Do you feel that your relationship is a lot of hard work?

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Quiz Questions

1.
We regularly check-in and enjoy attentive and meaningful conversations
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- A.
  Most days
- B.
  Sometimes
- C.
  Rarely
- D.
  Never
2.
I have been able to enjoy greater success in life knowing I have a partner who is my No 1. fan!
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- A.
  Yes
- B.
  Unsure
- C.
  No
3.
I become worried our differences will not be solved and lose hope for our future.
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- A.
  All the time
- B.
  Often
- C.
  Sometimes
- D.
  Rarely
- E.
  Never
4.
I can always share my challenges, fears and down moments with my partner.
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- A.
  Always
- B.
  Sometimes
- C.
  Rarely
- D.
  Never
5.
My relationship empowers me to be the best version of myself
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- A.
  Yes
- B.
  Mostly
- C.
  Unsure
- D.
  No
6.
My partner is familiar with my hopes and aspirations.
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- A.
  They attentively listen and know everything I seek to achieve
- B.
  A fairly good idea
- C.
  They would not know
7.
We can confidently reconcile our differences within a reasonable timeframe.
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- A.
  within an hour
- B.
  within half a day
- C.
  within a day
- D.
  longer than a day
8.
When we argue or disagree...
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- A.
  We communicate effectively and find a solution within a reasonable time frame
- B.
  We work it out eventually but it takes awhile
- C.
  We sometimes struggle without resolution
- D.
  We usually can't find a solution
9.
We acknowledge and complement each other when out with others.
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- A.
  Frequently
- B.
  Sometimes
- C.
  Rarely
- D.
  Never
10.
I feel safe that we have each other's "back" and will support each other over our own friends and family.
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- A.
  Always
- B.
  Sometimes
- C.
  Rarely
- D.
  Never
11.
On average, we argue...
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- A.
  Daily
- B.
  3-6 times a week
- C.
  1-2 times a week
- D.
  Once a fortnight
- E.
  Once a month or Never
12.
When something exciting or interesting happens, I can't wait to tell my partner first.
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- A.
  Always
- B.
  Sometimes
- C.
  Rarely
- D.
  Never
13.
Even when we disagree, I know we love each other and are both committed to our relationship.
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- A.
  Yes most definitely
- B.
  Most of the time
- C.
  Unsure
- D.
  No, I feel insecure about this
14.
My partner focusses on win-win solutions for both, and never accepts win/lose without offering to make things right.
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- A.
  Yes, always
- B.
  They are fairly good at this
- C.
  Kind of sometimes
- D.
  Rarely
15.
We communicate our love for each other in ways that mean the most.
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- A.
  Frequently
- B.
  Most of the time
- C.
  Only on special celebration days
- D.
  Rarely
16.
My partner avoids conflict
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- A.
  Always
- B.
  Sometimes
- C.
  Rarely
- D.
  Never
17.
We discuss and share our values (eg. parenting, religion, open-mindedness)
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- A.
  We discuss often - some are different though we respect each other's values
- B.
  We discuss often and share common values
- C.
  Sometimes discuss
- D.
  Rarely
- E.
  We cannot talk about such things
18.
When I speak, my partner gives me their full attention (including placing their screen down!)
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- A.
  Always
- B.
  Usually
- C.
  Sometimes
- D.
  Rarely
- E.
  Never
19.
I find myself comparing parts of myself, my life, my relationship, or my achievements with others.
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- A.
  Often
- B.
  Sometimes
- C.
  Rarely
- D.
  Never
20.
We feel comfortable being with each other, even without talking
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- A.
  Always
- B.
  Sometimes
- C.
  Rarely
- D.
  Never - it is awkward
21.
I can confidently broach any topic with my spouse.
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- A.
  Always
- B.
  Most of the time
- C.
  Sometimes
- D.
  Rarely
- E.
  Never
22.
We can easily talk about intimate aspects of our relationship such as sex.
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- A.
  Always
- B.
  Most of the time
- C.
  Sometimes
- D.
  Rarely
- E.
  Never
23.
I can humbly admit when I am wrong.
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- A.
  Always
- B.
  Sometimes
- C.
  Rarely
- D.
  Never
24.
We listen well to each other even on topics we differ.
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- A.
  Always
- B.
  Sometimes
- C.
  Rarely
- D.
  Never
25.
(Nearly there - just 5 more questions after this...) I have become a better person for being with my partner.
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- A.
  Yes
- B.
  Mostly
- C.
  Unsure
- D.
  No
26.
Our arguments usually feature alcohol or drugs.
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- A.
  Always
- B.
  Sometimes
- C.
  Rarely
- D.
  Never
27.
We put our couple relationship above all others.
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- A.
  I do, however, my partner does not
- B.
  My partner does, however, I do not
- C.
  We both do all the time
- D.
  We kind of sometimes do
- E.
