Should I Stay or Should I Go?

Quiz Questions

• 1.
  Our relationship is disappointing to me

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  • A.
    Strongly Agree 
  • B.
    Agree 
  • C.
    Neither Agree Nor Disagree 
  • D.
    Disagree 
  • E.
    Strongly Disagree
• 2.
  My partner did something totally irresponsible. I

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    am shocked since it's unusual. What's wrong honey?
  • B.
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    guilt them and hope they will mature soon
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    am used to it. I gave up correcting them a while ago. 
  • D.
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    don't say anything because they will bite me back. 
• 3.
  I love telling the story of us

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  • A.
    Strongly Agree 
  • B.
    Agree 
  • C.
    Neither Agree Nor Disagree 
  • D.
    Disagree 
  • E.
    Strongly Disagree
• 4.
  I've had a really hard day and want to tell my partner about it. My partner reacts by... 

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    turning up the volume on their program
  • B.
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    stopping everything to ask me what happened 
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    listening with one ear while continuing their activity
• 5.
  My partner is selfish 

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  • A.
    Strongly Agree 
  • B.
    Agree 
  • C.
    Neither Agree Nor Disagree 
  • D.
    Disagree 
  • E.
    Strongly Disagree 
• 6.
  When there is a problem in the couple you solve it by...

  • A.
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    one of you hopes that the other find the solution 
  • B.
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    you both ignore the issue and both hope it disappears
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     you work on finding a good solution together 
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    you hit a wall and let the resentment build up
• 7.
  We make a fantastic team

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  • A.
    Strongly Agree 
  • B.
    Agree 
  • C.
    Neither Agree Nor Disagree 
  • D.
    Disagree 
  • E.
    Strongly Disagree
• 8.
  My partner screwed up and so I

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    tell them that I want to talk about it
  • B.
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    stay quiet hoping that they will realize their mistake
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    bring it up and let them have an earful
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    hold it against them for months
• 9.
  My partner shows that they are proud of me

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  • A.
    Strongly Agree 
  • B.
    Agree 
  • C.
    Neither Agree Nor Disagree 
  • D.
    Disagree
  • E.
    Strongly Disagree
• 10.
  I am at a dinner with friends and my partner puts me down in front of everyone. I

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    say nothing 
  • B.
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    put them in their place, in front of the others 
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    gently, but immediately tell them, “don’t do that.” 
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    talk to your partner about it quietly when you get home 
• 11.
  When I'm mad, my partner doesn't care about my feelings

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    Strongly Agree 
  • B.
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    Agree 
  • C.
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    Neither Agree Nor Disagree
  • D.
    Disagree 
  • E.
    Strongly Disagree
• 12.
  When you are jealous, your spouse

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    makes a big effort to make sure you feel comfortable
  • B.
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    feels bad, but enjoys flirting anyways
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    calls you crazy and denies it
• 13.
  It's not worth all the struggle

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  • A.
    Strongly Agree 
  • B.
    Agree 
  • C.
    Neither Agree Nor Disagree 
  • D.
    Disagree 
  • E.
    Strongly Disagree
• 14.
  When my spouse and I argue, we

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    are both aggravated, just trying to get the other person to hear us
  • B.
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    take turns to listen and have a chance to express our viewpoint with respect
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    end up with one of us refusing to speak
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    get worked up, but then calm down to where we can converse
• 15.
  My partner gets me

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    Strongly Agree 
  • B.
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    Agree 
  • C.
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    Neither Agree Nor Disagree 
  • D.
    Disagree 
  • E.
    Strongly Disagree
• 16.
  My partner and I are very close

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  • A.
    Strongly Agree 
  • B.
    Agree 
  • C.
    Neither Agree Nor Disagree 
  • D.
    Disagree 
  • E.
    Strongly Disagree 
• 17.
  My partner says they are going somewhere suspicious, I  

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    trust them without question
  • B.
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    don’t trust them
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    wonder since I've caught them lying before
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    I don't really care
• 18.
  My partner tells people I'm nuts

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  • A.
    Strongly Agree 
  • B.
    Agree 
  • C.
    Neither Agree Nor Disagree 
  • D.
    Disagree 
  • E.
    Strongly Disagree
• 19.
  My partner starts flirting with someone. I 

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    let them have some harmless fun
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    immediately get mad and tell them to knock it off
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    talk to them about it later and tell them my feelings
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    start checking my partners phone
• 20.
  My partner wants to plan a long romantic vacation together for two weeks. I

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    get excited at the thought
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    get a knot in my stomach at the idea of spending time together
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    would be just fine staying home in my routine
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    think, my partner? You're joking right?

