What is holding you back From Thriving While Alive?

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Quiz Questions

1.
What season of life are you in?
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- A.
  18-25 - I am just starting my adult life.
- B.
  25-35 - I have some experience and lots to learn.
- C.
  35-45 - I am at the prime of my life.
- D.
  45-55 - I have come a long way.
- E.
  55 & above - I am establishing the legacy.
2.
If your life was in the most peaceful state you could imagine which of these reflect your thoughts best?
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- A.
  I am so glad I am not stressed over trying to keep everyone happy and be concerned about what others think of me.
- B.
  It feels good to let go of the notion of having to be perfect and be able to give others the freedom to choose for themselves.
- C.
  I am happy to not feel the weight of being bitter and free from feeling defensive around people.
- D.
  I love living in a world where everyone respects each other and I am living in the present without using devices to numb my emotions.
- E.
  If I was in the most peaceful state I could imagine, My thoughts would be a mixture of each of these answers.
3.
How often do you live from the true you?
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- A.
  I have no idea who I am, therefore I feel like the true me is non-existent.
- B.
  I sometimes feel like there is more to me than what I see, but I have no idea how to get to her.
- C.
  I have seen small glimpses of who I truly am and would like that girl to be present more.
- D.
  I am the true me most of the time, except in certain groups of people
- E.
  I live the true version of myself all the time in all circumstances.
4.
Finish this statement: I am tired of:
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- A.
  Always being and doing what others need from me.
- B.
  Feeling like I am a disappointment to myself and others.
- C.
  Feeling angry inside and secretly judging me and others.
- D.
  Being surrounded by negative/dysfunctional people. I just want to escape.
- E.
  Each answer is exactly what I am tired of.
5.
What area of your life is most affected by your inability to be authentic?
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- A.
  My business/career/job.
- B.
  parenting my children.
- C.
  my relationships with friends and family.
- D.
  my personal growth and relationship with self.
- E.
  honestly, all the above.
6.
The train is about to leave the station. If you decide to hop on, it will take you on a journey that leads to the place where stress and disappointment are experienced less and joy and self-acceptance are experienced more. Which one describes your thoughts about getting on the train.
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- A.
  I don't believe a place like that exists, but I will take a chance.
- B.
  Even though I am tired, I'll muster up enough strength to see what is ahead.
- C.
  I am afraid of the unknown, but I bought my ticket and found my seat.
- D.
  I know this journey will transform me so I am willing to go. It would be great if someone came with me.
- E.
  My ticket is in hand, I am sitting in my seat. I am eager and ready to do whatever it takes to get to my destination.

