What’s Your Attachment Style & How Is It Sabotaging Your Goals?

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Quiz Questions

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Question 1: When someone you care about doesn't text you back quickly, you:
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  A) Immediately start spiraling - Did I say something wrong? Are they mad at me? Are they losing interest? You check your phone constantly and may even send a follow-up text.
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  B) Feel irritated and think, "They're being needy" or "This is too much." You might pull back or deliberately wait even longer to respond yourself.
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  C) Feel confused and anxious, but also want to shut down. Part of you wants to reach out desperately, but another part wants to ghost them first before they can reject you.
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  D) Think, "They're probably busy" and go about your day. You trust they'll respond when they can and don't take it personally.
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Question 2: When you're pursuing a big goal (career, business, relationship), your internal dialogue sounds like:
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  A) "What if I fail? What if people think I'm not good enough? Maybe I should just play it safe. I need constant validation that I'm on the right track."
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  B) "I don't need anyone's help. I've got this handled. Asking for support feels weak. I can do everything myself."
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  C) "I want this so badly, but I'm terrified of actually getting it. What if I succeed and then lose it? Maybe it's safer to not try at all."
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  D) "This is challenging, but I can handle it. If I need help, I'll ask. Success and failure are both part of growth."
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Question 3: In conflict with a romantic partner or close friend, you typically:
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  A) Get very emotional and need to resolve it immediately. You may cry, over-explain, or apologize excessively. The thought of them being upset with you is unbearable.
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  B) Shut down, withdraw, or say "I need space." You may think they're being dramatic or too emotional. Conflict feels suffocating and you just want out.
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  C) Flip between pursuing them intensely and then suddenly pulling away completely. You might lash out, then apologize, then distance yourself, creating a chaotic back-and-forth.
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  D) Communicate calmly about how you feel, listen to their perspective, and work together toward a solution. You can tolerate discomfort without needing to flee or fix it immediately.
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Question 4: When you think about being vulnerable with someone (sharing fears, needs, emotions), you feel:
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  A) Desperate to share everything immediately. You may overshare or trauma-dump early on, hoping it will create closeness and prove you trust them.
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  B) Deeply uncomfortable. Vulnerability feels like weakness or losing control. You'd rather keep things surface-level and handle your emotions privately.
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  C) Terrified and conflicted. Part of you craves deep intimacy, but another part fears that if they really see you, they'll leave. So you reveal just enough to keep them close, but not enough to truly be known.
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  D) Safe and open. You can share your authentic self at a healthy pace, trusting that the right people will appreciate your vulnerability.
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Question 5: When someone expresses strong interest in you (romantically or professionally), your first reaction is:
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  A) Excitement and relief! Finally, someone sees your worth. You may immediately start planning the future or become intensely focused on this person/opportunity.
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  B) Suspicion or discomfort. You wonder what they want from you or feel smothered by their attention. You may start to pull away or find flaws in them.
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  C) A mix of excitement and panic. You want their attention but fear they'll discover you're "too much" or "not enough." You may test them or push them away to see if they'll stay.
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  D) Appreciation and curiosity. You're flattered but take time to assess if this is truly aligned with what you want. You don't rush or retreat—you stay present.
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Question 6: When you're stressed or overwhelmed, you cope by:
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  A) Reaching out to others constantly—calling, texting, venting. You need reassurance and comfort from the people you love. Being alone feels unbearable.
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  B) Withdrawing completely. You isolate, binge-watch TV, work obsessively, or numb out. You don't want to burden anyone or appear weak.
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  C) Oscillating between reaching out desperately and then pushing people away when they try to help. You want support but fear depending on anyone.
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  D) Using a mix of self-soothing and reaching out to trusted people. You can sit with discomfort while also accepting healthy support.
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Question 7: When you imagine your "ideal" relationship or life, you think:
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  A) "I just want someone who will always be there for me, never leave me, and make me feel safe and loved constantly." Your happiness feels dependent on having the right person or circumstances.
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  B) "I want independence, freedom, and no one making demands on my time or emotions." Closeness feels like a loss of self, so you prioritize autonomy above all else.
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  C) "I want deep love and connection, but I don't trust it will last. I'm waiting for the other shoe to drop or for them to hurt me, so I keep one foot out the door."
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  D) "I want a partnership where we both have space to grow, mutual respect, trust, and the ability to navigate challenges together without losing ourselves."
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Question 8: When you achieve success (promotion, weight loss, business win), your first thought is:
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  A) "What if I can't maintain this? What if people expect too much from me now? What if I lose it all?" Success feels temporary and fragile.
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  B) "See? I did it myself. I don't need anyone." You deflect compliments or downplay the win. Celebrating feels uncomfortable or unnecessary.
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  C) "I don't deserve this. It's only a matter of time before I mess it up or it gets taken away." You struggle to enjoy your wins because you expect loss.
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  D) "I worked hard for this, and I'm proud." You can celebrate your achievements, acknowledge support from others, and trust that you're capable of sustaining your growth.
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Question 9: In your career or business, you tend to:
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  A) Seek constant external validation—checking in with mentors, asking for feedback obsessively, or needing reassurance that you're doing well. Criticism feels devastating.
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  B) Operate in total isolation—rarely asking for help, dismissing feedback, or sabotaging partnerships because you "don't need anyone." Delegation feels impossible.
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  C) Sabotage yourself right before breakthroughs. You'll work hard to build something, then quit, ghost clients, or burn bridges when things start to go well because success feels unsafe.
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  D) Collaborate when needed, receive feedback without taking it personally, and push through challenges without needing constant reassurance or isolating completely.
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Question 10: If you had to describe your relationship with your own emotions, you'd say:
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  A) "My emotions control me. I feel everything so intensely. I'm either totally fine or completely falling apart. I need others to help me regulate."
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  B) "I don't like emotions—mine or other people's. I push them down, rationalize them away, or stay busy so I don't have to feel. Emotions feel dangerous or weak."
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  C) "My emotions are chaotic and unpredictable. I swing between extremes—numbness and overwhelm, rage and sadness. I don't trust myself or my feelings."
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  D) "I feel my emotions fully, but I don't let them control me. I can sit with discomfort, process what I'm feeling, and choose how to respond."

