what you want using your disapproval and anger, and at the same time you avoid your own vulnerability and accountability. However, there is a price to pay when playing the Villain. You may feel angry all the time and push others away. Villains often suffer from unease and live life surrounded by negative energy. You may even lose relationships and miss out on life-changing opportunities. Your three step action plan to manage conflict more effectively: Take time to see another’s point of view Look at what you're angry or fearful about, and realize it’s not about the other person but a reaction within you Start becoming emotionally available to others and communicate more freely what is going on for you
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When things get tough, tend to act like a Martyr
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When you show up as a Martyr, you avoid rejection by not asking for what you want. You look like a hero to others because you do so much and attract others who want to count on you or be taken care of. However, there is a price to pay when playing a Martyr. You can feel exhausted, alone, and under-appreciated. It is hard for you to achieve your own goals because you’re busy doing things for others. Martyrs can lack truly close relationships because you set yourself up to feel used. Your three step action plan to manage conflict more effectively: Start taking care of yourself by asking for what you want Empower others by holding them accountable to take care of themselves Say yes only when you want to say yes, and no when you want to say no
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When things get tough, you tend to act like a Victim
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When you show up as a Victim, you avoid taking action by blaming others or life circumstances. You often feel that everything that happens is out of your control and rests on other's behavior or fate. You may find yourself continuously wrapped up in dramas, that are never your fault. This allows you to avoid accountability and responsibility in all things. Using this behavior often gets you the attention you are seeking yet ultimately pushes people away. However there is a price pay when playing the Victim. You allow others to have control of your life while you feel sorry for yourself. Ultimately others will leave when they tire of listening to you complain and blame everything around you for your results. They will tire of your lack of responsibility. You will continue to stay stuck, unable to reach your goals and lose the passion you once had for the things you love. Your three step action plan to manage conflict more effectively: Look at your part in any event Stop blaming others or situations Take responsibility

WHAT'S YOUR CONFLICT MANAGEMENT STYLE?

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