Is an open relationship right for you?

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Quiz Questions

1.
What's your definition of commitment in a relationship? (Choose all that apply)
- A.
  
  Two people vowing to be emotionally and physically exclusive with each other for the rest of their lives.
- B.
  
  A mutual agreement to take care of each other and support each other's growth as best as possible through communication and mutual respect.
- C.
  
  Neither or I don't know.
2.
What's your definition of loyalty in a relationship? (Choose all that apply)
- A.
  
  Emotional and physical monogamy.
- B.
  
  Being honest and supporting each other.
- C.
  
  Neither or I don't know.
3.
What do you believe about conflict in intimate relationships? (Choose all that apply)
- A.
  
  It is my responsibility to change my behavior to help my partner feel better when they are upset, and vice versa.
- B.
  
  I avoid confrontation. It's not worth it to rock the boat.
- C.
  
  Conflict is an opportunity for discussion and to understand each other more deeply.
- D.
  
  None of the above or I don't know.
4.
Do you want to be in a longterm partnership with someone? (Choose all that apply)
- A.
  
  I definitely want to be in a longterm partnership with someone.
- B.
  
  I haven't really thought about alternatives. Isn't that just what you're supposed to do?
- C.
  
  I'm open to whatever life has in store for me as long as I'm happy.
- D.
  
  Why just one? I would love to have multiple longterm intimate relationships!
- E.
  
  No actually, I would be happiest without a partner.
5.
Would you consider living separately from a partner you were in a serious relationship with?
- A.
  
  No. I want to live with someone I am in a serious relationship with.
- B.
  
  I'm open to that depending on the circumstances.
- C.
  
  If that worked for my partner, I actually think that would be really good for me.
- D.
  
  I don't know.
6.
Which best describes your ideal level of connection outside of a primary romantic relationship?
- A.
  
  Platonic emotional intimacy with friends and family is all I need.
- B.
  
  Platonic physical affection like cuddling with other people is great.
- C.
  
  I'd love to be able to hook up with other people sometimes, but without any emotional involvement.
- D.
  
  I want to explore meaningful emotional and/or sexual intimacy with other people.
- E.
  
  I'm into the idea of connecting with other people but only if I'm doing it with my partner.
- F.
  
  Flirting with other people would be fun but no more than that.
7.
Would you like to have a sexual experience with someone other than your partner as long as your partner consented? (Choose all that apply)
- A.
  
  Not interested.
- B.
  
  I'm kind of curious but I don't want to hurt my partner.
- C.
  
  That would feel really exciting and meaningful to me.
- D.
  
  I would like to experience that as long as I'm doing it with my partner!
- E.
  
  This isn't really relevant to me because I don't prioritize sex in my relationships.
8.
What kind of connections would you consent to your partner having outside your relationship?
- A.
  
  Platonic emotional intimacy with their friends and family only.
- B.
  
  If they cuddle platonically with other people sometimes, I wouldn't mind as long as it doesn't go beyond that.
- C.
  
  If they hooked up with other people sometimes, I could get on board as long as there was no emotional intimacy.
- D.
  
  I am open to my partner being deeply intimate with someone else as long as they ultimately stay in love and committed to me.
- E.
  
  I'm interested in dating or hooking up with other people WITH my partner.
- F.
  
  If they flirt with other people, that's fine...as long as it stops there.
9.
If you and a partner had mismatched libidos, would you consider staying together and getting your needs met *ethically* outside of the relationship? (choose all that apply)
- A.
  
  No way.
- B.
  
  Maybe? Only if we had done extensive therapy to try to improve our sexual connection first.
- C.
  
  Yes. I would rather find ways to maintain our partnership than break up because of a sexual mismatch.
- D.
  
  I would probably break up with them and look for another partner.
- E.
  
  This isn't really relevant to me because I don't prioritize sex in my relationships.
10.
How would you feel if your partner had an emotionally intimate experience with someone other than you (that you consented to)? Choose all that apply.
- A.
  
  It would probably be really hard for me.
- B.
  
  I would feel OK about it only if they didn't physically act on it.
- C.
  
  I would feel good about it if my partner and I had good, clear communication about it.
- D.
  
  I would never consent to that. No way.
11.
How would you feel if your partner had a sexual experience with someone other than you (that you consented to)? Choose all that apply.
- A.
  
  It would probably be really hard for me.
- B.
  
  I would feel OK about it only if there was no emotional connection .
- C.
  
  I would feel good about it if my partner and I had good, clear communication about it.
- D.
  
  It would honestly turn me on.
- E.
  
  I would never consent to that!

Quiz Outcomes

1.

Traditional

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Your desire is to settle down with the love of your life and live happily ever after in an emotionally and sexually exclusive relationship. You are pretty clear about what works for you and what doesn't in your intimate life. Social norms around sex and relationships fit you just fine, which takes a lot of the guesswork and drama out of your intimate life. Your challenge for your sex & relationships is to keep the novelty alive by continuing to explore new things and committing to practices that help you and your partner deepen in emotional intimacy. Keep investing in yourself, your hobbies and your friendships just as much as you invest in your romantic relationship. This can prevent codependence and help maintain an element of "mystery" to keep desire alive. If you or you and your partner could use private support with your intimate life, apply for sex & relationship coaching with Janel.
2.

Open-Minded

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You are someone who could design a relationship structure that is more open than the conventional model. You value relationships that help you grow, not hold you back. You're interested in creating an intimate life around your authentic needs, desires and boundaries. You are someone who would rather negotiate your own relationship agreements with partner(s) than go along with social norms that don't really work for you. You believe that you can can have relationship security AND freedom in your intimate life—and you're totally right!Based on your results, our upcoming program "Open Love" would be a great fit for you. Learn more about it and get on the waiting list to be the first to find out when registration opens. 👇

Is an open relationship right for you?

Love isn&#x27;t one-size-fits-all. Does a traditional relationship work best for you or would you thrive in a more open relationship? Find out!

Quiz Questions

Quiz Outcomes

Love isn't one-size-fits-all. Does a traditional relationship work best for you or would you thrive in a more open relationship? Find out!