IS YOUR PARTNER NARCISSISTIC...OR AUTISTIC...OR BOTH?

Quiz Questions

• 1.
  Does your partner frequently say or do things that are rude?

  • A.
    Yes
  • B.
    No
  • C.
    Not much to others, but to me and sometimes our kids (if applicable).
• 2.
  Does your partner frequently tell you that conversations didn’t happen or that you’re remembering them wrong?

  • A.
    Yes
  • B.
    No
• 3.
  Has your partner EVER intimidated you or made threats to you in a way that you were fearful (for your physical or financial safety - or perhaps socially)?

  • A.
    Yes
  • B.
    No
• 4.
  Does your partner avoid noisy environments like concerts or movie theaters?

  • A.
    Yes
  • B.
    No
• 5.
  Has your partner told you that you’re stupid or called you other names like “bitch,” or “whore?”

  • A.
    Yes
  • B.
    No
• 6.
  Are appearances really important to your spouse (clothing and hair, etc.) because of the need to IMPRESS or look good to others?

  • A.
    Yes
  • B.
    No
• 7.
  Does your partner or avoid going places where there is a lot of social chit chat?

  • A.
    Yes
  • B.
    No
• 8.
  Does your partner follow routines or have rituals, and then gets upset if these are disrupted? 

  • A.
    Yes
  • B.
    No
• 9.
  Has your partner ever used physical force with you (i.e. hit you, pinned you down, held you by the throat, or blocked your path)?

  • A.
    Yes
  • B.
    No
• 10.
  Does your partner rage if you say "no," and sometimes "punish" you in some way?

  • A.
    Yes, my partner gets very agitated, and gives me the silent treatment for days or weeks.
  • B.
    Yes my partner gets very angry and gets back at me in some other way.
  • C.
    Yes my partner gets angry, but doesn't try to punish me.
  • D.
    My partner doesn't have a problem with me saying "no."
• 11.
  Does your partner use guilt trips to get what he/she wants or to make you feel bad?

  • A.
    Yes
  • B.
    No
• 12.
  Does your partner sometimes seem totally unaware that he/she's hurt your feelings, and baffled as to why or how?

  • A.
    Yes, my partner often tells me I have no reason to feel hurt.
  • B.
    Yes, my partner often becomes ashamed and depressed for hurting me and I end up comforting him/her.
  • C.
    My partner may not realize he/she has hurt me, but is open to listening, and I feel heard.
• 13.
  If you tell your partner that he/she's hurt you in some way, does he/she seem to care about your feelings (even if a little defensive)?

  • A.
    Yes
  • B.
    No
• 14.
  Would you describe your partner's behavior and words as "malicious" at times?

  • A.
    Yes
  • B.
    No
• 15.
  Is your partner disconnected from his emotions (has a small range of emotion - rarely joyful and rarely rageful, etc.)?

  • A.
    Yes
  • B.
    No
• 16.
  Does your partner sometimes seem like a totally different person?

  • A.
    Yes
  • B.
    No
• 17.
  Does your partner prefer order and predictability or have a tendency for drama?

  • A.
    My partner much prefers order and predictability and gets overwhelmed by drama or chaos
  • B.
    Neither of these really describes my partner
  • C.
    My partner tends to create drama constantly
• 18.
  Does your partner seem triggered by threats to his/her ego or image (doesn't like to be shown up or embarrassed).

  • A.
    Yes
  • B.
    No
• 19.
  Does your partner get stressed when in new or unfamiliar environments?

  • A.
    Yes
  • B.
    No
• 20.
  Does your partner have highly specialized interests (like trains, space, politics, history, etc.) and talks about these interests even when others are clearly disinterested in the conversation?

  • A.
    Yes
  • B.
    No
• 21.
  Does your partner make negative comments about him/herself that result in you or others comforting him/her?

  • A.
    Yes, this happens a lot.
  • B.
    Eh...maybe occasionally
  • C.
    No, my partner rarely says anything negative about him/herself.
• 22.
  Does your partner say things like "everybody knows that" about something you didn't know, or if you have an opposing opinion?

  • A.
    Yes, this happens frequently
  • B.
    This happens, but not very often
  • C.
    Not really that much
• 23.
  Does your partner compliment your appearance or your accomplishments?

  • A.
    Yes, quite frequently
  • B.
    Sometimes to others, but not to me
  • C.
    Sometimes
  • D.
    It's rare
• 24.
  Are you afraid of your partner's potential behaviors or actions but not because of direct threats to you?

