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Nuturer
The Noble Nurturer seems to attract relationships that are unbalanced. She tends to be doing all the work - the doing, the leading, perhaps the paying and providing the excitement or emotional support. Sometimes she attracts broken men, or men in a transitory stage of life such as divorce, in-between jobs, or; they are at a very different stage of life than she is career wise, money wise, or focus wise. They may have an addiction, health issue, or job loss, and she finds herself in helper and rescuer mode. Noble Nurturer hopes she can love or encourage someone enough to have a breakthrough and fulfil their full potential. She is a natural nurturer, and is often attracted to the potential she sees in a man. What she often misses is that sometimes the other person does not, or isn;t ready to live up to their potential, and ultimately... that is their choice in life. Not hers.Resentment can build as she realises she is carrying the heavier load in the relationship and putting more effort in to keep things balanced. She is generally an optimistic person and sees the best in people, but this can be to a fault - where she ends up picking up the slack for these men . Conversely, she is preoccupied with the injustices in the world and spends a lot of her time worrying about this. These ladies may have been given a lot of responsibility at a young age, experienced dysfunctional elements in their family growing up (such as a parent who needed to be emotionally supported a lot), or had a person in their family that needed a lot of care - mentally, physically or emotionally.They may have had a difficult upbringing, or gain a sense of self worth from helping people - this means she’s attracted to people who need help because deep down it makes her feel good. The problem is it comes at the cost of her true happiness. What The Noble Nurturer can do to turn her love life around: She really needs to learn to be clear about what she truly desires long term in life and relationship and consider what kind of person you can get there with. Your dreams may not be fulfilled if you are stuck in drama because of a partner, or your dynamic with them.Resolve the feelings that have you feeling guilty if you are not always available to helpYou must put yourself first. Often you put yourself after their needs, leading to feeling unappreciated and sometimes resentful. Change starts with you. Think twice before entering into relationship with another person in a transitory phase - someone who needs help, or has very different resources than you, either emotionally, financially or spiritually. This is not selfish! It’s about true compatibility. Let them come back when they are healed and ready for true love. My recommendation for you to turn your love life around is my short, yet potent programme Release- Align- Rise.