Quiz Outcomes

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Preoccupied - Boa Constrictor
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ANXIOUS-PREOCCUPIED ATTACHMENT"I need you to validate me so I can feel okay."How It's Sabotaging You:You're giving away your power by making your peace dependent on others' approval.You chase relationships and opportunities that aren't reciprocal, leaving you exhausted.Your need for reassurance pushes people away, creating the very abandonment you fear.You struggle to trust yourself, constantly seeking external validation before making decisions.Your goals feel impossible because you're waiting for permission or support to pursue them.What You Need:You need to develop self-soothing skills, build internal validation, and learn that love doesn't require you to shrink, beg, or prove your worth. You're ready to stop chasing and start choosing—relationships, opportunities, and a life that feels secure from the inside out.Your AU Path: H.E.R.S. Track - Healing Emotions, Relationships & SelfWhy This Track:The H.E.R.S. track is designed specifically for you—the woman who's tired of overthinking, fearing rejection, and feeling like you're never enough. It's time for your breakthrough.What You'll Get:Get Naked Group Coaching Program: Learn to express emotions without fear, set boundaries without guilt, and build deep, fulfilling connections that feel effortless.Game Changer Dating Membership: Stop chasing unavailable people and start attracting relationships where you feel valued, cherished, and safe.Thank You Next Divorce Support Membership: If you're navigating divorce, learn to process your emotions, co-parent with confidence, and rebuild your sense of self.Your Breakthrough:You'll rewrite your love story—one where you know your worth, trust yourself, and build relationships from a place of wholeness, not need. It's time to stop chasing and start choosing—starting with you.Next Step: Join the H.E.R.S. track and get access to the exact tools to heal anxious attachment and step into the confident, secure woman you were always meant to be.READY TO LEAD OR LOVE FROM A SECURE PLACE?Choose Your Path:🌸 Anxious-Preoccupied? → Start with H.E.R.S. Track💼 Anxious-Avoidant? → Start with B-School Track💔 Disorganized-Fearful? → Start with H.E.R.S. Track + L.U.X.E. League✨ Secure? → Explore Couples College or L.U.X.E. LeagueSTILL NOT SURE? START HERE:Follow Me on Social Media for Daily Healing TipsInstagram: @AttachmentUniversityLinkedIn: Dr. Saudia TwineFacebook: Attachment UniversityYou don't have to stay stuck in patterns that no longer serve you. Personal, Professional and Relational Success are possible. Security is possible. The love and life you want are possible.Welcome to Attachment University. Let's do this together. 💛
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Avoidant - The Light Switch
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ANXIOUS-AVOIDANT (DISMISSIVE-AVOIDANT) ATTACHMENT"I don't need anyone. I've got this handled."How It's Sabotaging You:You're blocking intimacy, support, and opportunities because vulnerability feels like weakness.Your "I'll do it myself" mindset is leading to burnout, isolation, and missed connections.You push away the very people who could support you, then feel lonely and misunderstood.You struggle to delegate, collaborate, or ask for help—limiting your growth potential.Your relationships feel surface-level because you won't let anyone truly see you.What You Need:You need to learn that interdependence is strength, not weakness. True success isn't about doing it all alone—it's about building a life where you can be both powerful AND connected, independent AND supported.Your AU Path: B-School Track - The Balanced Boss BlueprintWhy This Track:You're a high-achieving, high-earning woman—an executive, entrepreneur, or leader—and while you're thriving professionally, the truth is: it's heavy. You lead with excellence everywhere you go, but beneath the accolades and the confidence, there's exhaustion and isolation.What You'll