Discover Your BIG LIE™

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Quiz Questions

1.
Reflect on a time when you felt completely overwhelmed and things seemed way out of control. The negative voices in the disconnected side of your emotional brain were saying…
- A.
  I need to think this all the way through and get comfortable with the situation before deciding. Things are moving forward too fast.
- B.
  I spring into action and charge forward no matter who or what is in my way.
- C.
  I need connection and collaboration. This is what decreases my anxiety and helps me figure things out.
- D.
  I research and analyze the situation. I must identify what are the correct next steps.
2.
Think about a time when someone you loved was upset and giving you the silent treatment. The negative thoughts in the disconnected side of your emotional brain were thinking…
- A.
  What else can I do to make you feel better and happy with me? This feels unbearable. I will just keep on trying to reconnect over and over.
- B.
  I am tired of saying “what’s wrong”. If you won’t talk to me, I give up. It’s your choice. I don’t have time for unproductive energy.
- C.
  I don’t hesitate to state my opinion as I know the way you are acting is wrong and you just need to hear the facts.
- D.
  I wish I knew what was wrong and I will just keep the peace. Of course, if I feel the situation is intolerable, I let my opinion be known. It generally takes me some time to get there.
3.
Think about a time when someone you counted on dropped the ball and disappointed you, the negative voices in the disconnected side of your emotional brain were saying…
- A.
  I hate upsets and will wait and see what happens. I’ll give it some time and will speak up when I feel enough is enough.
- B.
  If you can’t get this done, I will. No point in wasting time.
- C.
  I will tread extremely carefully as I don’t want you to get mad at me. It is hard for me to address my disappointment.
- D.
  I just need to tell them what they did wrong and how they should fix it.
4.
Think about a time when you made a huge mistake, and everyone was sharing their feedback hoping to help you. The negative thoughts in the disconnected side of your emotional brain were saying…
- A.
  I feel bad enough already. Your feedback is only hurting my feelings more.
- B.
  I get very defensive. I already know what I need to do to correct this situation. No point in listening.
- C.
  I am highly uncomfortable with mistakes. I will need time to digest your feedback.
- D.
  Share your feedback and get out of my way. I’m on it.
5.
Reflect on a time where you felt really conflicted about a risky situation that might also bring a great opportunity. The negative voices in the disconnected side of your emotional brain were saying …
- A.
  If I do this and things go wrong, people are going to get upset with me. That will feel awful.
- B.
  I carefully weigh the data and speak definitively to the various risk-reward scenarios before determining what is the best approach.
- C.
  I talk to people who can help me figure out how to minimize the risk or walk away. I need input from smart people. I don’t really care what the rest have to say.
- D.
  When I feel certain of how it will affect me and clearly understand the game plan, I will then decide what I want to do.
6.
Reflect on a time when things weren’t going well, and you felt defeated. The negative voices in the disconnected side of your emotional brain…
- A.
  Quietly worry
- B.
  Become hyper-analytical
- C.
  Move into fanatical action mode
- D.
  Get stuck in your emotions
7.
Imagine you are buying a car and you are worried that the salesperson is ripping you off. The negative voices in the disconnected side of your emotional brain are saying…
- A.
  I know what the facts are and what I should pay. I will correct the salesperson directly.
- B.
  I need to quickly out of here. I don’t feel comfortable.
- C.
  What is most important is that I feel happy about the purchase.
- D.
  If it isn’t a good deal I walk. There are a lot of purchasing options.
8.
Your computer screen just went black, and the spinning wheel of death won’t stop. You haven’t saved anything for hours and are really worried you have lost the project that is at deadline. The negative voices in the disconnected side of your emotional brain are saying…
- A.
  This computer should have auto-saved my work. It’s not acceptable if it didn’t and they need to fix this!
- B.
  Everyone is going to be so upset and disappointed with me for running behind.
- C.
  Who can fix this mess and find my work? Now!
- D.
  I am going to call IT and hope it isn’t a problem. I will quietly worry in silence for now.
9.
Think of a time when you had a big disagreement with someone and felt disrespected. The negative voices in the disconnected side of your emotional brain were…
- A.
  Aggressively trying to win them over to my point of view and if I can’t, I feel exasperated and move on.
- B.
  I dig in and deliver the facts as I see them and don’t let go. I will prove my point. I can be a dog with a bone sometimes.
- C.
  I worry about it a lot and patiently hope the disagreement will resolve itself.
- D.
  I will do anything to re-connect and feel better I may give in even if I don’t agree.
10.
Reflect on a time where someone was negative and was sucking your energy. The negative voices in the disconnected side of your emotional brain were saying…
- A.
  I need to let them know this is not okay and that they need to correct their mindset. It impacts everyone around them and that is just not right!
- B.
  I can’t help you. There’s no point in wasting my time or being around you.
- C.
  I engage over and over to try and help them feel better. I really want to bring them around.
- D.
  I wonder a lot about what is upsetting them. I don’t want to do anything to make them feel worse, so I don’t say anything.

