Love Delay Assessment

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Quiz Questions

1.
The last time a decent man showed genuine interest in you, what happened?
- A.
  I prayed about it, did not feel a clear sign from God and eventually the connection fizzled while I was waiting for confirmation.
- B.
  I was cordial but kept things surface level. I never really let it go anywhere and honestly felt relieved when it did not.
- C.
  I got excited. The chemistry was there and things moved fast and was great, until it wasn't.
- D.
  We went on a date. It was fine. But something felt off and honestly I am not sure if it was him or me.
2.
When was the last time you proactively did something to put yourself in a position to meet someone? What did you do?
- A.
  I have not really done anything specific. If God wants it to happen it will happen without me forcing it.
- B.
  It has been a while. I used to try but I stopped. Life is full and I am not sure I want to deal with the process anymore.
- C.
  I put myself out there regularly. The problem is not finding them. It is what happens after. Sometimes I step away from it all.
- D.
  I follow a few dating content creators but honestly dating has gotten pushed to the back burner. I think I am still healing.
3.
A man you were dating or getting to know said or did something that bothered you. What did you do?
- A.
  I prayed about it and took it as confirmation he was not the one.
- B.
  I pulled back without saying much.
- C.
  I never really bought it up. I offered him grace or forgave him.
- D.
  I brought it up. It was a miscommunication. But I am still curious why I interpreted it that way.
4.
Look back at your last two or three dating and relationship experiences. What is the most honest pattern you can identify?
- A.
  There have not been many. I have been in a season of focusing on God.
- B.
  You know what, life without a man just seems so much easier than life with one. I typically exited stage left.
- C.
  Great chemistry at the start. Something I missed surfaces later.
- D.
  I can see that I bring something into each one that I have not fully figured out yet. The situations are different but something about my role in them feels familiar.
5.
Your friend invites you to a singles event or sets you up with someone she thinks is great. What happens?
- A.
  I told her if God wants to send someone He knows where to find me.
- B.
  I talked to him but honestly I quickly felt like I could be doing something else with my time.
- C.
  I went and felt the spark immediately. The beginning always feels promising.
- D.
  I went but felt a bit rusty. It was fine but I definitely need more practice.
6.
Someone you trust and love OR some random post on social media says "you are the common denominator in your broken relationships." What is your immediate reaction?
- A.
  No actually I am trusting God. I am on His timing not mine.
- B.
  I changed the subject or kept scrolling.
- C.
  I hate that I felt called out.
- D.
  It stung because part of me knows they are right but I genuinely do not know what I am doing wrong.
7.
Be brutally honest. In recent years, what have you spent the most time doing when it comes to your love life?
- A.
  Praying about it. I plan to be a Proverbs 31 wife but I do not want to do too much and get in God's way.
- B.
  Very little honestly. I stay busy. Dating feels like a chore I do not have the energy for right now.
- C.
  Getting swept up, hurt, recovering and trying again when I feel ready. Its been a cycle of highs and crashes.
- D.
  I have been doing the work but it seems like I am still not moving forward.