Get:The Balanced Boss Blueprint Membership: Your space to be seen, heard, and supported by women who understand your grind and your heart.Emotional wellness tools for high-achievers who need a soft place to land.Real conversations with like-minded women who get the pressure of being "the only one" and "the strong one".A sisterhood that understands your success—and the weight that comes with it.Your Breakthrough:You'll learn to take the mask off, heal what success can't always cover, and build a life that feels just as good as it looks. You'll discover that asking for support doesn't make you weak—it makes you wise.Also Consider:S.O.L.O. Track: Self-paced programs like ABCs to Mastering Emotions and The Next Box (Shots Fired, S.O.S.) to work on emotional regulation and communication at your own pace.M.R.S. Track: If you're married and struggle with emotional intimacy, Mastering Connection Group Coaching will help you open up and deepen your partnership.Next Step: Join the B-School track and discover what it feels like to lead powerfully while also being fully supported.READY TO LEAD OR LOVE FROM A SECURE PLACE?Choose Your Path:🌸 Anxious-Preoccupied? → Start with H.E.R.S. Track💼 Anxious-Avoidant? → Start with B-School Track💔 Disorganized-Fearful? → Start with H.E.R.S. Track + L.U.X.E. League✨ Secure? → Explore Couples College or L.U.X.E. LeagueSTILL NOT SURE? START HERE:Follow Me on Social Media for Daily Healing TipsInstagram: @AttachmentUniversityLinkedIn: Dr. Saudia TwineFacebook: Attachment UniversityYou don't have to stay stuck in patterns that no longer serve you. Personal, Professional and Relational Success are possible. Security is possible. The love and life you want are possible.Welcome to Attachment University. Let's do this together. 💛
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Disorganized/Fearful - The Pendulum
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DISORGANIZED-FEARFUL ATTACHMENT"I want love, but I'm terrified of getting hurt."How It's Sabotaging You:You sabotage relationships and opportunities right when things start to go well because success feels unsafe.You oscillate between desperately pursuing people/goals and then abruptly withdrawing.Your nervous system is stuck in survival mode—trust feels dangerous, vulnerability feels terrifying.You push away the very things you want most because deep down, you expect to be hurt or abandoned.Your goals feel out of reach because you can't sustain forward momentum without self-sabotaging.What You Need:You need deep healing, nervous system regulation, and a safe space to learn that love and success don't have to end in pain. You deserve to feel safe in connection—with yourself, with others, and with your dreams.Your AU Path: H.E.R.S. Track + L.U.X.E. LeagueWhy This Track:You need both structured healing AND immersive experiences where you can feel safe, seen, and supported in real-time.What You'll Get:H.E.R.S. Track:Get Naked Group Coaching Program: A safe container to heal anxious attachment, process trauma, and develop earned-secure responses.Thank You Next Divorce Support Membership: If past relationships left you wounded, this helps you process the pain and rebuild trust.The Next Box Digital Coaching: Self-paced emotional regulation tools (9-1-1 Emergency, Cheat Sheet, S.O.S.) for moments when you feel triggered or overwhelmed.L.U.X.E. League:Black & Bling Event: A celebration where you can show up fully and feel valued in a room full of women who see you.AU: Spring Break Retreat: A soul-refreshing escape where you heal, celebrate, and grow in sisterhood, softness, and feminine power.Your Breakthrough:You'll learn to trust yourself, regulate your nervous system, and build relationships that feel safe instead of scary. You'll stop waiting for the other shoe to drop and start believing that good things can last.Next Step: Start with the H.E.R.S. track for ongoing support, and book your spot at the next L.U.X.E. League event for an immersive healing experience.READY TO LEAD OR LOVE FROM A SECURE PLACE?Choose Your Path:🌸 