  We are both quite poor at this
28.
I am intimidated by my partner's responses when we disagree.
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- A.
  All the time
- B.
  Some of the time
- C.
  Rarely
- D.
  Never
29.
My partner and I are a "united front" in life!
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- A.
  Yes
- B.
  Mostly
- C.
  Unsure
- D.
  No
30.
My partner highlights the good things in me I cannot see.
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- A.
  Yes
- B.
  Sometimes
- C.
  Rarely
- D.
  Never

Quiz Outcomes

1.
The only way is up...
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I believe two things: everyone deserves a thriving and dynamic relationship, and most relationships need a little work to get there. To grow and blossom like a beautiful flower, y’know? Based on your score, there were a couple of things suggesting your relationship has a few growth areas. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying your relationship is doomed! But it feels like something’s not quite clicking here. Everyone’s unique. We all want to love and be loved in ways that are meaningful to us. To do that, we need to be able to confidently communicate that with our partners. We need to be respectful and compassionate. Sometimes that is hard, and sometimes we go about it all the wrong way. The good news is, this is pretty common. And much like my flower analogy, you can save a wilting relationship with the right tools, advice, and TLC. The first step is to lay a proper foundation. You can’t just plant seeds in the ground; you need to tend to the soil and make it fertile. In this case, that foundation is having the courage and motivation for positive change!. Growing a lush garden is easier said than done — who hasn’t tried in the past? (I tried growing carrots once - with the longest record of 4 cm - I’ll stick to my day job!) . Growing confidence can mean overcoming personal issues, negative thoughts, insecurities — it can be stressful just thinking about it! Sometimes what you need is a helping hand. Thanks to the pandemic, I can’t literally hold your hand through the process — but I can do it remotely! Lucky for you we won’t be doing any gardening of any form as sadly, I do not have a “green thumb”. Any future thank you gifts of plants will be wasted on me! You’ve got a few options from here: Do nothing and settle in for the long term “just ok” arid conditions (which is far less than you deserve). Leave your relationship and wonder what would have happened if you hadn’t fully tried all options. Contemplate action for positive growth and change (**warning** your end result might be option 1). Jump online and find your local relationship therapist for an appointment (not a bad option). Take action now with a timely injection of bite-sized inspirations and tasks to inform and transform your relationship! "How do I get Option 5?" you ask? Option 5 is expert guidance on how to discover the secrets to become more confident in yourself AND your relationship. It is called the 10-Day Relationship Recharge and starts THIS SATURDAY, 10 July. You just need around 30 minutes per day for 10 days for this mid-year perfectly timed recharge. It is packed with insights and tools founded on more than 15 years of my experience helping individuals and couples improve their lives and relationships, even in cases where all seemed lost. Trust me - it won’t be tricky rocket science, just a science-based, proven approach that works! Who will be guiding me, you ask? Hi - I’m Joanne Wilson, a relationship expert, neuropsychotherapist and renown media commentator, with a passion for helping people unlock the secrets to having healthy and loving relationships. I can’t wait to take the journey with you towards the love you deserve! Trust me - in my enthusiasm and passion for inspiring relationships, I've over-delivered for you on this one. The big bonus? It’s mighty cost-effective. My mission is to help people create healthy, thriving and safe relationships that can leave a legacy lasting generations. IT IS NEVER TOO LATE TO BEGIN.Joanne Wilson - The Relationship Rejuvenator IMPORTANT NOTE: If you feel physically or emotionally compromised and even unsafe - it is time to leave NOW! Have the courage to reach out to a trusted friend, family member or expert – you are more than worthy so take action to protect yourself.
2.
