Is Your Marriage More Vulnerable Than You Think?

Quiz Questions

• 1.
  When your spouse calls you . . .

  • A.
    Always take the time to talk
  • B.
    Sometimes take the time to talk
  • C.
    Usually, don't take the call because what you're doing feels more important
• 2.
  I speak with my spouse about non-logistical matters (feelings, thoughts, experiences) at least twice per day.

  • A.
    Rarely
  • B.
    Sometimes
  • C.
    Always
• 3.
  When something significant happens in my life, I tell my spouse…

  • A.
    Always
  • B.
    Usually
  • C.
    Maybe, sometimes
  • D.
    Never
• 4.
  I initiate positive, loving physical contact with my spouse (non-sexual affection).

  • A.
    Rarely or never
  • B.
    A couple of times per week
  • C.
    Mainly only during sex
  • D.
    Daily
• 5.
  When my spouse comes home, and when I come home, we make a point to greet each other and connect.

  • A.
    Almost always — we stop what we're doing for each other
  • B.
    Sometimes, depending on how busy we are.
  • C.
    Not usually — we go about our own routines
• 6.
  I spend more time genuinely interacting with my spouse than I do watching TV, scrolling on my phone, or being online — and my spouse gets more of my attention than anyone else in my life.

  • A.
    True on both counts 
  • B.
    True for one, but not the other
  • C.
    False — screens or other people get more of my time
• 7.
  My spouse and I go out alone (on date nights) and take at least one vacation together each year.

  • A.
    Yes to both
  • B.
    We date regularly but don't vacation alone
  • C.
    We do one or the other occasionally 
  • D.
    Neither happens regularly
• 8.
  My spouse and I have intentional relationship goals and are actively working toward them together.

  • A.
    Yes — we have clear goals and pursue them together.
  • B.
    We have some goals, but daily life keeps pushing them aside.
  • C.
    We're on autopilot — there's no real vision for our marriage.
• 9.
  I regularly do thoughtful, unnecessary things for my spouse, and I meaningfully recognize their birthday, our anniversary, and other special occasions.

  • A.
    Always — I'm consistently intentional about this.
  • B.
    Sometimes — I try, but it's inconsistent.
  • C.
    Rarely — this isn't something I prioritize.
• 10.
  When I need to talk, process something, or feel supported, I turn to my spouse first.

  • A.
    Always — my spouse is my go-to person
  • B.
    Sometimes — it depends on the topic
  • C.
    Not usually — I go to friends, family, or handle it alone

Quiz Outcomes

• 1.
  Your Marriage Is Secure!

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  You're Building Something Beautiful.Your quiz results show what's already clear — you and your spouse are doing the work, and it's working. The connection you've cultivated didn't happen by accident. It's the fruit of two people choosing each other consistently and intentionally.That's worth celebrating."Every successful marriage is the result of two people working diligently and skillfully to cultivate their love. When they combine passion, intimacy, and commitment, they are able to grow a flourishing, healthy marriage." — Dr. Les ParrottBut here's what we know to be true: even the strongest marriages have room to go deeper. God's design for marriage isn't just security — it's abundance. And He's not finished with your story yet.We're Doug & Leslie Davis.We built Vision-Driven Marriage for couples exactly like you —people who love well and want to love better.We married young (both were just 20), and from the very beginning, our marriage was built on trust, faith, and a commitment to keep growing together. That foundation has carried us through every season of life, and now it's our calling to help other couples build the same.Through Vision-Driven Marriage, we come alongside couples to offer the encouragement, biblical insight, and practical tools you need to pursue the marriage God has always intended for you — not just a good marriage, but a great one.Your Free Gift: A Curated Playlist Just for You 🎧Because you've already laid a strong foundation, we've handpicked three episodes from The Vision-Driven Marriage Podcast designed to take your marriage from solid to extraordinary.1. How to Solidify Your Marriage by Honoring Your SpouseYou love your spouse — but are you honoring them? This episode unpacks the transformative difference between the two, and gives you practical ways to make your spouse feel seen, valued, and cherished every single day.2. How to Increase Spiritual IntimacyOf all the forms of intimacy in marriage, spiritual intimacy is often the most neglected — and the most powerful. This episode will help you and your spouse draw closer to God and to each other in a way that strengthens every other area of your relationship.3. Living Out a Covenant MarriageMarriage isn't a contract — it's a covenant. This episode explores what it truly means to love your spouse the way God loves us: unconditionally, sacrificially, and without an exit strategy. It will anchor your marriage in something that outlasts every season.Check your inbox for your personalized playlistA note on what's coming: Keep an eye on your inbox. We'll be in touch with more encouragement, resources, and tools to help you and your spouse continue thriving together.We're so glad you're here. Keep going — the best is still ahead.Doug & Leslie DavisThe Vision-Driven Marriage
• 2.
  This Is Not the End of Your Story.