Quiz Outcomes

1.
YOUR RESULT: The Purpose Walker
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Your result is PURPOSE WALKERYou're gracefully waiting. But....You are a woman of deep faith and genuine devotion. You have committed your love life to God and you mean it. You are not out here chasing men, lowering your standards or settling for less than what you deserve. And that is genuinely admirable.However there is something the Purpose Walker is not doing that is creating delay without her even realizing it.The Purpose Walker has mastered the faith part by inviting God into her love journey and trusting that He will do His part. What she has not fully embraced is that SHE has a part. And likely, she doesn't know what all "her part" entails.Scripture is full of people who had to "do their part" before the miracle showed up. The Red Sea did not part until Moses lifted his staff. The walls of Jericho did not fall until they marched.Action preceded the miracle every. single. time.These examples make one thing very clear:waiting on God is not a spectator sport.***An extended version of The Purpose Walker Result has been delivered to your inbox.***So what exactly IS your part?You've got the faith part down. Now, what is it that you need to do? How does the Purpose Walker shift from waiting on God to working with God?That is exactly what the courses inside our Become The One Community are designed to help you discover. This is where single women of faith gather to do their part to prepare for love and take the first intentional steps that show God they are ready to move.I recommend these 2 courses specifically for Purpose Walkers:While You WaitYou dive deeper into what your part is and why it is critically necessary if you want to see God move in your love story. While the entire course will benefit you, week 1 will meet you right where you are.Dating and The BibleDive deeper into a Biblical blueprint for dating using the Ruth and Boaz story. You will never view that story the same again. And you will walk away with some practical baby steps to get you moving.You can access both courses and so many more here in the Become The One Classroom. You'll have to join the community first then unlock the classroom and get immersed in the self-study courses as a act of faith.
2.
YOUR RESULT: The Satisfied Soul
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At Peace....But....Hey Satisfied SoulYou have built a beautiful life. A full life. A life that genuinely makes you happy and that is amazing. You are not desperate. You are not in the dating streets making bad decisions out of loneliness. You have figured out how to be content and that is a gift.But there is something underneath that contentment that is worth an honest look.The Satisfied Soul has usually been hurt. Not just disappointed but genuinely hurt in a way that rearranged something inside her and if not hurt, deeply impacted by something.Whether it started in childhood or somewhere along your adult journey, rather than risk feeling that again or experiencing that thing, you decided, perhaps not consciously, to stop needing love. To build a life so full that any desire for companionship would not have room to ache.***An extended version of your Satisfied Soul Result has been delivered to your inbox.***Create some change and maintain some peaceThe good news is that the wall coming down to forge ahead in your love life does not have to be dramatic or sudden. It can be gradual, intentional and on your terms.That is exactly what the courses inside our Become The One Community are designed to help you do. This community is where single women gather to do their part to prepare for love and take the first intentional steps to purposefully unravel the blind spots keeping her single. I recommend these 2 courses specifically for Satisfied Souls like you:Guard Your Heart Without Closing It Learn how to protect your heart without closing it. This course helps you stay open to love without abandoning the discernment that has kept you safe.While You Wait Dive deeper into what your part is and why it is critically necessary if you want to see God move in your love story. While the entire course will benefit you, Weeks 1 through 3 will meet you right where you are.You can access both self study courses and many more in the Become The One Classroom. Join the community here first for free. Then get immersed in the recommended classes. Take the first steps towards the intentional work of learning to love out loud again, without old disappointments calling the shots.
3.
YOUR RESULT: The Hopeful Realist
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Still believing...barely....Hey Hopeful RealistYou have not given up. As a matter of fact when the girlies talk about not having been on a date in a while, that is not your testimony. You have likely been dating pretty regularly and had a few relationships.But you are tired. And that tiredness is starting to shape how you show up.So What's the Problem?Here is a dose of truth. Brace yourself because it will sound counterintuitive at first but stick with me:The problem is not the men.The problem is not the dating pool.The problem is not the current year, your generation, the city, the apps. NONE OF THAT.Babe, the problem ain't even YOU.The problem is the unprocessed weight you have been carrying from one relationship to the next without ever setting it down. I call it dating trauma.Its not because you are not trying to date differently or better. You just hadn't connected the dots between what you have been through and how the weight of the past is impacting every new situation.***An extended version of your Hopeful Realist Result has been delivered to your inbox.***Should You Just Go to Therapy? Not exactly...Therapy is a powerful tool and if you have done it, that work is not wasted. What we do here picks up right where therapy leaves off, going deeper into the relational patterns that show up specifically in dating and love.That is exactly what the courses inside our Become The One Community are designed to help you do. This community is where single women gather to do their part to prepare for love and take the first intentional steps to purposefully unravel the blind spots keeping them single. I recommend these 2 courses specifically for you:Is Your Brain Wired to Win at Love?Your past experiences have literally rewired how your brain responds to love, dating and men. This course breaks down exactly how that happens and more importantly how to rewire it so your brain starts working for your love life instead of against it.While You WaitYou have been trying. This course will help you understand why trying harder has not been enough and what actually needs to shift beneath the surface. Take notes throughout because every week will meet you somewhere real.You can access both self study courses and many more in the Become The One Classroom. Join the community first then get immersed in the recommended classes. Take the first steps towards the intentional work of finally dating from wholeness instead of from wounds.
4.
YOUR RESULT: The Becoming Woman
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Doing the Work but STILL stuck??Hey Becoming WomanYou are probably the most self aware woman in most rooms you walk into. You have read the books, listened to the podcasts, done the therapy, followed the coaches. You know your attachment style. You can identify your triggers. You have done more inner work than most people will do in a lifetime.And yet, love still feels out of reach. That is confusing and a little frustrating because you have done everything you knew to do.So What Does All This Mean?Though you were doing your work and believing healthy love would show up as a result, your love life was actually an afterthought. An assumed outcome. Rather than an intentional pursuit.Even when you've had relationships they often end in ways that feel completely misaligned with the level of work you have been doing on yourself; like your inner growth and your love life are operating on two completely different tracks.***An extended version of your Becoming Woman Result has been delivered to your inbox.***What You Actually Need Is a Relationship GPS.The Soul Detox is a faith based relationship readiness GPS that finally gives you a strategic and specific path towards love. It is not more content to consume. It is a structured, guided process that surfaces relational issues that self reflection, therapy or general personal development alone doesn't always reveal.Your Relationship Readiness Coach walks alongside you through six months of soul care that goes beyond what any podcast, book or coaching program has taken you. We address some soul level, relationship blind spots that all your self work, up to this point, has not been able to surface on its own.The Becoming Women who complete the Soul Detox and Mentoring often say the same thing: "I thought I had done 'the work'." Soul Detox showed them what was left. And it finally helped them stop circling around being relationship ready and actually arrive.Access, learn more about and enroll in the Soul Detox here. Read real stories from women who have been exactly where you are, learn about enrollment and take the next step.