Quiz Outcomes

• 1.
  Why Haven't You Left Yet

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  You've gone back and forth, back and forth, but you've known for awhile that you must say goodbye if you are to be healthy and happy. The only thing that will save your relationship is a major hallelujah experience or two. So the real question remains - why haven't you left? It's time to be honest with yourself and remove the filters of right and wrong, niceness, tradition and fear. It's time to reclaim your own precious life. If you could say anything you wanted out loud, without fear of sounding bad, what would you say is holding you back from leaving your relationship? Is it financial? Is it your confidence? Is it fear of judgement? Whatever the reasons are, write them all down. Facing the truth of your present emotion, without judgement, is a huge step. There is no problem too great, no challenge too big, for your spirit to find it's way forward, if you allow it the possibility. You don't need to know the "how" just yet. It may be time to find a friend, an ally, a coach to help you find your courage and look at the possibilities and solutions in front of you. You are stronger than you realize and you are worth it. What would someone who really loves themselves do?The good news is that the best time to take counsel is BEFORE you leave so that you can plan the best departure possible. The next best time is - as soon as possible! You can find the best guidance at https://fromdivorcetodestiny.com/ with coaching and online courses on how to have the best divorce scenario possible. You will get all the support you need to make it through to your best self!
• 2.
  Prepare Your Departure

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  It's hard to make the decision to leave. Sometimes the cost of ending a relationship can feel so great and the feelings of "waste" so painful that it become hard to digest saying goodbye. Your relationship could survive if both people are willing to work very hard to make some drastic changes to their habits, but you would need to make a major energetic investment into saving it. But when your thoughts are becoming dominantly negative, and when love begins to turn into resentfulness, it's becoming harmful to your spirit and blocking your life potential. You could be holding yourself back from your potential. It’s time to question whether or not it’s time to go, because you are keeping yourself in an unhappy situation, but you are also keeping your partner from finding someone who will be a better fit and maybe appreciate them for who they are.In a world of 7 billion people, there are plenty of people who are a match for you life goals and values, but will you allow them to find you? The good news is that the best time to take counsel is BEFORE you leave so that you can plan the best departure possible. The next best time is - as soon as possible! You can find the best guidance at https://fromdivorcetodestiny.com/ with coaching and online courses on how to have the best divorce scenario possible. You will get all the support you need to make it through to your best self!
• 3.
  Decide Your Path

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  You are are a crossroads where you hold the key. Your relationship has some major challenges, but all relationships take hard work. Not work on the other person, but rather work on yourself, before even thinking about the couple. Changing your own internal chemistry first, will change the chemical reaction that happens when you combine two people. You still have a good chance to make your relationship work but it will require serious work and honesty with yourself. Are you holding you partner responsible for your misery, or for your happiness? Or are you taking responsibility for your own power to change things? If you decide to stay in this relationship, you need to focus your energies and attention on strengthening the faith in your love and trust in each other. Research active ways to do this, even if it doesn't feel natural to you yet. You also need to identity the things that are getting in the way of good communication and time together. It's time to commit yourself seriously to your relationship - as seriously as you would treat a business or medical issue. You may want to seek a counselor or a couples workshop to solidify your ability to communicate openly and grow together towards a better and brighter future. Regardless, each of you should be working on self-development to unblock your inner shadows, but at the end of the day, you can only control yourself. If you decide to leave, make sure you work on the shadows inside of yourself that were blocking your happiness, before bringing them into a new relationship. Self awareness can be a lot of fun when done with classes or in a group, where you will find support and encouragement. The good news is that the best time to take counsel is BEFORE you leave so that you can plan the possible future. You can find the best guidance at https://fromdivorcetodestiny.com/ with coaching and online courses on how to have the best relationship scenario possible. You will get all the support you need to make it through to your best self!
• 4.
  Consider Yourself Blessed

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  Congratulations! You have a very rare and beautiful thing, a harmonious and healthy relationship. How many happily partnered couples do you know? Do you realize how special this is? The fact that you took this quiz reveals a certain doubt however. Are there still aspects of yourself that you are holding back from the relationship? Are you aware of what is causing this doubt? Is it that you and your partner may be miscommunicating how you need to be loved? Try this exercise: Both of you, write a list of the things that make you feel loved and energized from the other person. Score them from 1-10 and arrange them in order of most highest to lowest. Both of you can use these sheets as a reference to know how to love each other with the biggest impact. Next, sit down and have a conversation about each item on the list and about what you tried to give to the other person. Did what you tried to give and what they actually wanted match up? Pretend that you’re telling your best friend, all the things you do for your partner. And let your partner respond with how they feel when that is given. Use humor and curiosity about this discovery. Humans are terrible at reading each others minds and the outcomes can be quite surprising and funny. Now you can be more conscious of what nourishes your and your partner in the relationship. You can consciously create the relationship you desire. There is never too much happiness and improvement is limitless! Come and visit https://go.fromdivorcetodestiny.com/free-webinar for more tips and resources!