2.
The Fixer
Fixers see potential in every mate… to a fault. You will often hear a fixer saying, “I know he has flaws, but I think if I’m patient, if I love him the way he needs, if I just work hard, he’ll change.” Fixers often find themselves with mates who have any combination of the following:
serial cheaters,
financially unstable,
in a relationship that’s “not happy”,
working on themselves (although you never quite see the results of their work).
Fixers often feel put on the back burner by their partner, but are not likely to see it until they are fed up. Their friends will warn them and point out the ways that they seem unhappy with their partner, but the fixer will make excuses for their partner every time, finding one or 2 good qualities (probably that they haven’t experienced with other partners). The attachment to those qualities, coupled with empty promises of becoming better keep the fixer feeling stuck with a sense of false hope of happily ever after. Every time they move on to a new relationship, they assume that there will be insurmountable obstacles and are willing to take them on.