Are You a Gratitude Scrooge?

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Quiz Questions

1.
Someone compliments your shoes. How do you respond?
- A.
  "These old things? They must be 25 years old!"
- B.
  "Oh my gosh, let's talk about your shoes! You always have the such style."
- C.
  "I thought you had more taste! These are the ugliest shoes I think I even own."
- D.
  "Wow, thanks! I have always loved them too."
- E.
  "They are my sister's. She seriously has the best taste!"
2.
You give a presentation and a peer says, "Wow, that was awesome! Best talk of the day!" You most likely reply...
- A.
  "I guess I'm good at faking it! I was a bundle of nerves."
- B.
  "I should be the one saying that about your talk!"
- C.
  "Only because of my awesome coach! You know Laura prepped me, right?"
- D.
  "Um, were you asleep? I spent the whole time saying one um after another!"
- E.
  "Thanks for the vote of confidence! I am really glad it resonated with you."
3.
Which thank you card would you give to someone who praised you?
- A.
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  Answer A
- B.
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  Answer B
- C.
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  Answer C
- D.
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  Answer D
- E.
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  Answer E
4.
When someone is about to compliment you, you most likely
- A.
  Hide and avoid the conversation
- B.
  Come back with a compliment for them
- C.
  Change the subject to another person who deserves praise
- D.
  Come back with a sarcastic or self-deprecating comment
- E.
  Enjoy the moment
5.
When someone introduces you and says nice things about you, you are likely to...
- A.
  Blush and secretly wish I was as awesome as they made me sound.
- B.
  Get embarrassed and say there are plenty of other smarter people around
- C.
  Get impatient and dismiss it so you can move on
- D.
  Compliment the person introducing you as soon as possible
- E.
  Feel proud of my accomplishments
6.
When it comes to compliments and praise in the workplace, they are usually
- A.
  A waste of time.
- B.
  Just a way for people to fish for compliments for themselves
- C.
  Overblown exaggerations
- D.
  A way to spread joy and satisfaction
- E.
  A way to soften someone up for bad news.
7.
Which compliment would you most like to receive?
- A.
  One that recognizes me as a part of a larger team that did good work
- B.
  One that is easy to say right back to the person giving the compliment
- C.
  One that is easy to deny or ignore
- D.
  One that is easy to make a joke or be sarcastic about
- E.
  One that is authentic and genuine

