How well do I contribute to my relationship?

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Quiz Questions

1.
1. I greet my partner warmly with eye contact during transitions of hellos and goodbyes.
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- A.
  Always
- B.
  Sometimes
- C.
  Rarely
- D.
  Never
2.
2. I make sure I know what makes my partner feel truly loved? (Is it touch? Reassuring words? Gifts? Undivided attention?)
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- A.
  I completely understand my partner's needs to feel loved and show them whenever possible
- B.
  I mostly understand them and usually show them
- C.
  I have a vague idea and either used to know, ignore it, pretend I know or my partner won't tell me.
- D.
  I have no idea!
3.
3. I try hard to see situations from my partner’s point of view.
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- A.
  I can always "step into their shoes" to understand my partner's perspective
- B.
  I sometimes do this and work hard to improve
- C.
  Infrequently
- D.
  Unfortunately, no!
4.
4. I do my fair share of responsibilities? (Whilst you can't divide every chore evenly, have/do you contribute similarly and enjoy a similar work ethic)
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- A.
  Yes, we have absolutely no problem about that
- B.
  Yes, usually
- C.
  Sometimes, but I usually ignore my partner's opinion on this
- D.
  No, we argue frequently about this topic
5.
5. I am assertive and can express my feelings to ask for what I need.
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- A.
  Yes, most times
- B.
  Yes, although I find it difficult at times
- C.
  No, I just forget about it until I can't hold it in anymore
- D.
  Never - I'm unable to do this.
6.
6. Do I feel overwhelmed during arguments?
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- A.
  No, because I am always calm and rational
- B.
  No, because I am so relaxed and little bothers me
- C.
  Sometimes, but it's not that serious
- D.
  Yes, often
7.
7. I can recover from disagreements within a reasonable time frame and put it behind me?
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- A.
  I forgive quickly and easily.
- B.
  Fairly fast
- C.
  In a few days
- D.
  It takes weeks or months
8.
8. Do I make an effort to instigate things we both find fun?
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  Yes, all the time
- B.
  Yes, most of the time
- C.
  Every now and then
- D.
  I rarely do that
9.
9. Do I provide compliments? (Eg. speak words of praise, draw, paint, write, email or text them)
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- A.
  Yes! I am constantly doing this
- B.
  Regularly, but even though it may not be reciprocated
- C.
  Sometimes
- D.
  Never
10.
10. Do I empathize with my parther when they need it?
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  Yes, I'm naturally empathetic despite what's happening in our relationship
- B.
  Sometimes - depending on the situation
- C.
  Rarely
- D.
  Never
11.
11. Do I manage my stress well? (Stress can be positive to spur action but negative stress too often can impact your relationship.)
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- A.
  I manage my stress levels so well it rarely impacts my relationship
- B.
  I'm fairly good at this
- C.
  My stress impacts my relationship at times
- D.
  Stress has a strong-hold on me and negatively impacts my partner
12.
12. Do I forgive within a reasonable timeframe?
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- A.
  Always
- B.
  Sometimes
- C.
  Rarely
- D.
  Never
13.
13. Do I pick up on my partner's cues and provide the type of support they need the most?
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- A.
  Always
- B.
  Sometimes
- C.
  Rarely
- D.
  Never
14.
14. Do I allow and seek individuality so we have a healthy balance of independence and couple time.
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- A.
  Yes absolutely
- B.
  Sometimes
- C.
  Rarely
- D.
  Never - I find it difficult to be apart from my partner most of the time.
15.
15. I am an attentive listener, put my phone down and give my spouse my full attention.
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- A.
  Always
- B.
  Sometimes
- C.
  Rarely
- D.
  Never
16.
16. I accept we have different intimacy needs and can easily talk about this topic.
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- A.
  Yes, I am very open about communicating around intimacy
- B.
  I'm fairly good about this
- C.
  I sometimes struggle in this area
- D.
  This is always a tough topic for me

Quiz Outcomes

1.
Your approach could be refined!
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Evaluating yourself when you or your relationship might be struggling is not the easiest thing in the world, to let alone find you could improve! It is also quite common that your self-evaluation is compromised due to your behaviour being the best attempts to cope as a result of your partner's role in the relationship. If in a relationship now, there were also questions that likely you do well but your partner would not and vice versa? Maybe could ask your partner to complete this quick quiz as well? IT IS NEVER TOO LATE TO BEGIN. If you've taken this in your mini-course, head back to the checklist for this Module 4 then enjoy finding out what really "floats your boat" in a relationship through the 5 Love Languages concept.
2.
Nice one - you're not too bad!
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Good job!!! You have or are doing fairly well on contributing to your relationship. I know that evaluating yourself when your relationship might be struggling is not the easiest thing in the world, to let alone find you could do better for all sorts of reasons. Some of those reasons might be beyond your control? Some of the questions you rated yourself well but your partner would not? If you're currently in a relationship, maybe could ask your partner to complete this quick quiz as well? If you've taken this quiz for your mini-course, head back to the checklist for this Module 4 then enjoy finding out what really "floats your boat" in a relationship through the 5 Love Languages concept.
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Expert
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Congratulations!!! You've nailed many elements of this relationship stuff. Good on you for impacting generations with your fine example. How would you spouse rate? Maybe could ask them to complete this quick quiz as well? If you've taken this for your mini-course, head back to the checklist for this Module 4 then enjoy finding out what really "floats your boat" in a relationship through the 5 Love Languages concept.