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  Your quiz results suggest that you and your spouse may be drifting — not apart from each other, but away from the intentionality that makes a marriage thrive. The connection is still there. Life has just gotten loud, and the two of you may have quietly stopped reaching for each other in the ways that matter most.That's not a verdict. It's an invitation."God will meet you where you are in order to take you where He wants you to go." — Tony EvansHe's not finished with your marriage. And neither are you — because you're here.We're Doug & Leslie Davis.We built Vision-Driven Marriage for couples in every season — including this one.We married young (both just 20 years old), and we won't pretend that every chapter of our marriage has been easy. What we can tell you is that the marriages that go the distance aren't the ones that never struggle — they're the ones where two people refuse to stop fighting for each other. That conviction is at the heart of everything we do at Vision-Driven Marriage.Through our platform, we come alongside couples with the biblical encouragement, honest conversation, and practical tools you need to find your way back to each other — and forward into the marriage God has always intended for you.Your Free Gift: A Curated Playlist Just for You 🎧We've handpicked three episodes from The Vision-Driven Marriage Podcast specifically for couples who are ready to stop drifting and start building again.1. Top Three Things That Keep Couples From Playing the Long Game Sometimes the greatest threat to a marriage isn't a crisis — it's the slow drift that happens when couples stop being intentional. This episode names the patterns that quietly erode connection over time and shows you how to break them before they take root.2. Loving SelflesslyWhen a marriage starts to feel transactional — when both spouses are keeping score or simply coexisting — it's usually because selfless love has been quietly replaced by self-protection. This episode gets to the heart of what it looks like to choose your spouse the way Christ chose us, even when it's hard.3. Core Values in Relationships — What They Can Do for YouOne of the most powerful things a couple can do is get clear on what they both believe their marriage is for. This episode explores how shared core values become the anchor that holds a marriage steady through every season of life — and how to establish them together.Check your inbox for your personalized playlist.Where you are right now is not where you have to stay. The fact that you took this quiz says something important about you — you care.That's exactly where change begins.Doug & Leslie DavisThe Vision-Driven MarriageWatch your inbox. We'll be reaching out with more encouragement, biblical insight, and tools to help you and your spouse find your way back to each other — and into the flourishing marriage God designed for you both.
• 3.
  There Is Still So Much Hope for Your Marriage.

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  Your quiz results are a signal, not a sentence. They're telling you that your marriage is vulnerable to things that might undermine it — but the fact that you took this quiz tells us that somewhere in you, there is a part that is not ready to give up.That matters more than you know.Every marriage that has ever been restored began with one moment exactly like this one — a moment where someone decided to pay attention."A good marriage isn't something you find; it's something you make — and you have to keep on making it." — Gary Thomas, Sacred MarriageGod has not written the final chapter of your marriage. And He is not asking you to fix everything today. He's simply asking you to take the next step.We're Doug & Leslie Davis.We built Vision-Driven Marriage because we believe no marriage is too far gone — not yours, not anyone's.We married at 20 years old, and we've walked through our own hard seasons. What kept us wasn't perfection — it was a covenant commitment to keep choosing each other, and a faith that God could redeem any chapter of our story. That's the message at the core of everything we do.Through Vision-Driven Marriage, we come alongside couples who are hurting, disconnected, or simply unsure of what to do next. We bring pastoral hearts, real experience, and practical biblical tools to help you and your spouse find your way back to each other — and into the marriage God has always intended.You are not helpless here. You have more influence over the direction of your marriage than you may realize right now. Let's take the next step together.Your Free Gift: A Curated Playlist Just for You 🎧We've handpicked four episodes from The Vision-Driven Marriage Podcast specifically for couples who are ready to stop the bleeding and start healing.1. 10 Things to Say to Defuse an Argument in Your Relationship When a marriage is under stress, even small disagreements can escalate quickly. This episode gives you real, practical language to de-escalate conflict in the moment — so that hard conversations become bridges instead of battlegrounds.2. Avoid the Trap of Weaponizing Intimacy One of the most damaging patterns in a struggling marriage is using intimacy — emotional or physical — as leverage. This episode names this pattern honestly and compassionately, and shows you how to break the cycle before it does any more damage.3. Understanding and Addressing the Reactive Cycle in Marriage Most couples in crisis aren't fighting about what they think they're fighting about. This episode unpacks the deeper reactive cycle that drives conflict and disconnection, and gives you the tools to interrupt it and respond to each other from a place of safety instead of fear.4. Honest and Open Communication — The Art of Transformative Communication in Marriage ✨ Bonus Episode At the root of nearly every struggling marriage is a breakdown in communication. This bonus episode goes deep on what it truly means to communicate with honesty, openness, and grace — and how transformative it can be when both spouses commit to it together.Check your inbox for your personalized playlistYou showed up today. That's not nothing — that's everything. The road back to each other begins with exactly this kind of courage.Doug & Leslie Davis The Vision-Driven MarriageWatch your inbox. We'll be reaching out with encouragement, resources, and next steps to help you and your spouse begin to rebuild — one intentional choice at a time.