You may feel fearful to commit to a partner. You may struggle to fully depend on someone, or to allow them to be close to you. You often think: "The only person I can really truly depend on is myself." At times, you feel that you "put walls up" or "pull away" when there is opportunity for intimacy. It is likely that growing up you had to learn to depend on yourself for emotional support and comfort.
You are able to develop intimacy in your romantic relationships quite easily. You feel able to depend on others, and you also have the ability to self-soothe. You tend to have clear boundaries, and the ability to communicate what you need. You value your relationships, and yet you also foster your own sense of independence and confidence.
When you are in a relationship you find that you are frequently worried about your partner leaving you. You often struggle to communicate your needs, express your emotions and set boundaries. You may feel at times that you are "too much" or "needy." Having a relationship is very important to you, and you frequently feel down on yourself that you "can't figure it out." You worry you may end up alone.