What is your Grief Archetype?

Quiz Questions

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  Historically how have you navigated difficulty in your life? 

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    I really commit myself to searching for the best way forward.
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    I shake things up and try to move fast enough so that difficulties cant catch me.
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    I get quiet and still and look within myself for answers.
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    The first thing I do is to ask 'What does this experience have to teach me.
• 2.
  What feels like the best route forward from where you are in your grief right now?

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    Taking my time and finding the right path for me (knowing it may not be right for others.)
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    Feeling my feelings and embracing my loss. I accept this as a part of the circle of life.
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    Finding a guiding light to give me direction.(Teacher, support group, therapist)
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    Not letting grief stop my life or change who I am.
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  What scares you most about your grief?

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    That I will not learn the lesson that grief is teaching me.
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    That I will get stuck in my grief and lose my freedom.
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    That I will become isolated and close my heart to others.
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    That I will follow the wrong path.
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  What kind of things help you heal?

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    Staying in with friends and feeling connected to them.
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    Taking a class on coping and learning a new skill that I can use in my daily life.
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    Doing something adventurous that takes my mind away from being sad.
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     Feeling connected to something greater than myself.
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  If your friends had to pick one of these words to describe you since your loss, what word would they choose ?

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    Courageous but Avoidant
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    Pragmatic but Isolated
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    Compliant but Uncertain
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    Wondering but Accepting
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  Which describes what you care about the most?

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    Staying on the right path and working hard toward what matters.
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    Feeling safe and surrounding myself with things that feel familiar.
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    Being free to be who I am, do what I want, and speak my truth.
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    Becoming who I am meant to be.
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  What has your biggest hurdle been during the grieving process?

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    Being stubborn and learning the hard way.
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    Being a non-conformist and  isolating myself. 
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    Not thinking things through, being too trusting and becoming vulnerable to the wrong people.
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    Being in a rush to heal and not being willing to feel some deep feelings.
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  If your grief was an element, which one would it be?

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    Fire
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    Water
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    Air
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    Earth
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  What is the hardest part of your grief reality for you right now ?

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    That I don't feel like I fit in, and I am not sure I will find my place ever again.
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    That there is no map to follow so that I know I am moving in the right direction.
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    That I have to slow and feel my feelings down so that I can heal.
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    That I cannot put into words the profound way that loss has changed me.

Quiz Outcomes

• 1.
  The Pilgrim

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  Pilgrims are looking for the right path. They are dutiful and hardworking and really pride themselves on being able to toe the line. When a Pilgrim grieves, they want most of all is to be able to clearly see the path before them- and when they do see a path, they will do their level best to stay on it. This can be a blessing when they find a good path or a teacher that is a good fit, but it can be a burden when they have wandered in the wrong direction and get sidetracked in the healing or worse yet get taken advantage in some way. Pilgrims are the grief archetype most full of innocence and trust.They gravitate toward healing, toward people, and toward answers. During times of loss, the Pilgrim can become wary and unsure of the path before them. They look toward others to light the way ahead and are not interested in traveling alone. Pilgrims tend to look for answers through systems and organizations. Their tendency to look for answers outside of themselves can make them easy victims to teachers and experts who may manipulate them. When this happens and the Pilgrim realizes they have traveled down the wrong path, they can become quite reactive and upset which is a marked switch from their normally reserved nature. When all is said and done, and the false paths have been revelaed and the worthy ones discovered, it is the Pilgrim's innocence and trust that heals them.
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  The Villager

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  The Villager moves forward slowly and methodically. Their immediate tendency when under duress is to withdraw into themselves, quiet down, get their bearings, and then take a long hard look around. Villagers wait for a solid stepping stone to appear before them and even then before moving forward they will first test the worthiness of that stone. Villagers do not mind spending time alone and because of this propensity, they are introspective and imaginative. (Like only children, they learn how to self soothe.) The Villager wants to understand the future before they move toward it... and whatever that future is, it cannot be loud or crowded or the Villager simply will not go. Villagers will find their way through grief by reading books, taking classes, or debating a theory. This archetype always searches long and hard for understanding, using their sharp mind paired with their creative mind. The Villager in many ways is shy and fears being misled or humiliated. They do not like to be the center of attention and may be uncomfortable with the way grief draws people to them. Since they spend a lot of time planning the how of things... they can get stuck overthinking and may have a hard time moving forward in their lives after loss. They do not move fast, and there is nothing flashy about their journeys, but, their wisdom and intelligence shines through and brings them safely to the other side in their own timing.
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  The Voyager

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  The Voyager is an old soul who likely remembers a wisdom that they may not be able to even put words to. Voyagers are willing to sit in the darkness of grief because they know that the darkness is alive with wisdom. Voyagers know that the loss that they are carrying, is the same loss that millions of people before them have carried as well. As deep as their pain is, they are wise enough to know that grief and loss are a necessary right of passage that everyone must eventually pass through. Voyagers feel their pain deeply, yet they trust that their pain will eventually transform them. They know that grief is taking them to a wilderness that is both universal and deeply personal. Voyagers are independent and do not conform to traditional models of grief, preferring to explore the outer boundaries of growth and consciousness. Voyagers are willing to go straight into the heart of their sorrow, to find the light so that they can share that light with others. Voyagers are way-showers. They are mysterious and quirky but they allow grief to change who they are, revealing an authentic self that is even more refined than before their loss.
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  The Pioneer

