What’s your Relationship Season?

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Quiz Questions

1.
Life Events
- A.
  There are one, or more, big life events that require our ongoing attention, time, and resources. (eg. new baby, a move, a renovation, a new job, a loss in the family, a pandemic, etc.)
- B.
  We've recently gotten to the other side of a life event that took a lot of our time and energy. Life is feeling more manageable and is relatively predictable (no big ups or downs).
- C.
  We are able to manage the life events that come our way. We have been able to adjust as a team & feel relatively aligned as a couple.
- D.
  The challenges in our life have built resiliency and trust in our relationship. We adjust to life events with clear communication & feel connected throughout the process.
2.
Communication
- A.
  One, or both of us, have felt sensitive or irritable for an extended period of time, likely because of a big life event. (eg. new baby, new job, a move, a loss in the family, a pandemic, etc) We would like to improve our communication.
- B.
  Our communication is okay. It is slowly improving. At times, tender feelings come up and it takes time to re-visit those conversations.
- C.
  We have the communication tools to manage most life events that come our way. There is still room to improve.
- D.
  We have excellent communication. We can both express our needs with clarity and are good at listening with empathy.
3.
Self-Care
- A.
  At this time, we don’t have the capacity to think about self-care because we are in “survival mode”.
- B.
  We are not yet clear on what self-care looks like for each of us, but we are learning how to talk about this. We have the time and the desire to help each other make self-care happen.
- C.
  Our self-care practice is pretty consistent, but there is room to improve.
- D.
  We each have a consistent self-care practice and we enjoy helping each other to make that time, whether it’s separately, as individuals, or together, as a couple.
4.
Trust and Emotional Safety
- A.
  There are one, or more, emotional factors that are preventing us from connecting as a couple. Ie. consistently not feeling seen/heard/respected by partner, financial mistrust, affair, ongoing resentment, etc.
- B.
  We love each other. Things are pretty good between us, but we could be more intentional about our relationship. There is room for a deeper emotional connection.
- C.
  We have a deep love and respect for each other. We are getting more clear about the life we want to build together and are taking steps towards that vision.
- D.
  We have a strong foundation of emotional safety and trust. We feel energized by our love for each other & for our family. We are aligned as a couple and are living a life that we have created with intention.
5.
Couple Time
- A.
  Even if we wanted to spend time together, there is currently no time for our relationship.
- B.
  Couple time happens when it happens, around once a month. Most of our spare time tends to be focussed on outside relationships. Ie. work, friends, kids, family time, etc.
- C.
  We make a point of connecting as a couple (even if it's only for 10 minutes!) minimum twice a week. Note: Talking about the kids and household doesn't count as "couple time".
- D.
  Quality couple time happens with ease, minimum three times a week. We look forward to connecting with each other and are good at engaging about meaningful topics (not just about the kids and household details).