Quiz Outcomes

1.
Holding A Grudge
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Hey there, my powerfully determined friend!I know, you may be saying, “Pam, I don’t feel powerfully determined!” Yep, I understand. I didn’t either. But like you, something compelled me to take an assesment like this one. Do you know what that says about you? You are searching for something better, something more than what you are experiencing right now. That makes you a powerfully determined human. With that said, let me tell you what else I know about you from your answers to the assessment.You are in that time of your life where you want to be all you can be. The journey feels a little unnerving because you are not sure what’s lying ahead, but that nudge to thrive while alive pushes you to move forward.Life has thrown you some hurtful moments. You have questioned why you must work so hard to get where you are, just to watch others have things handed to them. It just seems so unfair. At times you feel angry and depressed.You want to be happy for others, but you find yourself talking negatively about them, even if it is only in your head.You are good at guarding over your own castle. Meaning, you protect yourself well. I would venture to say, people have mistreated you, taken advantage of you, and devalued you. You have vowed to never allow that to happen again. You feel a deep sense of loneliness and desire a close relationship or two, but trust is hard for you.The obstacle in the way of you being your authentic, God-created self is “Holding Grudges”.Did hearing that sting a little bit? I know it did for me. The truth is, I wanted it to be wrong so I could keep hiding behind an “I am okay” facade. It took me a bit to come to terms with the truth. Once I did, I decided I did not want to be a prisoner to the effects of holding grudges. I am so grateful I did. I would have missed out on so many blessings waiting for me. I don’t want you to miss out either.The fear of the unknown can be strong, pulling us into a place where we are tempted to stay in our comfort zone. There comes a time when we must do something different to get different. With that in mind, I will be sending you a series of emails containing tools and steps to help you reach that goal of being your authentic self.I will see you in your inbox. 😊
2.
Unmet Expectations
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Hey there, my powerfully determined friend!I know, you may be saying, “Pam, I don’t feel powerfully determined!” Yep, I understand. I didn’t either. But like you, something compelled me to take an assessment like this one. Do you know what that says about you? You are searching for something better, something more than what you are experiencing right now. That makes you a powerfully determined human. With that said, let me tell you what else I know about you from your answers to the assessment.You are in that time of your life where you want to be all you can be. The journey feels a little unnerving because you are not sure what’s lying ahead, but that nudge to thrive while alive pushes you to move forward.Whether you mean to or not, you set a high standard for yourself and others. You believe people should do what needs to be done, and you are no exception. “Just do it!” is your motto. When it comes to you, mistakes are not an option. If you do mess up, you are hard on yourself and say things about yourself that are…… well, not so nice. In these moments, believing you are a failure gets hammered in.You know disappointment well. What you wanted or the way you wanted something done, does not happen as you desired, making it hard to trust. You take care of things yourself and feel it is easier than relying on others who don’t follow through.The obstacle in the way of you being your authentic, God-created self is “Un-met Expectations”.I can just imagine you nodding your head as you read through this description. I get it, I also had unmet expectations standing in my way. I felt frustrated, and out of that frustration, came harsh words and anger towards other people. I was then left with shame. I realized that was not who I was created to be. I decided I did not want to be a prisoner to the effects of unmet expectations. I am so grateful I did. I would have missed out on so many blessings waiting for me. I don’t want you to miss out either.The fear of the unknown can be strong, pulling us into a place where we are tempted to stay in our comfort zone. There comes a time when we must do something different to get different. With that in mind, I will be sending you a series of emails containing tools and steps to help you reach that goal of being your authentic self.I will see you in your inbox.
3.
People-Pleasing
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Hey there, my powerfully determined friend!I know, you may be saying, “Pam, I don’t feel powerfully determined!” Yep, I understand. I didn’t either. But like you, something compelled me to take an assessment like this one. Do you know what that says about you? You are searching for something better, something more than what you are experiencing right now. That makes you a powerfully determined human. With that said, let me tell you what else I know about you from your answers to the assessment.You are in that time of your life where you want to be all you can be. The journey feels a little unnerving because you are not sure what’s lying ahead, but that nudge to thrive while alive pushes you to move forward.You have the heart to help. When those around you need something done, they know they can rely on you. You feel exhausted and over-extended. Your time is misdirected, causing you to be at the bottom of the to-do list. This leaves little time to invest in you. Those things you love to do, you know, the ones that bring you joy and a sense of happiness? Yes, those things, all get pushed onto the “Someday” list that rarely gets accomplished.You desire to speak your mind. However, the fear of someone getting mad at you for saying no traps you in silence.Your kind heart turns cold when you realize you have been doing too much for everyone else. You even tend to go way to the other side of the spectrum by rigidly saying no to any requests.You find yourself rescuing or fixing other people’s problems even when you were not asked to.The obstacle in the way of you being your authentic, God-created self is “People-Pleasing”.What do you feel when you hear that? I felt a lot of shame. I truly wanted to help people, sometimes too much. Often people would take advantage of me. I had to realize that I was allowing this to happen, and it was on me to stop exhausting myself. I decided I did not want to be a prisoner to the effects of people-pleasing. I am so grateful I did. I would have missed out on so many blessings waiting for me. I don’t want you to miss out either.The fear of the unknown can be strong, pulling us into a place where we are tempted to stay in our comfort zone. There comes a time when we must do something different to get different. With that in mind, I will be sending you a series of emails containing tools and steps to help you reach that goal of being your authentic self.I will see you in your inbox.
