What's Your Relationship Style?

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Quiz Questions

1.
What makes you Happy?

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- A.
  
  When my family's happy, I'm happy
- B.
  
  I'm responsible for my own happiness
- C.
  
  Everyone else needs to be happy then I'll feel better
- D.
  
  Being with my friends makes me happy
2.
In a relationship, do you feel you are the one giving all the time?

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- A.
  
  It's balanced, give and take
- B.
  
  There are times when I seem to do a lot of giving
- C.
  
  It happens all the time
- D.
  
  No I don't give at all
3.
Do you often find yourself happy and productive?

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- A.
  
  Yes, I love it
- B.
  
  I feel drained most of the time
- C.
  
  It's hard work
- D.
  
  Sometimes I feel great
4.
Is your relationship built on trust?

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- A.
  
  I just don't trust my partner
- B.
  
  I'm a bit shaky with the trust
- C.
  
  My trust has been abused
- D.
  
  We trust each other fully
5.
Is the atmosphere at home a peaceful and loving environment?

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- A.
  
  I dread going home
- B.
  
  There are times when it's all too much
- C.
  
  I usually go out with friends
- D.
  
  Most times I enjoy being home on my own
6.
Does my butt look big in this skirt?

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- A.
  
  I usually get criticized for what I wear
- B.
  
  My partner will always say no, whether it's true or not
- C.
  
  They'll give me an honest answer whether I want to hear it or not
- D.
  
  My partner doesn't really care what I wear
7.
How often are you stood up?

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- A.
  
  They don't let me down very often, there is a reason
- B.
  
  I just find my own way
- C.
  
  My partner always has an excuse
- D.
  
  I can rely on my partner to be there
8.
Is your communication positive and uplifting?

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- A.
  
  My partner never finds anything positive to say, it's constructive criticism
- B.
  
  We often encourage each other
- C.
  
  There isn't much communication much anymore
- D.
  
  We talk but it's not about things that really count. I don't seem to be privy to my partner's thoughts anymore
9.
How valued do you feel?

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- A.
  
  I feel good about myself, so I feel valued in the relationship
- B.
  
  I used to think my partner valued me, now I'm not so sure
- C.
  
  They don't say so, but I know my partner loves me deep down
- D.
  
  I'm looking for the signs but can't find them
10.
Do you enjoy spending leisure time together?

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- A.
  
  We like different things, so we do them separately
- B.
  
  We don't like being in each other's pockets
- C.
  
  There are hobbies we have that we really enjoy together
- D.
  
  I just go along for the ride with what they're doing
11.
Is your partner the person you turn to for your support?
- A.
  
  They don't seem to be interested in my life
- B.
  
  My partner's a good listener
- C.
  
  I'd love one if I can find them
- D.
  
  I can rely on my partner for anything. They're a great support
12.
Is your partner your greatest cheerleader?

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- A.
  
  Actually, my partner wants to be the center of attention
- B.
  
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  They come along but take work or something to keep them occupied
- C.
  
  There's always an excuse not to come
- D.
  
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  They're standing on the sidelines as my biggest fan
13.
Do you make your own decisions?
- A.
  
  We usually make big decisions together, but I tend to make my own decisions
- B.
  
  My partner encourages me to make decisions
- C.
  
  I've always made my own decisions
- D.
  
  I prefer not to make decisions, I might make the wrong ones
14.
How much freedom do you feel?

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- A.
  
  I can't do as much as I used to, I'm busy juggling to keep everyone happy.
- B.
  
  Life is fun. We enjoy each other's company
- C.
  
  Sometimes I feel trapped and alone
- D.
  
  I have as much freedom as I want
15.
Good relationships improve your life. Which statement is true?
- A.
  
  It's like adding another child. It's hard work but it's fun
- B.
  
  I don't really need my partner to improve my life
- C.
  
  Relationships are hard work. I'm always trying to make everyone happy
- D.
  
  My life is so much better with my partner by my side. We're a great team.
16.
Does the future seem optimistic and exciting?

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- A.
  
  We have big plans for the future
- B.
  
  I have plans for my future
- C.
  
  I'm not really sure what's coming next
- D.
  
  I can't see that far, I take each day as it comes

Quiz Outcomes

1.

You Attract a Honeymooners Relationship

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You may have been together for a long time, or this may be a new relationship. Either way, you get along well and still enjoy each other's company. You have many things in common and even when you don't agree, you've worked out how to find mutual ground. You have developed a deeper love and mutual respect and have become comfortable with yourself in the relationship, so you are comfortable as a couple. It's important to keep your individuality within a relationship and not become a clone of the other and you have mastered this beautifully. You know each others patterns, what makes them happy and what triggers their mood and you are wise in making choices that support the relationship. You're still great friends and that makes for a long lasting relationship. The only challenges you'll need to conquer are your own insecurities and patterns. We all have a past and have developed patterns that don't serve us, but to move to the next level of our relationship, we need to recognise and let go of the old patterns to develop new supportive ones. You have a strong relationship, but even you have come to understand that you are the instigator of change in your life. You are the creator of your own reality. We often blame our partners when something goes wrong, but you know it's never them. It's only your mood that makes a difference. It's only old patterns talking. You understand through experience and intuition, that your partner is not here to 'complete you'. You are the only one who can do that. It's time to move to the next level as this is the true formula for happiness. Relationships Coach & Spiritual CounselorGayleMaree
2.

