Do you spend your evenings buried in tech? Let me paint the picture- TV, phones, and barely really communicating?
How often do you have sex per month on average?
Do you get nervous bringing certain chores, topics, or needs up for fear that it will cause conflict?
Does it feel like a lot of your communication is negative communication? (i.e. bickering or ignoring)
Not at all
On a daily basis does it feel like you & your husband are on the same team? (i.e. working together and not “keeping score” for who is doing “more)
We are total teammates
Depends on the day
It feels like we are competing…
Do you or your husband manage the finances together or is one person “in-charge”?
I am in charge of the $
My husband is in charge of the $
We manage together!
Does it feel like on some level you are living totally separate lives? Meaning the only thing you really have to talk about are children, bills, and chores…?
This feels like us
This is somewhat true
We keep having the same arguments over and over again... about stupid stuff!
YES - I often feel like a nag!
I tend to not bring stuff up anymore
We don’t disagree often.
You could roast a marshmallow on your FIRE marriage!
WOWZA! Your marriage is steamy! Sure, there are a few things you and hubs could work on- but same, girl, same! Overall you are handling marriage after baby like the teammates you are! Crushing it! I can tell how important your marriage is to you and that you are making it a priority in your life. You know that a strong marriage is the foundation of your growing family! You are a total inspiration of what it means to put your marriage first!
So where do you go from here? Well you keep on killing the game and giving your marriage all the attention and care it deserves! Want to inspire and share with others? Join our free, private FB community for moms just like you! In this group we ask for advice, share funny stories, and support one another as we navigate how to have a healthy, sexy, and vibrant marriage after baby! See you in there!
You may be in the glorified roommate cycle!
First and foremost- cheers to you for taking the time to answer these questions. I know, they can be tough ones momma. Let’s reflect on something- did this totally shock you? Or have you known that the fireworks have faded recently?
TRUTH: marriage after baby can be sticky to navigate and some transition is totally normal. What’s not normal? Being in the glorified roommate situation with hubs- meaning not connecting, not having sex, bickering, and just feeling like, well, roommates! Here is where the danger is momma- relationships are built PURELY on communication and connection, so if you don’t have enough of each of them, marital satisfaction can take a nose-dive. I don’t say this to make you feel hopeless, the opposite really, I want you to take responsibility and then take ACTION!
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