What's Your Go-To Communication Style? Christian Psychology Quiz

Quiz Questions

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  I have a tendency to say "yes" to others, regardless of how I feel.

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    Consistently / Frequently
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    Occasionally
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    Rarely
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  I frequently catch myself being critical of others.

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    Consistently / frequently
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    Occasionally
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    Rarely
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  I try to distract myself from experiencing challenging feelings by keeping busy. 

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    Consistently / frequently
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    Occasionally
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    Rarely
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  I find it important to express my inner experience authentically and tactfully.

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    Consistently / frequently
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    Occasionally
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    Rarely
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  I have been told to stop saying “sorry" all the time!

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    Consistently / frequently
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    Occasionally
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    Rarely
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  I take too much responsibility for other people’s feelings.

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    Consistently / frequently
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    Occasionally
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    Rarely
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  I’d rather know the truth about how someone is feeling, than having them protect my feelings.

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    Consistently / frequently
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    Occasionally
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    Rarely
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  I hesitate to freely express how I think and feel, even if I disagree with what someone is saying.

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    Consistently / frequently
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    Occasionally
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    Rarely
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  I allow other people too much power/influence over my life.

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    Consistently / frequently
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    Occasionally
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    Rarely
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  My bossiness makes people feel uncomfortable.

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    Consistently / frequently
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    Occasionally
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    Rarely
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  I back away from sharing my point of view at the slightest sign of anger or confrontation.

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    Consistently / frequently
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    Occasionally
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    Rarely
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  I hate being wrong and rarely admit to making mistakes.

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    Consistently / frequently
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    Occasionally
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    Rarely
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  Emotions make me feel uncomfortable; I try to avoid engaging with them within myself and in conversations with others.

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    Consistently / frequently
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    Occasionally
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    Rarely
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  Relationships are only meaningful if both people feel that their inner experience is being considered.

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    Consistently / frequently
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    Occasionally
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    Rarely

Quiz Outcomes

• 1.
  People Pleasing Potential?

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  This quiz is all about supporting you to reflect on they way you communicate, in certain situations...Based on the answers you've selected, in some situations you may respond in a way that prioritizes the inner experiences, preferences, and expectations of others, over your own!Whenever prioritizing the inner experience of others is a heart felt choice that truly makes you feel at peace and comfortable, it is a testimony of your sensitivity, care, and kindness!However, this can be a problem when it feels more like an automatic COMPULSION; and when you find yourself putting your inner experience aside when, actually, you would like to make your voice heard!What's stopping you? Perhaps you are finding the possibility of potential conflict or others’ disapproval just a bit too stressful, so you fall back into the safer alternative of "don't rock the boat..."Moving forward...A great place to start is to give yourself a moment to connect with your being: take a couple of slow breaths and tap into a place of value and high self-worth. The reason this is such an important first step is that many "placating" responses are likely to be past related, knee jerk coping patterns from a time when someone didn't have as much personal power as they do as an adult.They are learned ways of protecting yourself from conflict, rejection, or stress... by handing your power to someone else. At some point you may have learned that complying and appeasing is an effective strategy for keeping your environment calm and safe...Hence, it is so... important, as a first step, to reassure yourself that (as an adult) your inner wisdom is now your highest authority... You no longer have anything to prove to anybody, and your relationships should now strive towards equality of worth and power...Even taking a moment to acknowledge your inner experience and think about what you would like to say and do is a great step to take! As you reaffirm to yourself that your unique perspective and inner wisdom add value to the world!A Christian Reflection-The Case of Pontius Pilate.Pontius Pilate is a great example of someone (very intelligent!) who decided to ignore the voice of his inner wisdom in favor of placating a crowd.Yes, people pleasing can give us an illusion of being liked and accepted. However, it is only an illusion. What is being liked and approved is only our conforming to others’ expectations. By contrast, Jesus is the perfect role model for staying true to ones purpose and Father’s will, without being swayed by seeking external approval. Ultimately, it was Pilot who lost his personal power to the crowd, while Jesus proved triumphant and all powerful!If you found the above information helpful, you may like to subscribe to my weekly email newsletter, aimed to inspire Self-Worth, Confidence, Authenticity, and Emotional Wellness (within Christian values) Welcome to my online community! (unsubscribe anytime)With Love, Bozenawww.bozenazawisz.comBozena is a Multi Award-Winning Author/Counseling Psychologist, empowering/coaching/mentoring women who want to reclaim control of their mindset, self-worth, and inner experience; within Christian values.
• 2.
  Finding Fault Potential?

