Your Postpartum Profile

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1.
Which statement do you identify with the most?
- A.
  I can’t depend on anyone
- B.
  When I lay down at night, my mind spins with worst case scenarios
- C.
  I don’t know the last time I truly felt happy
- D.
  Even the smallest annoyances set me off lately
- E.
  I need to get motherhood right or I'll feel like a failure
- F.
  Most of the time I rather not even try doing anything because it feels so hard
- G.
  I feel like I'm managing my responsibilities well right now
2.
When it comes to your child’s sleep, which statement do you most agree with?
- A.
  I have a hard time sleeping because I worry something terrible will happen to my child
- B.
  There is so much information on sleep out there that it's hard to know what I'm supposed to be doing
- C.
  I believe if I follow an outlined scheduled/routine then we can all get restful sleep
- D.
  I hate that I’m the only one responsible for my child’s sleep. I wish I could share this with someone else.
- E.
  The lack of sleep is getting to me and I’m feeling hopeless about it.
- F.
  When my child doesn’t sleep or skips naps, it sets me off and I feel angry
- G.
  We are in a good rhythm when it comes to sleep
3.
How do you feel about someone else watching your child?
- A.
  I don’t think they’ll get it right so I leave lists and instructions. It may come off as micromanaging to some
- B.
  I’m always left more irritated because something doesn’t get done. It makes me want to go off on the person
- C.
  It feels like a lot of work so I often don’t even try it
- D.
  I don’t have anyone who could help so it’s not an option
- E.
  I get anxious thinking about leaving my child with someone else. My mind immediately goes to a scary place
- F.
  I don’t have the desire or energy to leave my house
- G.
  I feel confident leaving my child in the care of someone I trust
4.
What continues to show up for you in motherhood?
- A.
  A lot of stress and worry that I can’t turn off
- B.
  The loneliness
- C.
  Indecision—every decision has felt very hard
- D.
  Feeling disconnected and not like myself
- E.
  Low frustration tolerance—I feel angrier than ever
- F.
  A lot of pressure to be the perfect mom
- G.
  I'm confident in my abilities
5.
What’s it like for you to make mom friends or join a mom group?
- A.
  I feel the strong desire to put my best foot forward and say the right things
- B.
  It always feels like there’s a lot going on and I can’t focus
- C.
  I’m worried I’ll say the wrong thing or make a fool of myself so sometimes I don’t say much
- D.
  Even when I try to make friends, it feels like people don’t make an effort and they’re super flaky
- E.
  I have no interest in making friends or joining groups
- F.
  I get so frustrated when I get together with others because nothing ever goes as it should and then I’m irritated
- G.
  I typically do really well connecting with other moms
6.
Which statement best describes your motherhood experience?
- A.
  I yell a lot more than I ever expected
- B.
  I don’t feel like I can depend on anyone
- C.
  The overwhelming responsibilities make me freeze and I often can’t get started on anything
- D.
  I’ve lost my joy and I don’t look forward to anything
- E.
  I put a lot of pressure on myself to do things a certain way
- F.
  My mind is always swirling with things that could potentially go wrong
- G.
  I feel more like myself than I ever have
7.
When it comes to family, which statement is the most accurate?
- A.
  I worry that my family will want to step in to help and not be careful enough with my child or child’s needs
- B.
  I find family to be really annoying and everything they do and say makes me upset
- C.
  My family is nowhere to be found and haven’t supported me
- D.
  My family thinks I micromanage them when they visit and they don’t like that
- E.
  I don’t have the energy or interest in spending time with family
- F.
  The idea of family coming to visit stresses me out because I feel it puts a lot more on my plate and I’m already drowning
- G.
  I feel grateful for the amount of family support I have
8.
What would you say is the main thing that gets in the way of a more positive parenting experience for you?
- A.
  I don’t feel like myself and I often feel disconnected
- B.
  The loneliness. If I had more support I’d be a better parent
- C.
  My anger—It caught me by surprise and has been a big issue
- D.
  The amount of worry that consumes me. It takes up a lot of my time
- E.
  My desire to be perfect and constantly need to be doing more
- F.
  Being easily overwhelmed by every single thing that comes up
- G.
  For the most part, my parenting experience has been positive
9.
Which one of these scenarios is most upsetting to you?
- A.
  Friends not being as helpful as they said they would be once I brought the baby home
- B.
  Having this empty feeling inside that I just can’t shake no matter what I try
- C.