Quiz Outcomes

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Gratitude Deflector Scrooge
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Gratitude DeflectorYou are a gratitude deflector, which means that you avoid compliments by deflecting them onto someone or something else. A favorite approach for deflectors is to give all the credit to their team, or their colleagues, or even their mother. Another favorite is to chalk your success up to luck or being the right place at the right time. Either way, you struggle with accepting and delighting in compliments and gratitude. It is also important to remember that the person giving a compliment or gratitude is also anticipating the joy and satisfaction of watching you get joy from the compliment. Put another way: Gratitude is a gift that is given and received. What is Holding You Back from Getting Joy from Gratitude and Compliments? Here is a formula that might work for you. 1. Start with a warm, well-intentioned, and heart-felt "Thank You."Say this while you smile, make eye-contact, and follow it with a pause to let the thank you sink in. Try this: "Thank you." 2. Try not to add anything elseJust let it go with the thank you and do nothing else. 3. If you have to say something, try to amplify the compliment or praiseIf you want to give credit to your team, let the compliment-giver know that you are so pleased and proud to share the compliment with the team. Try this: "Thank you. I'd love to share this wonderful compliment with my team. They know I'm proud of them, but it means a lot to hear other people recognizing our work too." Read more about Gratitude ScroogesNot being able to get joy and satisfaction from compliments, praise and gratitude is one of the key dysfunctions in Impostor Syndrome. If you think you might have IMPOSTOR SYNDROME, you can visit my website to learn more about it. Learn More About Impostor Syndrome
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Gratitude Reflector Scrooge
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Gratitude ReflectorYou are a gratitude reflector, which means that you avoid compliments by reflecting them right back on the person who gave the praise. Think of this like saying "Right back at you, friend." Although this might seem like a nice gesture, it is actually a pretty good sign that you struggle with accepting and delighting in compliments and gratitude. It is important to remember that the person giving a compliment or gratitude is also anticipating the joy and satisfaction of watching you get joy from the compliment. Put another way: Gratitude is a gift that is given and received. When you do not get joy and satisfaction from a compliment, praise or gratitude, you are depriving the other person of their moment of joy too. What is Holding You Back from Getting Joy from Gratitude and Compliments? Here is a formula that might work for you. 1. Start with a warm, well-intentioned, and heart-felt "Thank You."Say this while you smile, make eye-contact, and follow it with a pause to let the thank you sink in. Try this: "Thank you." 2. Try not to add anything elseJust let it go with the thank you and do nothing else. 3. If you have to say something, try to radiate the compliment or praise back to envelope the other person along with you. If you want to give even more delight to the person giving you praise, pull them into you feelings of pride and satisfaction instead of giving it all back to them. Try this: "“Thank you. Hearing you say that gives me so much pride and joy. Really, thank you for sharing that compliment with me.”Read more about Gratitude ScroogesNot being able to get joy and satisfaction from compliments, praise and gratitude is one of the key dysfunctions in Impostor Syndrome. If you think you might have IMPOSTOR SYNDROME, you can visit my website to learn more about it. Learn More About Impostor Syndrome
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Gratitude Rejector Scrooge
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Gratitude RejectorYou are a gratitude rejector, which means that you avoid compliments by outright denying them as false and untrue. Think of this like saying "um, nope, you've got that all wrong." Although this might seem like humility, it is actually a pretty good sign that you struggle with accepting and delighting in compliments and gratitude. It is important to remember that the person giving a compliment or gratitude is also anticipating the joy and satisfaction of watching you get joy from the compliment. Put another way: Gratitude is a gift that is given and received. When you do not get joy and satisfaction from a compliment, praise or gratitude, you are depriving the other person of their moment of joy too. What is Holding You Back from Getting Joy from Gratitude and Compliments? Here is a formula that might work for you. 1. Start with a warm, well-intentioned, and heart-felt "Thank You."Say this while you smile, make eye-contact, and follow it with a pause to let the thank you sink in. Try this: "Thank you." 2. Try not to add anything elseJust let it go with the thank you and do nothing else. 3. If you have to say something, try to embellish the details a little to engage the compliment-giver in a nice exchange. If you want to stop dismissing compliments and praise and start enjoying them more, you can embellish with some interesting facts and details to engage and interest the compliment-giver. Try this: “Thank you. When I was doing the research for the presentation, I was delighted to find that, John Smith, one of the world’s experts lives right here town! Isn't that interesting? ”Read more about Gratitude ScroogesNot being able to get joy and satisfaction from compliments, praise and gratitude is one of the key dysfunctions in Impostor Syndrome. If you think you might have IMPOSTOR SYNDROME, you can visit my website to learn more about it. Learn More About Impostor Syndrome
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Gratitude Insulter Scrooge
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Gratitude InsulterYou are a gratitude insulter, which means that you avoid compliments by making the other person out to be a fool, or be misguided, or be blind to the truth. Think of this like saying "you must be nuts to think that." Although this might seem like humor or sarcasm, it is actually a pretty good sign that you struggle with accepting and delighting in compliments and gratitude. It can also make the other person feel pretty bad. It is important to remember that the person giving a compliment or gratitude is also anticipating the joy and satisfaction of watching you get joy from the compliment. Put another way: Gratitude is a gift that is given and received. When you do not get joy and satisfaction from a compliment, praise or gratitude, you are depriving the other person of their moment of joy too. What is Holding You Back from Getting Joy from Gratitude and Compliments? Here is a formula that might work for you. 1. Start with a warm, well-intentioned, and heart-felt "Thank You."Say this while you smile, make eye-contact, and follow it with a pause to let the thank you sink in. Try this: "Thank you." 2. Try not to add anything elseJust let it go with the thank you and do nothing else. 3. If you have to say something, try to use the moment to connect a little more with the compliment-giver as a fellow human. If you want to stop dismissing compliments and praise and start enjoying them more, you don't dismiss the person in front of you, but instead engage them in something a little more meaningful. Try this: “Thank you. It makes me happy to hear that you also have an interest in this topic. I am so glad that our paths crossed today. ” Read more about Gratitude ScroogesNot being able to get joy and satisfaction from compliments, praise and gratitude is one of the key dysfunctions in Impostor Syndrome. If you think you might have IMPOSTOR SYNDROME, you can visit my website to learn more about it. Learn More About Impostor Syndrome
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Gratitude Enhancer
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Gratitude EnhancerYou are a gratitude enhancer, which means that you are able to get joy and satisfaction from praise, compliments, and gratitude. This is a wonderful skill and all the research suggests that you are creating your own happiness by being amplifying and extending gratitude. More than likely, you are also adept at giving praise, compliments and gratitude. It is important to remember that the person giving a compliment or gratitude is also anticipating the joy and satisfaction of watching you get joy from the compliment. Put another way: Gratitude is a gift that is given and received. When you get joy and satisfaction from a compliment, praise or gratitude, you are giving the other person a moment of joy too. So, keep being a gratitude enhancer! Want to make it even more powerful? Here are a few things you can do to get even more joy and satisfaction from compliments and praise. 1. Start a validation journalKeep track of positive things that people say, write, or do for you in a very simple journal format. Go back through it every now and then for a happiness boost. 2. Practice savoring a positive moment just a little longerSavoring is a way to extend happiness and joy a little longer by remembering it, reliving it, and letting positivity wash over you for a little longer. Read more about Gratitude ScroogesIf you wan to learn more about how to increase your happiness, visit my blog site. The entire month of February will be devoted to happiness! Learn more about happiness in February 2021

Are You a Gratitude Scrooge?

Do you feel uncomfortable when someone gives you praise? Do you try to avoid getting compliments? Do you try to brush off "thank you's?" You might be a Gratitude Scrooge. Take this quiz to find out what kind of Gratitude Scrooge you are.

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Quiz Outcomes