Like the scouts who believed Leaf was a better pick than Manning, you started out with high hopes for your marriage. Unfortunately, both went sour.You perceive your marriage as messy and unstable, full of conflicts and disconnect. That is not anyone's fault, not yours and not your wife's.A relationship is essentially built based on two separate individuals trying to reach a common ground and mutually understand each other. Over time, various factors can cause partners to stop asking for what they want; a divide grows. Left unaddressed, the two of you have grown apart and one (or both) of you feels lonely within the relationship. (Isn't the point of marriage to never be lonely again? WTH?!)With desire and consistent effort, your relationship can be nurtured and restored into the marriage you envisioned when you first fell in love. It starts with providing a safe space for you to share YOUR experience and finally be heard.
You're a good sport and you keep suiting up, but you've been on the sidelines far too long.Maybe you and your wife don't argue all the time, but you're certainly not connecting with one another. Maybe you feel more like roommates than lovers; there's no fighting, but you could just as well be invisible.If you feel invisible, how do you get your emotional and physical needs met? Do you ask your wife for what you need, or do you bottle these needs because you don't want to appear "weak"? Maybe there's so much pressure on you as "the man of the house" that you put the role of provider over your own needs, leaving them lost and forgotten.Connection can only grow from vulnerability and authenticity. If you feel frustrated and/or shut down, you're keeping yourself behind walls that keep you separate from your loved ones. It might be hard to imagine opening up at this point, but with gentle encouragement in a non-judgmental container, you can get back to YOU and gain confidence to share that with your wife.
Just when you think you can't last another season, you want back in! You're not one to give up easily, but your commitment isn't without challenges.To have a relationship you LOVE, rather than a "pretty stable" one, you and your wife must communicate more with each other.To communicate is to talk and listen. It is not just about conveying, it is about making sure your wife understands what you need or want. It is not just about hearing, it is about you understanding why your wife might have resistance to providing what you need or want. By learning effective techniques for authentic communication, you can get back to MVP status (unlike Brett, who finally did retire).
MVP, baby! Like Peterson, you've had setbacks but you're still winning!Your marriage is going strong and heading in the right direction. You have a solid foundation from which you've built a lasting connection, and you successfully push through torn ligaments along the way.Always remember that you and your wife are two distinct individuals and you are choosing her for both her good AND bad points. Together you are stronger, but only if you both consistently show up for one another.Love is all about finding a balance that works for the both of you. You and your wife may still have challenges and times when your needs get put on the back burner. Relationships require compromise, but not to the extent that you feel neglected. By consistently practicing a few simple techniques, you can keep that connection thriving and hold onto your title even longer than Manning.