  My child being sick and not having the answers or knowing what to do
- D.
  Having a sitter watch my child only to learn they didn’t follow my schedule and put my child to bed much later
- E.
  Feeling disrespected by my partner and (me) blowing up in front of our child(ren)
- F.
  Starting the week with a long to-do list, only to find I forgot to schedule an important appointment
- G.
  People telling me it's going to be hard, or that I won't enjoy it
10.
What would a really good friend say they’ve noticed about you since becoming a mom?
- A.
  My anxiety has gotten worse since becoming a mom
- B.
  I don’t have as much fun and I don’t laugh like I used to
- C.
  I’m easily triggered and have more disagreements
- D.
  I have really unrealistic expectations of myself. I’ve always been a go-getter and motherhood has put it into overdrive
- E.
  My life looks and feels chaotic because I can’t focus or get anything done
- F.
  I’m not nearly as social as I used to be and rarely see people
- G.
  I'm happier than I've ever been

Quiz Outcomes

1.
Worrier
Hi,Before you read your quiz results, please know this: There’s zero judgment in these postpartum profiles. There’s no rank order from “bad” to “worst,” and identifying with any one of them doesn’t make you a terrible mother.If reading this profile brings up self-critical thoughts, try to be curious instead. Are you surprised by your results? In what way? What feels especially true about your profile? What doesn’t ring quite as true?OK, now you can read your results.You are a Worrier.Being a Worrier means you tend to lean toward anxiety. Your body and mind might alert you regularly that something is wrong—even if it isn’t. You may notice your mind races with worst-case scenarios. This may even keep you up at night. Often, Worriers take on the bulk of child care responsibilities because it allows them to feel in control and potentially avoid any harm. This can be exhausting and quickly lead to burnout.Now that you’ve identified what’s especially tough for you right now, you can take a step toward feeling more supported. For Worriers, I recommend starting here: 5 Things You Can Do to Reduce Anxiety. This post is packed with practical strategies to help you feel less anxious and more empowered.You’ve got this.Cheering you on,Dr. Ashurina ReamPsyched Mommy
2.
Perfectionist
Hi,Before you read your quiz results, please know this: There’s zero judgment in these postpartum profiles. There’s no rank order from “bad” to “worst,” and identifying with any one of them doesn’t make you a terrible mother.If reading this profile brings up self-critical thoughts, try to be curious instead. Are you surprised by your results? In what way? What feels especially true about your profile? What doesn’t ring quite as true?OK, now you can read your results.You are a Perfectionist.As a Perfectionist, you likely “should” yourself on the regular. That means you’re constantly telling yourself what you “should” be doing. You set (unrealistically) high expectations for yourself, and you’re burdened by mounting pressure. If things don't go according to your carefully thought-out plan, you feel anxious and frustrated.When your perfectionism keeps you from following through with an intention or task, you may feel like a failure. This isn’t news to you, but perfectionism isn’t fun. It steals joy and overshadows nearly every experienceNow that you’ve identified what’s especially tough for you right now, you can take a step toward feeling more supported. For Perfectionists, I recommend starting with my Self-Compassion Guide This free PDF will help you reflect on your current level of self-compassion and learn how to be kinder to yourself. You’re doing so much better than you give yourself credit for.With admiration,Dr. Ashurina ReamPsyched Mommy
3.
Lonely Villager
Hi,Before you read your quiz results, please know this: There’s zero judgment in these postpartum profiles. There’s no rank order from “bad” to “worst,” and identifying with any one of them doesn’t make you a terrible mother.If reading this profile brings up self-critical thoughts, try to be curious instead. Are you surprised by your results? In what way? What feels especially true about your profile? What doesn’t ring quite as true?OK, now you can read your results.You are a Lonely Villager.You’ve likely experienced parenthood as an isolating experience. You keep hearing, “It takes a village,” but yours just hasn’t shown up. You may live far away from those you love, or you may have been disappointed by the lack of support from nearby family and friends. Whatever the case, you’re feeling the debilitating loneliness and overwhelm from doing it all alone. Now that you’ve identified what’s especially tough for you right now, you can take a step toward feeling more supported. For Lonely Villagers, I recommend paying close attention to Module 4:3 of my online course, Keeping Mommy in Mind. In that lesson, you’ll learn four different types of support moms need, and I’ll introduce you to a simple strategy to help you expand your social circle.You'll also find more on loneliness on the blog in this post here.You’re not alone. I promise.Sending you love,Dr. Ashurina ReamPsyched Mommy
4.