Anxious-Preoccupied? → Start with H.E.R.S. Track💼 Anxious-Avoidant? → Start with B-School Track💔 Disorganized-Fearful? → Start with H.E.R.S. Track + L.U.X.E. League✨ Secure? → Explore Couples College or L.U.X.E. LeagueSTILL NOT SURE? START HERE:Follow Me on Social Media for Daily Healing TipsInstagram: @AttachmentUniversityLinkedIn: Dr. Saudia TwineFacebook: Attachment UniversityYou don't have to stay stuck in patterns that no longer serve you. Personal, Professional and Relational Success are possible. Security is possible. The love and life you want are possible.Welcome to Attachment University. Let's do this together. 💛
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Secure - The Anchor
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SECURE ATTACHMENT"I trust myself, I trust others, and I can handle whatever comes."How It's Showing Up:You communicate openly and navigate conflict without shutting down or spiralingYou can be vulnerable without losing yourself and independent without isolatingYou celebrate success without downplaying it and handle failure without collapsingYou trust your emotions, process them healthily, and use them as information—not controlYou build relationships from wholeness, not needWhat You Need:Even with secure attachment, you're not immune to challenges. Life transitions, relationship struggles, and personal growth require continued investment in your emotional wellness.Your AU Path: C2 Track - Couples College OR L.U.X.E. LeagueWhy These Tracks:You've done the work to become secure, but relationships and personal growth are lifelong journeys. These tracks help you maintain, deepen, and celebrate your progress.What You'll Get:Couples College (C2 Track):DateNite Annual Summer Event: Reconnect, reignite intimacy, and prioritize your relationship.Mastering Connection Workshops: Deepen communication and emotional attunement with your partner.AU: Homecoming Couples Retreat: An immersive, unforgettable experience to invest in your love.Valentine's Day DateNite Event: Celebrate your partnership and keep the spark alive.L.U.X.E. League:Black & Bling Event: Celebrate your growth, connect with other secure women, and continue your journey.AU: Spring Break Retreat: Pour into yourself, connect with powerful women, and experience sisterhood and self-care.Your Breakthrough:You'll continue to evolve, deepen your relationships, and lead from a place of wholeness. Secure attachment doesn't mean you stop growing—it means you grow from a foundation of strength.Next Step: Choose Couples College if you want to invest in your partnership, or join L.U.X.E. League to continue your personal growth journey in sisterhood.READY TO LEAD OR LOVE FROM A SECURE PLACE?Choose Your Path:🌸 Anxious-Preoccupied? → Start with H.E.R.S. Track💼 Anxious-Avoidant? → Start with B-School Track💔 Disorganized-Fearful? → Start with H.E.R.S. Track + L.U.X.E. League✨ Secure? → Explore Couples College or L.U.X.E. LeagueSTILL NOT SURE? START HERE:Follow Me on Social Media for Daily Healing TipsInstagram: @AttachmentUniversityLinkedIn: Dr. Saudia TwineFacebook: Attachment UniversityYou don't have to stay stuck in patterns that no longer serve you. Personal, Professional and Relational Success are possible. Security is possible. The love and life you want are possible.Welcome to Attachment University. Let's do this together. 💛

What’s Your Attachment Style &amp; How Is It Sabotaging Your Goals?

Discover How Your Attachment Style Is Holding You Back From Love, Success &amp; PeaceQUIZ INSTRUCTIONSAnswer each question honestly based on how you typically feel and behave in relationships and life.For each question, choose the response that resonates most with you.

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What’s Your Attachment Style & How Is It Sabotaging Your Goals?

Discover How Your Attachment Style Is Holding You Back From Love, Success & PeaceQUIZ INSTRUCTIONSAnswer each question honestly based on how you typically feel and behave in relationships and life.For each question, choose the response that resonates most with you.