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  The Pioneer isn't afraid to give grief a run for its money. Active, motivated, and inherently energetic the Pioneer does not lay down for anything or anyone, most especially loss. Pioneers are leaders. They are passionate idealists who only know one way to move through the world and that is fasst and focused. They can come across as jarring and even insensitive when they set their mind toward forward movement. They aren't afraid of tearing down the old system in order to create a better one. Pioneers have no choice but to do grief the same way they have always done life, therefore they power through it, which may look like denial to some, but on the inside to them, it feels like survival. Ultimately, the Pioneer fears being powerless in the face of their grief because giving in to their loss keeps them from making progress, continuing on in their own life, and remaining independent and true to themselves. Pioneers feel their losses deeply, but can only tolerate the ache when they are feeling active and productive. At their core, the Pioneer wants to heal their loss and overturn the road-blocks that are creating a sense of stagnancy in their world.
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  The Magician

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  The Magician is a big dreamer that has an uncanny knack for turning their flights of fancy into charming realities. Their charisma and unique point of view frequently allow them to do the impossible. This archetype creates magic in order to better understand the universe they live in. The Magician fears that, in using their powers, they might inadvertently create negative consequences. Sometimes dallying with the unknown can cause a disaster, making them seek to manipulate things in order to fulfill their vision. Though they can face darkness, the Magician usually has the skill to unearth win-win solutions.
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  The Hero

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  The Hero is always willing to fight— metaphorically or literally—for the underdog. Their strength, bravery, boldness, and discipline means they often become champions of those weaker than themselves. Their willingness to dig in and work when things get hard inspires those around them. Always aiming to prove their prowess, the Hero abhors being weak, vulnerable, or cowardly. Sometimes they overcompensate for any shortcomings by becoming dictatorial or seeking out a fight. But at their core, Heroes will prove their worth through courageous acts and mastery that improves the world.
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  The Lover

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  The Lover delights in intimacy, sensuality, and emotion. They achieve their goal of connection by elevating simple moments, like a walk in the garden, into delightful experiences. This archetype thrives when their life is in harmony and naturally avoids conflicts. Lovers excel in pairs and fear ending up alone because they are unwanted or unloved. This desperation to have a partner can lead them to become people-pleasers or lose themselves in relationships. At their best, they bring passion, commitment, and gratitude to all their relationships
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  The Jester

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  The Jester usually acts as the life of the party, using their playfulness to brighten others' days. Unafraid to be innovative or outspoken, this archetype lives in the moment, often using their humor to conquer the hearts and minds of others. Sometimes the Jester's joy hides an inner sadness, as they find themselves bored by normalcy and fear they will bore others. This can lead them to waste their lives, losing themselves in frivolity. Their main aim is to liven up the world by spreading joy.
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  The Everyman

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  The Everyman comforts others by virtue of their authenticity, honesty, and hardworking nature. They're happy to support and collaborate with others because of their belief that all people should have equal rights and opportunities. This archetype's deep need to belong can leave them anxious that they'll be left out or stand out from the crowd. Sometimes they'd prefer to lose their individuality in order to fit in, making them cynical about others' uniqueness. Generally, you'll find they're open, honest people full of grit and empathy.
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  The Caregiver

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  The Caregiver loves to act as a mentor or guide, supporting and defending those around them. Usually consistent, trustworthy, and responsive, this archetype is a shoulder to lean on in times of trouble. They'll protect and care for anyone that falls into their circle. Since the Caregiver wants to be of service to others, they fear being selfish or ungrateful. Such fears often lead them to be exploited by people, becoming a martyr to the needs of others. Overall the compassion and generosity of this archetype makes them well loved.
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  The Ruler

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  The Ruler is an authority figure that isn't afraid to take control. Politically savvy, well-connected, and a natural leader, this archetype understands how people and power function. They use their talent for leadership to create prosperity by exerting their control. The orderly ruler has a nagging fear of chaos or being overthrown by their "subjects," which, at it's worst, can lead them to become quite controlling and tyrannical. Under usual circumstances, the Ruler leads responsibly and uses their talents to improve their dominion.
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  The Creator

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  The Creator takes on many forms like writer, designer, musician, inventor, engineer, or architect. They have a knack for bringing order to chaos through beauty, functionality, or both. This archetype is intensely creative and quite persuasive. Always on the hunt for excellent solutions to the world's disorder, the Creator worries that their ideas or creations will end up being mediocre rather than great. Their perfectionism and fear of coming up with a poor solution can paralyze them at times. At their best, the Creator marries creativity, imagination, and inventiveness into a harmonious combination.