Quiz Outcomes

1.
You're in the Coping Season!
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About The Coping Season:You love each other, but you don't have much time or energy for your relationship right now. There is currently one - or more - life events that require all of your focus. Eg. a new baby, a loss in the family, a move, a new job, a pandemic, a breakdown of trust in your relationship, etc.You have little to no time for individual self-care and you definitely don’t have time for your couple (even though you may really want time together). You may feel like you miss your partner - or a part of yourself - right now. Don’t worry! Every relationship goes through this season. Be gentle with yourself and with each other.The challenges in your relationship are your greatest opportunity for growth and deeper connection.- Allison VillaCoping Tip:Talk to each other about how you're feeling (yes - even the tough stuff!). It’s also important during this season, for each of you to ask for support from your community. You need your village. Talk to a loved one, reach out to a professional, connect with a friend for a walk...leaning on others will take the pressure off of each other as you move through this season together. Take Action:For step-by-step guidance on how to support your couple in this season,Join the Couple's Sandbox communityUse code TRUELOVE to get your 1st month free!I'll guide you through the process with ease, which will help you to build resiliency as a couple as you move through the Coping Season!Hello, there! I’m Allison Villa ✨I’m a psychotherapist & relationships expert who helps parents — just like you — to re-claim the passion & play in their romantic relationship.🤍As a wife & mother of two, I understand how raising a family affects the romantic relationship and the challenges that modern parents face.🤍I created the Relationship Seasons to give couples the language to understand their patterns & the actions to best support each other based on their season.🤍My favourite thing is watching the couples I work with flourish & connect more deeply. It's life-changing when you're both speaking the same language & it has a positive impact on your whole family!Check out these resources to help you improve your relationship:1. Subscribe to my podcast Couplehood where I share tools for you - the modern day parent - to keep your romantic relationship thriving. 🧡2. Join the Couple's Sandbox community for conversation starters, accountability & a deep understanding of The 4 Relationship Seasons + how you can use them to optimize your couple 🙌3. Follow me on Instagram for relationship inspiration. Expect real-talk about parent life + easy ways to make couple-time a reality! ☺️Plus expect to see me in your inbox with transformational tips ✨
2.
You're in the Coasting Season!
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About The Coasting Season:You have a deep love and respect for each other. However, at the moment there is not a lot of intentional time for your relationship. You may be focussing on 'family time'. There are no big life events pulling your attention, so things are okay in your relationship. You may be figuring out what couple time looks like for you, and you're also making time for your individual self-care. Gentle Warning: Be cautious about staying in this season for too long. It's common for parents to get stuck in this season because they keep waiting for kids to get to their next milestone (which will mean you'll eventually have more time, right?). If you keep waiting for the "right time", you'll see your connection decrease over time. It's like when you're coasting on your bicycle: If you coast for too long, you'll fall over! The right time for your relationship is NOW!Self-care is the foundation of every thriving relationship.- Allison Villa Coasting Tip:Get clear on your self-care practice and be each other's biggest cheerleaders! Mark couple time in your calendar 2-3 times each week and be consistent (even 10 minutes of quality time together counts!).Take Action:For step-by-step guidance on how to support your relationship during this season, Join the Couple's Sandbox communityUse code TRUELOVE to get your 1st month free!I'll guide you through the process with ease & you'll feel excited about the intentional life you're building together!Hello, there! I’m Allison Villa ✨I’m a psychotherapist & relationships expert who helps parents — just like you — to re-claim the passion & play in their romantic relationship.🤍As a wife & mother of two, I understand how raising a family affects the romantic relationship and the challenges that modern parents face.🤍I created the Relationship Seasons to give couples the language to understand their patterns & the actions to best support each other based on their season.🤍My favourite thing is watching the couples I work with flourish & connect more deeply. It's life-changing when you're both speaking the same language & it has a positive impact on your whole family!Check out these resources to help you improve your relationship:1. Subscribe to my podcast Couplehood where I share tools for you - the modern day parent - to keep your romantic relationship thriving. 🧡2. Join the Couple's Sandbox community for conversation starters, accountability & a deep understanding of The 4 Relationship Seasons + how you can use them to optimize your couple 🙌3. Follow me on Instagram for relationship inspiration. Expect real-talk about parent life + easy ways to make couple-time a reality! ☺️Plus expect to see me in your inbox with transformational tips ✨
3.
You're in the Connected Season!
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About The Connected Season:You have a deep love and respect for each other. You're amazing at supporting each other in your self-care practices and you're great at making time for each other 2-4 times each week. As a couple, you're aligned on the vision that you have for your family. Your vision is beginning to come to life! Connected Tip:Take time to get laser-clear on the details of your Family & Relationship Vision. Create a five year family timeline that includes individual, couple, and family goals.Take Action:For guidance on how to personalize your Family & Relationship Vision,Join the Couple's Sandbox communityUse code TRUELOVE to get your 1st month free!I'll guide you through the process with ease & you'll feel excited about the intentional life you're building together!Hello, there! I’m Allison Villa ✨I’m a psychotherapist & relationships expert who helps parents — just like you — to re-claim the passion & play in their romantic relationship.🤍As a wife & mother of two, I understand how raising a family affects the romantic relationship and the challenges that modern parents face.🤍I created the Relationship Seasons to give couples the language to understand their patterns & the actions to best support each other based on their season.🤍My favourite thing is watching the couples I work with flourish & connect more deeply. It's life-changing when you're both speaking the same language & it has a positive impact on your whole family!Check out these resources to help you improve your relationship:1. Subscribe to my podcast Couplehood where I share tools for you - the modern day parent - to keep your romantic relationship thriving. 🧡2. Join the Couple's Sandbox community for conversation starters, accountability & a deep understanding of The 4 Relationship Seasons + how you can use them to optimize your couple 🙌3. Follow me on Instagram for relationship inspiration. Expect real-talk about parent life + easy ways to make couple-time a reality! ☺️Plus expect to see me in your inbox with transformational tips ✨
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You're in the Confident Season!
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About The Confident Season:You have a deep love and respect for each other. You're amazing at supporting each other in your self-care practices and love carving out consistent quality couple time, 2-4 times a week. Many parts of your Family & Relationship Vision are already in action. You're deeply connected and are making space to deepen your intimacy as a couple. You're in a place where you have the wisdom, time, & resources to support others & give back to your community. Confident Tip:This is your time to continue taking your intimacy to the next level. Get clear on your Intimacy Vision by exploring all levels of intimacy: intellectual, spiritual, physical, emotional.Take Action:Access the made-for-you 'Intimacy Vision' to deepen your connection with your partner, along with many other relationships resources when youJoin the Couple's Sandbox communityUse code TRUELOVE to get your 1st month free!Hello, there! I’m Allison Villa ✨I’m a psychotherapist & relationships expert who helps parents — just like you — to re-claim the passion & play in their romantic relationship.🤍As a wife & mother of two, I understand how raising a family affects the romantic relationship and the challenges that modern parents face.🤍I created the Relationship Seasons to give couples the language to understand their patterns & the actions to best support each other based on their season.🤍My favourite thing is watching the couples I work with flourish & connect more deeply. It's life-changing when you're both speaking the same language & it has a positive impact on your whole family!Check out these resources to help you improve your relationship:1. Subscribe to my podcast Couplehood where I share tools for you - the modern day parent - to keep your romantic relationship thriving. 🧡2. Join the Couple's Sandbox community for conversation starters, accountability & a deep understanding of The 4 Relationship Seasons + how you can use them to optimize your couple 🙌3. Follow me on Instagram for relationship inspiration. Expect real-talk about parent life + easy ways to make couple-time a reality! ☺️Plus expect to see me in your inbox with transformational tips ✨