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Quiz Questions

• 1.
  A friend approaches you about helping out with an event she's putting on, but you already have plans for that weekend. You...

  • A.
    Immediately say yes.
  • B.
    Try to explain why you can't help, but eventually say yes anyway.
  • C.
    Kindly tell her you don't have time right now to help.
  • D.
    Flat out tell her you're not interested in helping.
• 2.
  You have a big decision to make, which weighs heavy on your mind, and you're not sure how to move forward. You...

  • A.
    Make a pros and cons list and narrow down your decision.
  • B.
    Think about how your decision will affect the people in your life.
  • C.
    Agonize over the decision until you have little time left to make an informed choice.
  • D.
    Ask everyone you know their opinion first.
• 3.
  You grab your usual order at your local coffee shop, but when you take a sip and read the label, you find that it's not what you ordered. You...

  • A.
    Decide you like this new drink better anyway, and let it go.
  • B.
    Stand in the middle of the coffee shop for several minutes trying to decide if it's worth making a fuss over.
  • C.
    Walk back up to the barista and tell her the problem, apologizing for the mistake.
  • D.
    Walk back up to the barista, explain the problem, and receive your correct order.
• 4.
  You spent months putting together a report, working nights and weekends to finish the project quickly. When your boss reads it over, she says, "Why didn't you have this ready sooner?" How do you react?

  • A.
    You immediately begin berating yourself for not working harder.
  • B.
    You tell her you worked as quickly as you could, and you're sorry for not being faster.
  • C.
    You remind your boss about the extra hours you put in on this project, but promise to do better next time.
  • D.
    You ask her to provide a specific deadline on the next project, rather than request it be done ASAP.
• 5.
  You're invited to a party at a co-worker's house. When you arrive you don't know anyone else there. You...

  • A.
    Fake a phone call and get the heck out of there!
  • B.
    Stay for 15 minutes before saying you have an early morning tomorrow and leave.
  • C.
    Sit uncomfortably because you feel obligated to stay, until the party is finally over.
  • D.
    Start to join in with the other people there, even though their behavior is a little out of character for you.
• 6.
  After a disagreement with a friend where you feel deeply hurt, you see her at the grocery store. You...

  • A.
    Walk in the opposite direction to avoid running into her or the problem at all.
  • B.
    Walk in her direction to make sure she sees you too, put on a toothy smile, and ask how she's been.
  • C.
    Tell her you're open to talking about the disagreement, if that's alright with her.
  • D.
    Admit to her right there in the breakfast cereal aisle that you still feel hurt by your last conversation, but that you'd like to work things out.
• 7.
  After declining an offer to be the head of a local committee for cleaner streets, the woman who asked you is visibly upset and angry about your choice. You...

  • A.
    Tell her you've changed your mind and you'd love to be the head of the committee, even though you're already over-extended as it is.
  • B.
    Try to explain how many other commitments you have in your life, only to have her convince you there really is time for this. You're a team player, after all.
  • C.
    Walk away from the interaction only to be still be running the conversation through your mind hours later, and now you're upset too.
  • D.
    Tell her you're sorry if this inconveniences her, but you simply can't take on the extra work right now.
• 8.
  After a lunch date with your long-time friend, you feel drained, empty, and like you've been tensed the whole time. You notice you walk on eggshells around her, but never tell her how she makes you feel. You...

  • A.
    Decide to keep your feelings to yourself. She's still your friend, even if her friendship makes you feel worse.
  • B.
    Decide to create some boundaries in your relationship by not seeing her as often, but still keeping her in your life.
  • C.
    After deep reflection and prayer on the issue, you ask another friend to come with you when you let her know how she makes you feel.
  • D.
    Decide the healthiest thing for you is to cut her out of your life entirely, cold-turkey
• 9.
  A friend opens up to you about a struggle she's having in her marriage. You want to reassure her by telling her about your own struggle. You...

  • A.
    Are too afraid of how she'll respond, so you don't tell her about your story.
  • B.
    Wonder if you can trust her with a story you haven't told anyone else.
  • C.
    Only tell her small snippets of the story to still connect without baring your soul.
  • D.
    Share the whole story, unafraid of the consequences.
• 10.
  While helping a friend put together a Vacation Bible School program at your church, you make a huge mistake with the banner, and there's not enough money budgeted for another one. You...

  • A.
    Become so full of shame you can't even look your friend in the eye when you tell her it was your fault.
  • B.
    Tell her it was someone else's fault to avoid the confrontation you know is coming.
  • C.
    Apologize profusely and tell her you'll never help out again to avoid making the same mistake.
  • D.
    Own up to what you did, apologize, and try to make it right.

Quiz Outcomes

• 1.
  Chronic People-Pleaser

  Your people-pleasing behavior is so engrained in you it feels impossible to be your true self. It's easy to push her down inside and never let her out for fear of being hurt again. Don't let fear stop you from living in the freedom of my friend, Jesus! He created you, shaped you, and He loves you. It's time to start loving yourself again.
• 2.
  Low- Level People-Pleaser

  You may find it hard to be your true self in certain situations or around new people, but you have your core friends who know the true you. Your people-pleasing behavior hasn't spun out of control, taking over your life.It might seem like you have a good handle on things, but my friend, Jesus, wants you to live as your true self all the time! Let's get to work!