What you give your child: As a Type 1 parent you give your child firm, secure boundaries with a sense of responsibility. You are both consistent and fair. You also instill a sense of what is right and wrong. “Tell the truth above all else”
Enhancing your type: Sometimes you could look at relaxing a bit and allowing your child to see your fun side, we know its in there! While tidiness may be necessary, spontaneity and fun play can be more important sometimes. Also realizing, that there may be more than one ‘right’ way: – what’s right for you may not be right for another person. Try also to talk to your child and not fall into the habit of preaching.
What you give your child: Your child feels loved and nurtured. Your empathy allows them to feel heard. You are a great listener and as a result they feel valued. You can easily be persuaded to play along with a child’s activity.
Enhancing your type: Sometimes this love, particularly for certain types of children, can feel smothering and your need to remain in constant contact and be protective can feel overbearing. Help them foster their independence!
What you give your child: The belief that with hard work anything is possible. They will also experience a wide range of talent enhancing activities and just as much as you throw yourself into any new task, so too will you give parenting your all. They will experience you as both consistent and dependable. You will instill deep-rooted responsibility.
Enhancing your type: Some children may enjoy the pressure and achievement. Others will find your energy and schedule exhausting and feel they have failed in some way for not living up to your expectations. Sometimes it could be great for both of you to let go doing and relax into just being.
What they give their child: A love of all things artistic and the desire to explore creativity. They can be supportive and encourage their child’s uniqueness. They are not afraid of alternative thinking and ways of being in their children and are often good role-models when it comes to being true to oneself.
Enhancing your type: A reassuring word could be of huge value when you are feeling down. Use your natural intuitive ability to tune into where your child is at. Give them some insight into your understanding and compassion for them.
What they give their child: A broad field of knowledge, this parent loves passing on information. Sometimes they think babies are time consuming, time that a ‘5’ values dearly for researching etc. As a result, they may find themselves communicating better with older children who may share a common interest.
Enhancing your type: Recognize that being authoritarian to a two-year old won’t work, so rather engage with the perceptive kindness that is who you are. Admire your child’s ability to retain data, but understand their age level and making it appropriate for where they're at!
What they give their child: They are dependable, hard-working and responsible parents. They can be warm and engaging and very funny and are often natural stay at home parents. You are great at encouraging your kids to try new things; Bravo!
Enhancing your type: While the limits the ‘6’ sets may seem reasonable to them, outgoing, adventurous children might experience their parent’s constant fears as being limiting, giving a child the view that the world and people in it are not to be trusted. Try building a sense of trust within yourself and let go of the need to constantly fear the worst that could happen.
What they give their child: They are great story tellers of the world and will keep kids entranced with their often fantastical tales. The Peter Pan’s of the world they seldom seem to age and as such can often relate well to children. They will encourage and inspire risk-taking as a way to rewards! As well as love to try new things!
Enhancing your type: What ‘7’ parents don’t always understand is that some children enjoy feeling settled in one place and experience the frenetic activity as exhausting. All this activity may make ‘7’ parents less interested in the more mundane aspects of life such as homework supervision, cooking etc. So combine activity with some quieter time to get a better balance between being and doing.
What they give their child: A fiercely protective presence making a child feel safe from the world. Like large bears they seek to destroy all threats to themselves and those they love. They adore their children and will do much to help them succeed in the world.
Enhancing your type: Be aware that sometimes you may be inclined to see your children as extensions of yourselves rather than being individuals with their own desires. Sometimes the very largeness of your personality may unwittingly scare and intimidate your children. Allow your child the space to voice their feelings, without the need to challenge or control them.
What they give their child: A genuine feeling of being accepted and loved.
Enhancing your type: This desire for peace at all costs may be experienced as avoiding facing any situations or behaviour that needs addressing, making the child feel they lack firm grounding or support. Children do need direction, so adopting a firm stance, albeit difficult, is sometimes necessary. Sometimes ‘9’’s can tune-out to the world around them, being aware of this can bring your focus back onto those you love.