4.
Unhealthy Environment
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Hey there, my powerfully determined friend!I know, you may be saying, “Pam, I don’t feel powerfully determined!” Yep, I understand. I didn’t either. But like you, something compelled me to take an assessment like this one. Do you know what that says about you? You are searching for something better, something more than what you are experiencing right now. That makes you a powerfully determined human. With that said, let me tell you what else I know about you from your answers to the assessment.You are in that time of your life where you want to be all you can be. The journey feels a little unnerving because you are not sure what’s lying ahead, but that nudge to thrive while alive pushes you to move forward.You have a strong sense of loyalty to those closest to you. This can be your superpower, but at times it can be the very thing that causes you stress and frustration, especially when those closest to you are unhealthy or dysfunctional.Your devoted heart can make you feel obligated to spend too much time with destructive people. You know what kind of people I am talking about. Yes, those who have nothing good to say. They seem to only focus on the negative. Let’s not forget the people who treat you with disrespect by manipulating you or talking down to you or taking advantage of you.The stress of life causes you to feel like checking out. You find yourself excessively reaching out to food, work, shopping, alcohol, or other devices to avoid and numb unwanted emotions.The obstacle in the way of you being your authentic, God-created self is “Unhealthy Environment”.I know that is not easy to hear. Did a slew of questions come flooding in your head? I know it did for me. “Am I to abandon everyone I know?” “Are you saying you want me to stop having fun?” “What am I supposed to do when life gets stressful?” The answer to these questions was lying ahead for me but I first needed to be aware. I then decided I did not want to be a prisoner to the effects of an unhealthy environment. I am so grateful I did. I would have missed out on so many blessings waiting for me. I don’t want you to miss out either.The fear of the unknown can be strong, pulling us into a place where we are tempted to stay in our comfort zone. There comes a time when we must do something different to get different. With that in mind, I will be sending you a series of emails containing tools and steps to help you reach that goal of being your authentic self.I will see you in your inbox.
5.
Combination of Obstacles
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Hey there, my powerfully determined friend!I know, you may be saying, “Pam, I don’t feel powerfully determined!” Yep, I understand. I didn’t either. But like you, something compelled me to take an assessment like this one. Do you know what that says about you? You are searching for something better, something more than what you are experiencing right now. That makes you a powerfully determined human. With that said, let me tell you what else I know about you from your answers to the assessment.You are in that time of your life where you want to be all you can be. The journey feels a little unnerving because you are not sure what’s lying ahead, but that nudge to thrive while alive pushes you to move forward.You are good at guarding over your own castle. Meaning, you protect yourself well. I would venture to say, people have mistreated you, taken advantage of you, and devalued you. You have vowed to never allow that to happen again. When it comes to you, mistakes are not an option. If you do mess up, you are hard on yourself and say things about yourself that are…… well, not so nice. In these moments, believing you are a failure gets hammered in.You know disappointment well. What you wanted or the way you wanted something done, does not happen as you desired, making it hard to trust. You take care of things yourself and feel it is easier than relying on others who don’t follow through.You have the heart to help. When those around you need something done, they know they can rely on you. You feel exhausted and over-extended. Your time is misdirected, causing you to be at the bottom of the to-do list. This leaves little time to invest in you. Those things you love to do, you know, the ones that bring you joy and a sense of happiness? Yes, those things, all get pushed onto the “Someday” list that rarely gets accomplished.Your devoted heart can make you feel obligated to spend too much time with destructive people. You know what kind of people I am talking about. Yes, those who have nothing good to say. They seem to only focus on the negative. Let’s not forget the people who treat you with disrespect by manipulating you or talking down to you or taking advantage of you.The stress of life causes you to feel like checking out. You find yourself excessively reaching out to food, work, shopping, alcohol, or other devices to avoid and numb unwanted emotions.The obstacle in the way of you being your authentic, God-created self is a combination of “Holding a Grudge, Unmet Expectations, People-Pleasing and having an Unhealthy Environment”.Did you feel a little overwhelmed in hearing you have a combination of obstacles? I get it, I did too. Hang in there and remember, right now, you are on a fact-finding mission. I have the steps and answers to guide you along your journey.The fear of the unknown can be strong, pulling us into a place where we are tempted to stay in our comfort zone. There comes a time when we must do something different to get different. With that in mind, I will be sending you a series of emails containing tools and steps to help you reach that goal of being your authentic self.I will see you in your inbox.

What is holding you back From Thriving While Alive?

Ladies, Take the six-question assessment to discover the root cause of your stress and what areas of your life may need boundaries. These obstacles could be holding you back from being your authentic, God-created self in business and at home.

Quiz Questions

Quiz Outcomes