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Finding Fault Potential?
This quiz is all about supporting you to reflect on they way you respond, in certain situations!Based on the answers you've selected, in some situations you may respond in a way that prioritizes your own inner experiences, preferences, and expectations, over those of other people. And, we can certainly all relate to this!In some situations it may be appropriate to make a choice to put more weight on our own inner experience over someone else's; for example we may choose to study for an exam instead of meeting up with a friend. Our consideration of our inner experience can point to a healthy, underlying sense of self-worth and self-esteem! Super! However, this can become a problem at those times when we routinely/compulsively find ourselves forgetting to consider the inner experience and preferences of other people. For some people it may be a way of protecting themselves against being vulnerable or getting unfairly treated. For others this may be about wanting to retain power and control. Moving forward...Here are some suggestions that may support you to add the valuing of others' valuable inner voice to your awareness of your inner experience and preferences:1. Strive to consider each situation in which you’re in with fresh eyes. Every situation is unique and calls for a fresh, unique choice around how to respond!2. Give yourself a moment to take a couple of slow breaths, grounding yourself in your body and being. 3. Take a moment to reaffirm to yourself that yours and others' unique perspective and inner wisdom add value to the world!4. Remind yourself that the most fulfilling, peaceful relationships are ones that strive for equality of consideration. You deserve nothing short of the intimacy, connection, fulfillment, peace, and joy that comes from working towards relationships with others where both parties feel heard, understood, and validated!5. Reflect on the particular situation in which you're in, and considering your inner experience and that of another, visualize how you would like to see yourself respond.6. Feel good about taking a moment to acknowledge and take into consideration another person’s experience before responding! Remember that real strength and courage come from taking risks to be authentic and vulnerable!Christian Reflection: The case of the PhariseesThe Bible describes many instances where people responded in fault-finding, critical ways.Consider the Pharisees, many of whom interacted with Jesus in a spirit of fault-finding and put downs. Caught up in maintaining their dominant position and positive self-image, both of which were threatened by Jesus’ personal power and authenticity, they missed out on making a connection with God's Son and learning about God’s kingdom.However, rather than getting caught up in the cycle of blame and fault-finding, Jesus encourages us to, instead, nurture compassion..."Love yourself as your neighbour" is a perfect motto that encourages us to strive to maintain a balance between attending to our own and others’ inner experience. Jesus encourages us to re-set the compass of our focus on fulfilling our own spiritual purpose; on our endless journey of nurturing faith, hope, and love in our lives!If you found the above information helpful, you may like to check out my upcoming free masterclass: Journaling Secrets for Self-Worth, Authenticity, and Confidence.With Love, Bozenawww.bozenazawisz.comBozena is a Multi Award-Winning Author/Counseling Psychologist, empowering/coaching/mentoring women who want to reclaim control of their mindset, self-worth, and inner experience; within Christian values.