  • A.
    Yes
  • B.
    Sometimes
  • C.
    No
• 25.
  Does your partner have big ideas or fantasies about personal success?

  • A.
    My partner fantasizes about goals that seem kind of unrealistic, but doesn't share them much
  • B.
    My partner has huge ideas of personal success that aren't actually true (and sometimes lies about accomplishments)
  • C.
    My partner has goals but is grounded and realistic about personal success.
  • D.
    My partner is happy with the status quo and has very few aspirations for personal growth despite this limiting him/her (and us/our family) in a harmful way.
• 26.
  My partner says and does compassionate things, but I wonder if it has much depth. It kind of feels like it's for show or to "score points."

  • A.
    True
  • B.
    False
• 27.
  Is your partner unreliable?  Breaks promises?  Doesn't show up?

  • A.
    Yes, this happens a lot.
  • B.
    Sometimes, but it's not a regular thing.
  • C.
    No, my partner is very punctual and gets agitated if I have to break a commitment or change our schedule.
• 28.
  Do you believe your partner INTENTIONALLY tries to hurt you for his/her own gain?

  • A.
    Yes, it feels like my partner hurts me on purpose to gain control in our relationship.
  • B.
    Sometimes my partner says things that are hurtful, but I don't think it's for personal gain.
• 29.
  Does your partner threaten suicide frequently?

  • A.
    Yes, but my partner has never attempted suicide.
  • B.
    Yes, and my partner has attempted suicide.
  • C.
    No
• 30.
  Is your partner picky about foods (texture, spice, temperature)?

  • A.
    Yes
  • B.
    No
• 31.
  Does your partner size people up fairly well, but struggle to carry conversation?

  • A.
    Yes, these are both true.
  • B.
    My partner is good at sizing people up but also carrying conversation.
  • C.
    My partner struggles with both of these.
• 32.
  My partner enjoys time with close friends, but doesn't always know how to initiate or plan time to hang out.

  • A.
    Yes, both of these are true.
  • B.
    My partner doesn't really enjoy hanging out with friends.
  • C.
    My partner enjoys time with friends and is able to plan times to get together.
• 33.
  You are about to get your results.  Would you like for me to follow with you to book an appointment where I can review your results with you, personally?

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  • A.
    Yes, I really need some help.
  • B.
    No, I just want to take the quiz for now.

Quiz Outcomes

• 1.
  The Ego-Maniac (Overt Narcissist)

  YOUR RESPONSES INDICATE YOU MAY BE IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH AN OVERT NARCISSIST. This kind of relationship is destructive and toxic and is ultimately a dead end for most partners.High ranking top scores of OVERT and COVERT NARCISSISM indicate a high probability that your partner has significant traits of toxicity and that you are in an emotionally abusive, and possibly physically dangerous relationship.High ranking combined scores of OVERT NARCISSISM and AUTISM indicate a combination of toxic and autistic traits as per your question responses. It's not as common, but it is possible that your partner is BOTH autistic and narcissistic. It's truly critical, for your own emotional health and wellbeing for you to discover more about your relationship and your partner. If you've already registered to review your results with me in your interactive webinar, click the link in the registration confirmation email you received (or if you're currently watching a replay and paused to take this quiz, go back to the webinar now.) If you're new to all this, and for more help with understanding your results, click "NEXT" below.
• 2.
  The Sly Victim (Covert) Narcissist
• 3.
  Autistic (Neurodiverse)

  YOUR RESPONSES INDICATE YOU MAY BE IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH A PARTNER WHO IS AUTISTIC (Formerly Asperger's). Your partner has some of the most common traits of autism, but this quiz is not a comprehensive screening for autism. If your score was also high for OVERT or COVERT NARCISSISM this indicates a combination of toxic and autistic traits as per your question responses. It's not as common, but it is possible that your partner is BOTH autistic and narcissistic. It's truly critical, for your own emotional health and wellbeing for you to discover more about your relationship and your partner. If you've already registered to review your results with me in your interactive webinar, click the link in the registration confirmation email you received (or if you're currently watching a replay and paused to take this quiz, go back to the webinar now.) If you're new to all this, and for more help with understanding your results, click "NEXT" below.
• 4.
  Neither Narcissist or Asperger's

  YOUR RESPONSES ON THIS QUIZ ARE NOT STRONGLY SUGGESTIVE OF EITHER NARCISSISM OR AUTISM. If you still feel unsure, and unclear, and would like some more help figuring this out, click "NEXT" below.