It's Time to Spice your Relationship Up a Little

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You've become really relaxed in each other's company. So relaxed that you've begun to take each other for granted. You know, when you expect them to do something without you asking and then when they don't, you're upset. The relationship has become comfortable like an old well-worn sweater. Feels comfy, but you wouldn't want to wear it to Aunt Mabel's for dinner. These nonchalant experiences are signs you've begun taking this relationship and each other, for granted. It's not that you meant to, but it's all become rather ho-hum. They're an extension of you and you think you love them, but it's no longer exciting. You may still spend time together but you have a life away from the relationship too. Your friends can be more fun than the relationship with your partner . When you communicate, it's about things. Other people, kids, family, work, distractions. There isn't much real communication anymore. Remember when you'd share about your hopes and dreams and future plans together; nd talk about the mark you'd leave on the world? If you haven't arrived already, this relationship is on a course for mediocrity. And nobody wants to live a mediocre life. A relationship is made up of two independent souls. They each have desires, goals and dreams that can intertwine but are very individual. It's time to revisit the dreams and goals of the past and see if they are still relevant or whether it's time for an upgrade in mindset. To discover new dreams and goals. There is nothing more attractive and exciting to a partner, than to be in the presence of someone who is confident, excited and purposeful. You were born that way and even though you've developed some patterns that don't serve you, it's simply a matter of developing a map to get back on track. The track to your dreams. Your new dreams that are so much grander than the old ones. That's the destination, now you just need to find the path. Relationships Coach & Spiritual CounselorGayle Maree
3.

You're Attracting a Time for Reflection

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You enjoy spending time with your friends. It's fun and you just love having fun. That's great, because fun is the essence of life. No matter what your purpose or your intentions, fun is the path to get your there. However, you are beginning to choose your friends over the relationship. You've forgotten how to have fun with your partner. It's not as interesting or as challenging anymore and sometimes, you just can't be bothered. It's in the too hard basket. But you know this can't go on forever. There is going to have to be some decisions made. Whether to leave or whether to stay. Even though you may not want to face this obvious conclusion, it's getting closer. And you both know it. There can be a mutual parting of the ways with no animosity. People do this all the time. Not all relationships will support your needs. When you no longer feel uplifted, excited and inspired in the relationship, then that's the time to re-evaluate. You'll want to decide what type of a relationship you're looking for, what you want out of it and who would be your ideal partner. It's important to note that your current partner may not fit this criteria but it doesn't mean they won't. People change all the time. Your job is to determine the traits you DO want. This is a time of transition from an old dusty relationship into a vibrant new one. But it's the relationship you have with yourself that needs to change first. You will be starting afresh and it can help to do a type of ceremony to let go of the old relationship and incorporate the new. This is an inner ceremony and is for the relationship within. We always take ourselves with us into each and every relationship. You're not supposed to be perfect, neither is your partner. But it's when you haven't found the path to happiness within that the annoying details become magnified. That's when those patterns of the past come to wreak havoc in your life, and that things begin to go awry. We either bring out the best or the worst in people. And that all depends on whether we're feeling our best or our worst. Our partner is the reflection of our own inner securities or insecurities. They are the closest to us and they reflect back to us our dominant mood, whether we're aware of it or not. Instead of blaming them for that reflection, it's time to use it to instigate change within. It's time to find out how to use that reflection as a step up to the next level. Relationships Coach & Spiritual CounselorGayle Maree
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You've Attracted Time to Heal Your Soul

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Some relationships are supportive, inspiring and uplifting. This isn't one of them. There are aspects of this relationship that are really unhealthy. Like feeling stuck, not validated and unappreciated. Your morale is low and you're staying because you're afraid of the alternative. This is an unhealthy place to stand. It doesn't matter what others think or if they've acted nicely around your friends. If the relationship is toxic, then you really have to take a step in the direction of your own health. So do a test for yourself. You know your relationship is toxic if you can relate to some of these: You often feel like a Victim in the situation There is an outer pretense. Smiles that everything is ok Self-worth is diminished There is never-ending drama Backing down to keep the peace is normal Other's happiness and well-being comes before your own Normally high standards have been lowered Secrets are kept within the family unit Feeling disempowered and trapped It's normal for people to disagree in relationships but it's not ok if you have to back down every time and your opinion is not important. There is hope though. Just taking a step over the bridge to self-worth is a significant turning point. One step in the direction of feeling confident, knowing what you want. Understanding how you got there and taking that huge neon sign off your back that says "PICK ME". And you can feel relieved that you don't even need to take physical action, as this is an inner journey. We all develop patterns. Some that serve us and others that diminish us. When we find ourselves in a spiralling direction of emotional turmoil, we know the patterns are those that diminish us. That's when a choice is made within. And it's a simple choice. Is this what I want, or do I want something better? If no choice is made, these deprecating patterns affect not only us but those around us. We pass on behaviors generation after generation unless we change. So, all you have to look forward to is more of the same. But... There is a whole world waiting for what you have to give. It's time to recognise that you are important. Your health as important and your emotions and well-being are connected to your physical health. There is so much in this world to be explored and it just takes one choice. That choice is "I want to feel ...!" Your journey is important for building an emotional bridge and taking one step at a time. Baby steps. I support your choices. Relationships Coach & Spiritual CounselorGayle Maree

What's Your Relationship Style?

Whether we're comfortable with a long term partner or looking for one, its handy to know what our patterns are around relationships. Put yours to the test.

Quiz Questions

Quiz Outcomes