Blue skies with a few clouds
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Congratulations, it seems as though you have a pretty good relationship! At times, others could well admire what you’ve got going on there! You may have even gleaned some of your skills from The Notebook, When Harry Met Sally or Dirty Dancing? Whilst you're both fairly solid, you’ve also got your ups and downs. But how well do you go with those downs? Do they seem to take a little while to get over? Wouldn’t it be nice to kind of iron out those downs and just have more ups?Usually in this case what you’re missing (or at least, need more of) is one of the three pillars of a relationship - Confidence, Communication or Connection. From your quiz results, it looks like you could really elevate your relationship through better communication and quite likely, an improved approach to conflict. This isn’t to say you need to necessarily talk more (although that could be it!) but to approach things more effectively. Everyone is unique. We all want to love and be loved in ways that are meaningful to us. To do that, we need to be able to confidently communicate that with our partners. We need to be respectful and compassionate. We also need to be able to assertively put into words what we need or we'll end up repressing and obsessing over things before the odd self-combustion? I simply can’t reach every couple to transform and revitalise their relationship in my private counselling practice. I long to give anyone struggling a deep dive in proven, researched effective communication and conflict resolution skills in the shortest amount of time! You’ve got a few options from here: Do nothing and settle in for the “just ok” co-existence (which is far less than you deserve). Eventually leave your relationship and wonder what would have happened if you hadn’t fully invested in all the options. Contemplate action for positive growth and change (**warning** your end result might be option 1). Jump online and find your local relationship therapist for an appointment (not a bad option). Take action now with a timely injection of bite-sized inspirations and tasks to inform and transform your relationship! "How do I get Option 5?", you ask?Option 5 is expert guidance on how to discover the secrets to become more confident in yourself AND your relationship. I wanted to call it “How to improve your relationship real quick with the least effort possible with someone who really does care” , but marketing said I should make it snappier. So, I present to you,THE 10-DAY RELATIONSHIP RECHARGE!.It starts THIS SATURDAY, 10 July. You just need around 30 minutes per day for 10 days for this mid-year perfectly timed recharge. It is packed with insights and tools founded on more than 15 years of my experience helping individuals and couples improve their lives and relationships, even in cases where all seemed lost. Trust me - it won’t be tricky rocket science, just a science-based, proven approach that works! Who will be guiding me, you ask? Hi - I’m Joanne Wilson, a relationship expert, neuropsychotherapist and renown media commentator, with a passion for helping people unlock the secrets to having healthy and loving relationships. I can’t wait to take the journey with you towards the love you deserve! Trust me - in my enthusiasm and passion for inspiring relationships, I've over-delivered for you on this one and it’s mighty cost effective! My mission is to help people create healthy, thriving and safe relationships that can leave a legacy lasting generations so see you in the Recharge! IT IS NEVER TOO LATE TO BEGIN. Joanne Wilson - The Relationship Rejuvenator
3.
Smooth ride with projected higher altitudes
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How great are you both then? Your relationship seems like it is going really strong and heading in the right direction. Nice one! Have you been studying 50 First Dates, Notting Hill, Footloose or something? You should be proud of your fine example – it shows real dedication, commitment and worthy of boasting to anyone who will listen! I sure would. But if you’re in it for the long haul, you want to be prepared. Life throws all sorts of challenges at us — see also, the entirety of last year! These challenges can throw some unwanted turbulence on the otherwise smooth flight of your relationship. What do you do then? The 3 vital ingredients of successful relationships are Confidence, Communication and Connection. Your score indicates you have many of the key elements of a great relationship under control. When problems arise, you’ll be able to confidently navigate sudden drops in altitude with your partner. But what about Connection? Emotional connections. Spiritual connections. And … connection connections. If you know what I mean. Look, let’s not beat around the bush. Intimacy, passion, and romance are incredibly important in a relationship. They can form a bond tight enough to weather the roughest turbulence. I’m a relationship specialist, and even I am perplexed by the effectiveness of this mysterious bonding element evident in thriving relationships! As a couple that is travelling well (maybe even beyond our shores again one day!) but wants to achieve a deeper, more intimate connection. I simply can’t reach every couple to transform and revitalise their relationship in my private counselling practice. I long to give anyone researched effective communication and conflict resolution skills in the shortest amount of time! You’ve got a few options from here: Do nothing and settle in for the long-term and wonder if there’s more to this expert’s concept of connection? Contemplate action for positive growth and change (**warning** your end result might be option 1). Jump online and find your local relationship therapist for an appointment (not a bad option). Take action now with a timely injection of bite-sized inspirations and tasks to inform and transform your relationship! "How do I get Option 4?", you ask? Option 4 is expert guidance on how to discover the secrets to gain an even deeper connection. I wanted to call it “How to improve your relationship real quick with the least effort possible with someone who really does care”, but marketing said I should make it snappier. So, I present to you, THE 10-DAY RELATIONSHIP RECHARGE! It starts THIS SATURDAY, 10 July. You just need around 30 minutes per day for 10 days for this mid-year perfectly timed recharge. It is packed with insights and tools founded on more than 15 years of my experience helping individuals and couples improve their lives and relationships, even in cases where all seemed lost. Trust me - it won’t be tricky rocket science, just a science-based, proven approach that works! Who will be guiding me, you ask? Hi - I’m Joanne Wilson, a relationship expert, neuropsychotherapist and renown media commentator, with a passion for helping people unlock the secrets to having healthy and loving relationships. I can’t wait to take the journey with you towards the love you deserve! Trust me - in my enthusiasm and passion for inspiring relationships, I've over-delivered for you on this one and it’s mighty cost effective! Don’t be left “Up In The Air” on this one… go with a “Flight Plan” that really works so you’ll be “Flying High” to dreamy heights.Ok, enough of the cheesy movies… My mission is to help people create healthy, thriving and safe relationships that can leave a legacy lasting generations. See you in the Recharge! IT IS NEVER TOO LATE TO BEGIN. Joanne Wilson - The Relationship Rejuvenator