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  This quiz is all about supporting you to reflect on they way you respond, in certain situations!Based on the answers you've selected, in some situations you may respond in a way that prioritizes your own inner experiences, preferences, and expectations, over those of other people. And, we can certainly all relate to this!In some situations it may be appropriate to make a choice to put more weight on our own inner experience over someone else's; for example we may choose to study for an exam instead of meeting up with a friend. Our consideration of our inner experience can point to a healthy, underlying sense of self-worth and self-esteem! Super! However, this can become a problem at those times when we routinely/compulsively find ourselves forgetting to consider the inner experience and preferences of other people. For some people it may be a way of protecting themselves against being vulnerable or getting unfairly treated. For others this may be about wanting to retain power and control. Moving forward...Here are some suggestions that may support you to add the valuing of others' valuable inner voice to your awareness of your inner experience and preferences:1. Strive to consider each situation in which you’re in with fresh eyes. Every situation is unique and calls for a fresh, unique choice around how to respond!2. Give yourself a moment to take a couple of slow breaths, grounding yourself in your body and being. 3. Take a moment to reaffirm to yourself that yours and others' unique perspective and inner wisdom add value to the world!4. Remind yourself that the most fulfilling, peaceful relationships are ones that strive for equality of consideration. You deserve nothing short of the intimacy, connection, fulfillment, peace, and joy that comes from working towards relationships with others where both parties feel heard, understood, and validated!5. Reflect on the particular situation in which you're in, and considering your inner experience and that of another, visualize how you would like to see yourself respond.6. Feel good about taking a moment to acknowledge and take into consideration another person’s experience before responding! Remember that real strength and courage come from taking risks to be authentic and vulnerable!Christian Reflection: The case of the PhariseesThe Bible describes many instances where people responded in fault-finding, critical ways.Consider the Pharisees, many of whom interacted with Jesus in a spirit of fault-finding and put downs. Caught up in maintaining their dominant position and positive self-image, both of which were threatened by Jesus’ personal power and authenticity, they missed out on making a connection with God's Son and learning about God’s kingdom.However, rather than getting caught up in the cycle of blame and fault-finding, Jesus encourages us to, instead, nurture compassion..."Love yourself as your neighbour" is a perfect motto that encourages us to strive to maintain a balance between attending to our own and others’ inner experience. Jesus encourages us to re-set the compass of our focus on fulfilling our own spiritual purpose; on our endless journey of nurturing faith, hope, and love in our lives!If you found the above information helpful, you may like to check out my upcoming free masterclass: Journaling Secrets for Self-Worth, Authenticity, and Confidence.With Love, Bozenawww.bozenazawisz.comBozena is a Multi Award-Winning Author/Counseling Psychologist, empowering/coaching/mentoring women who want to reclaim control of their mindset, self-worth, and inner experience; within Christian values.
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  Go Personal Power!

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  This quiz is all about supporting you to reflect on the way you respond, in certain situations!Based on the answers you've selected, it seems that across many situations you strive to respond in balanced way that considers your own inner experience, preferences, and expectations, as well as those of other people! Go personal power!Go healthy self-esteem!Go emotional intelligence!It appears that you are consistently making the choice to value your inner experience, as well as that of another. It seems that you possess the emotional maturity to not react to situations and interactions in a knee-jerk, survival driven, compulsive way; but you are able to calm yourself and reflect on ways of responding that communicate: "I love you and I love me,"and "Let's come together and work as a team, to come up with a solution that considers us both!"This points to healthy coping that keeps on nourishing your self-esteem!Keep up your awesome coping! Personal Power and Christianity - A Reflection"Christianity, I believe, is about expanded life, heightened consciousness, and achieving a new humanity. I rather experience God as a source of life willing me to live fully, the source of love calling me to love wastefully, and to borrow a phrase from the theologian, Paul Tillich, as the Ground of Being, calling me to be all that I can be."John Shelby SpongIf you found the above information helpful, you may like to subscribe to my weekly email newsletter, aimed to inspire Self-Worth, Confidence, Authenticity, and Emotional Wellness (within Christian values) Welcome to my online community! (unsubscribe anytime)With Love, Bozenawww.bozenazawisz.comBozena is a Multi Award-Winning Author/Counseling Psychologist, empowering/coaching/mentoring women who want to reclaim control of their mindset, self-worth, and inner experience; within Christian values.
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  Escapism Potential?

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  This quiz is all about supporting you to reflect on they way you respond, in certain situations!Based on the answers you've selected, in some situations you may respond in a way that avoids encountering your own and/or another's inner experience. And, we can certainly all relate to this!At times, it may be most appropriate to make a choice to take time out to distract ourselves from a challenging emotion or situation. However, this can become a problem at those times when we routinely/compulsively find ourselves avoiding the reflecting on our inner experience, or coping with a challenging situation (like putting off doing an assignment). Ideas for moving forward...1. Strive to consider each situation in which you’re in with fresh eyes. Every situation is unique and calls for a fresh, unique choice around how to respond!2. Give yourself a moment to take a couple of slow breaths, grounding yourself in your body and being. 3. Take a moment to reaffirm to yourself that your unique perspective and inner wisdom add value to the world!Appreciate the value of your inner experience, it gifts you with valuable insights about your thoughts, values, and goals... It is there to support you! Consider welcoming it with compassion and reflection...4. If you find yourself avoiding a challenging task, see if you can brainstorm ways of breaking it down into manageable, small steps... until the steps are so small that you can comfortably move forward...5. Get clear about your "whys." Why are your goals important to you? What is it that drives you, motivates you, inspires you?6. Is there a reward that you can give to yourself, conditional on accomplishing a small step?7. Appreciate that perfection does not exist, that mistakes are necessary to the learning process and that "imperfect action is better than perfect inaction!" Truman, H. S. Christian Inspiration... “So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.” Isaiah 41:10 I can do all things through him who strengthens me. Philippians 4:13 “Your beauty should... be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight.”1 Peter 3:3-4If you found the above information helpful, you may like to check out my upcoming free masterclass.With Love, Bozenawww.bozenazawisz.comBozena is a Multi Award-Winning Author/Counseling Psychologist, empowering/coaching/mentoring women who want to reclaim control of their mindset, self-worth, and inner experience; within Christian values.