Discover the Unique Way Your Brain's Wired to Deal with Conflict
Take this short quiz and get your individualized blueprint to go from Crushing Conflict to Constructive Communication with your partner.
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Quiz Questions
1.
Your sweetheart would say that...
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A.
I'm a great listener - we have great conversations!
B.
I love beautiful things - art, nature, clothing - I love it all!
C.
I'm a problem-solver - I love working out solutions!
D.
I'm a born caregiver - I'm the best at supporting others' dreams!
E.
Honestly, I'm not sure!
2.
Although you never mean it, silly arguments with your partner often escalate because
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A.
My partner's way of thinking is flawed (and, I usually tell them).
B.
I try to calmly point out how irrational my partner is being.
C.
I'm not being heard and it exasperates me!
D.
I'm confused and trying to figure out why my partner is so upset.
E.
I actually haven't figured out why fights get so bad.
3.
It happened again one of those heart-wrenching arguments...your partner tells you
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A.
"Why, why, why can’t you see your own part in this fight?!"
B.
"By the way you look, I wonder if you actually even care!"
C.
"I never said that! What makes you think I would ever say that!?"
D.
"I just can't communicate with you when you get so emotional!"
4.
On a scale from 1-10, how painful are the conflicts between you and your partner?
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A.
1-2, We rarely fight, and when we do, we always seem to make up.
B.
3-5, Lately we've been arguing more, and it's always over small annoyances.
C.
6-8, We argue a few times a week! About EVERYTHING and have a hard time communicating at all!
D.
9-10, More like 10,000!! We seem to fight ALL THE TIME! We know we need help!
5.
Intense arguments go NOWHERE because...
A.
I can see clearly what they need to do, but they can't see the solution at all.
B.
It's impossible to fix anything! My partner's arguments never make sense.
C.
I LOUDLY hear my voice in my head about what's happening during a fight, not my partner's voice.
D.
My partner won't acknowledge that I hate conflicts and I'm just not good at fighting!
6.
When in a tug of war with my sweetheart
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It sometimes feels like a contest that I must win.
B.
I take the rational approach - because I know I'm right.
C.
I can spiral into a loop of making things worse than they are.
D.
I can’t find the words and feel confused. I rather just say sorry, just so things don't escalate.
7.
Poof! Your Relationship-Genie is here! You have ONE wish to end this conflict now. You wish that
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A.
your love could look at the problem rationally.
B.
your love would just give in and admit they're wrong.
C.
your love would speak more respectfully to you.
D.
your love would just hug you and say it's all going to be okay.
Quiz Outcomes
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Kinesthetic
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Visual
3.
Tonal
4.
Digital