Overwhelmed
Hi,Before you read your quiz results, please know this: There’s zero judgment in these postpartum profiles. There’s no rank order from “bad” to “worst,” and identifying with any one of them doesn’t make you a terrible mother.If reading this profile brings up self-critical thoughts, try to be curious instead. Are you surprised by your results? In what way? What feels especially true about your profile? What doesn’t ring quite as true?OK, now you can read your results.You are Overwhelmed.In fact, maybe “overwhelmed” is an understatement. Everything seems so hard right now. Packing up a diaper bag, making a meal, finding an outfit. It all feels impossible. Sometimes, the endless choices are hard to sift through. Other times, you’re not even sure it’s worth trying. It all just seems sort of pointless.Now that you’ve identified what’s especially tough for you right now, you can take a step toward feeling more supported. For Overwhelmed moms, I recommend you check out my free Grounding Skills Resource. In this simple guided meditation, you’ll learn how to anchor yourself in the moment—a powerful way to prevent feeling swallowed up by your seemingly endless to-do list.Motherhood doesn’t have to be all overwhelm all the time. You can get to a place of confidence and joy. Promise. You’ve got this,Dr. Ashurina ReamPsyched Mommy
5.
Down in the Dumps
Hi,Before you read your quiz results, please know this: There’s zero judgment in these postpartum profiles. There’s no rank order from “bad” to “worst,” and identifying with any one of them doesn’t make you a terrible mother.If reading this profile brings up self-critical thoughts, try to be curious instead. Are you surprised by your results? In what way? What feels especially true about your profile? What doesn’t ring quite as true?OK, now you can read your results.You are Down in the Dumps.You just don’t feel much like yourself these days. You’re more disconnected and less joyful, and you don’t look forward to much anymore—and you have no idea how to get off the “ride.” It feels like a trap, and your best efforts don’t seem to change things. I’m here to remind you that it’s okay to have these feelings—and you are not alone. Many parents walk this journey feeling less than thrilled. Now that you’ve identified what’s especially tough for you right now, you can take a step toward feeling more supported. For moms who are Down in the Dumps, it’s important to get connected with resources instead of burying your feelings. In this free Finding Help PDF you’ll learn where you can find help—both in-person and online.You do not have to figure this out on your own, and there’s absolutely no shame in asking for help. Sending you so much love,Dr. Ashurina ReamPsyched Mommy
6.
On Edge
Hi,Before you read your quiz results, please know this: There’s zero judgment in these postpartum profiles. There’s no rank order from “bad” to “worst,” and identifying with any one of them doesn’t make you a terrible mother.If reading this profile brings up self-critical thoughts, try to be curious instead. Are you surprised by your results? In what way? What feels especially true about your profile? What doesn’t ring quite as true?OK, now you can read your results.On Edge.This might be tough to admit, but you’re angrier and more irritable than you’ve ever been. You find yourself raising your voice, snapping, and having little patience. The problem is that anger is often followed by shame, which can be immobilizing. It can be scary and you want it to stop. Now that you’ve identified what’s especially tough for you right now, you can take a step toward feeling more supported. Check out this article to discover what's underneath your anger—and learn tools to move through it.⁠ ⁠Oh, and because I know you’re thinking it: It’s not just you. So many parents report feelings of intense anger and even rage. You are not the only parent experiencing these big feelings.And you won’t feel like this forever. Promise.Here for you,Dr. Ashurina ReamPsyched Mommy
7.
Adjusting Well
Hi,Before you read your quiz results, please know this: There’s zero judgment in these postpartum profiles. There’s no rank order from “bad” to “worst,” and identifying with any one of them doesn’t make you a terrible mother.If reading this profile brings up self-critical thoughts, try to be curious instead. Are you surprised by your results? In what way? What feels especially true about your profile? What doesn’t ring quite as true?OK, now you can read your results.Adjusting Well.Although motherhood has come with its fair share of challenges, it seems as though you are adjusting well.Don't get me wrong, that doesn't mean it's all rainbows and butterflies, but overall you're taking it in stride.Things can change so quickly, so if you're noticing any changes in how you're feeling, you can always come back to this quiz to re-evaluate how you're doing. You can also find plenty of free resources here to support you along your journey. You’ve got this.Cheering you on,Dr. Ashurina ReamPsyched Mommy

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