Quiz Outcomes

1.
I MUST BE RIGHT
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We all have our moments when the little people in our brain get nasty, disappointed, or afraid. These negative voices only live in the disconnected side of your emotional brain, and for you, when this happens, you tend to dig in as your BIG LIE™ is I MUST BE RIGHT.When your BIG LIE™ is in full swing, you feel a need to move into an aggressive defense, especially when challenged. You whip out your “absolute” version of the facts to prove you are right when you are in your disconnected side of your emotional brain. Being wrong is not even possible. In this mindset, you are unlikely to make decisions based on other people’s “potentially wrong” opinions. You find it hard to take risks outside of what you know with absolute certainty to be right. You are likely to dig your heels in and can be extremely stubborn. As you already have the “right answer,” there really isn’t a reason to listen. To others, you overwhelm them with your “absolute version of data and facts” so aggressively they may avoid telling you what you really need or want to know. To learn more about your BIG LIE™ and how to manage it, see pages 185-189 in your book. Haven't purchased HEADTRASH, the Leading Killer of Human Potential yet, get your copy here.
2.
I MUST NEVER LOSE
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We all have our moments when the little people in our brain get nasty, disappointed, or afraid. These negative voices only live in the disconnected side of your emotional brain, and for you, when this happens, you tend to move aggressively into action as your BIG LIE™ is I MUST NEVER LOSE.When your BIG LIE™ kicks in, you are a rhinoceros charging forward as you are now on a mission to win at all costs regardless of other people’s feelings. On the surface, you may look like a collaborator as you are on the lookout for everyone’s great ideas and solutions so you can move into action because action means you are on your way to victory. Unfortunately, if a person doesn’t have anything you deem part of a winning plan, you dismiss them as who has a use for people without a solution. When you are in your I MUST NEVER LOSE mindset; you are inconsiderate and insensitive. You are the ultimate ugly loser, and don’t notice that you have hurt or insulted people around you inadvertently. To others, you are so aggressively focused on “not losing,” that they may avoid telling you what you really need or want to know..To learn more about your BIG LIE™ and how to manage it, see pages 191-194 in your book. Haven't purchased HEADTRASH, the Leading Killer of Human Potential yet, get your copy here.
3.
EVERYONE MUST LOVE ME
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We all have our moments when the little people in our brain get nasty, disappointed, or afraid. These negative voices only live in the disconnected side of your emotional brain, and for you, when this happens, you tend to move into an extreme need to please and connect as your BIG LIE™ is EVERYONE MUST LOVE ME.When in the disconnected side of your emotional brain, your fanatical need for people to like you turns on your enabling way, and you feel deflated as you are not feeling connected. You can be overly sensitive as emotions run your thinking rather than logic. You have a high need for positive feedback as it reinforces your beliefs and tough love is too tough. Your mindset leads you to “please at all costs,” which can be exhausting. You find it hard to speak your truth as hurting another person’s feelings should be avoided at all costs. “What if they don’t like me anymore?” is a thought you cannot bear. You can feel beat up by others who do not relate to your need to be in rapport and connection over all else. To some, you are “super sensitive,” so they may avoid telling you what you want or need to know.To learn more about your BIG LIE™ and how to manage it, see pages 195-198 in your book. Haven't purchased HEADTRASH, the Leading Killer of Human Potential yet, get your copy here.
4.
I MUST FEEL COMFORTABLE
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We all have our moments when the little people in our brain get nasty, afraid, or disappointed. These negative voices only live in the disconnected side of your emotional brain, and for you, when this happens, you tend to quietly wait and worry as your BIG LIE™ is I MUST FEEL COMFORTABLE. You tend to overthink things causing you to not move quickly. You are highly uncomfortable when things are in chaos. You worry excessively and secretly prefer things not to change too soon. You resent others when things are out of your control, and you are not in agreement with their direction. You can be highly reactive when you make a mistake, as mistakes are uncomfortable.When you have an I MUST BE COMFORTABLE mindset, you can procrastinate as you want to make the perfect decision, as making a mistake is highly uncomfortable for you. You can feel neglected or hurt by others who do not allow you the time to think through new ideas, directions, or perspectives as your need to feel comfortable is most important. To others, you “overthink everything” and therefore can lack agility, so they may avoid telling you what you want or really need to knowTo learn more about your BIG LIE™ and how to manage it, see pages 199-202 in your book. Haven't purchased HEADTRASH, the Leading Killer of Human Potential yet, get your copy here.