Assessing Unmet Needs

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Quiz Questions

1.
I spend a lot of time daydreaming. (agree/disagree):
- A.
  Strongly agree
- B.
  Agree somewhat
- C.
  Neither agree nor disagree
- D.
  Disagree somewhat
- E.
  Strongly disagree
2.
I have a hard time making decisions. (agree/disagree):
- A.
  Strongly agree
- B.
  Agree somewhat
- C.
  Neither agree nor disagree
- D.
  Disagree somewhat
- E.
  Strongly disagree
3.
I get performance anxiety BIG time. (agree/disagree):
- A.
  Strongly agree
- B.
  Agree somewhat
- C.
  Neither agree/disagree
- D.
  Disagree somewhat
- E.
  Strongly disagree
4.
I often feel trapped by how hard it is to take the next step, even when I know what that step is. (agree/disagree:)
- A.
  Strongly agree
- B.
  Agree somewhat
- C.
  Neither agree/disagree
- D.
  Disagree somewhat
- E.
  Strongly disagree
5.
Many of my plans are unrealistic and half-baked. (agree/disagree):
- A.
  Strongly agree
- B.
  Agree somewhat
- C.
  Neither agree nor disagree
- D.
  Disagree somewhat
- E.
  Strongly disagree
6.
I'm afraid of what I'd feel if I stopped moving. (agree/disagree):
- A.
  Strongly agree
- B.
  Agree somewhat
- C.
  Neither agree nor disagree
- D.
  Disagree somewhat
- E.
  Strongly disagree
7.
I feel the best while I am getting stuff done. (agree/disagree):
- A.
  Strongly agree
- B.
  Agree somewhat
- C.
  Neither agree nor disagree
- D.
  Disagree somewhat
- E.
  Strongly disagree
8.
I tend to withdraw into my own mental world. (agree/disagree):
- A.
  Strongly agree
- B.
  Agree somewhat
- C.
  Neither agree nor disagree
- D.
  Disagree somewhat
- E.
  Strongly disagree
9.
I take way better care of others than I take care of myself. (agree/disagree):
- A.
  Strongly agree
- B.
  Agree somewhat
- C.
  Neither agree nor disagree
- D.
  Disagree somewhat
- E.
  Strongly disagree
10.
I have more unfinished projects floating around than I care to admit. (agree/disagree)
- A.
  Strongly agree
- B.
  Agree somewhat
- C.
  Neither agree nor disagree
- D.
  Disagree somewhat
- E.
  Strongly disagree
11.
I would like to feel less depressed, or depressed less often. (agree/disagree):
- A.
  Strongly agree
- B.
  Agree somewhat
- C.
  Neither agree nor disagree
- D.
  Disagree somewhat
- E.
  Strongly disagree
12.
I never stop moving if I can help it. My schedule is super busy. (agree/disagree):
- A.
  Strongly agree
- B.
  Agree somewhat
- C.
  Neither agree nor disagree
- D.
  Disagree somewhat
- E.
  Strongly disagree
13.
I probably feel lonely more often than most people. (agree/disagree):
- A.
  Strongly agree
- B.
  Agree somewhat
- C.
  Neither agree nor disagree
- D.
  Disagree somewhat
- E.
  Strongly disagree
14.
I have a hard time asking others for what I need. (agree/disagree)
- A.
  Strongly agree
- B.
  Agree somewhat
- C.
  Neither agree nor disagree
- D.
  Disagree somewhat
- E.
  Strongly disagree
15.
I'm great at getting started, but I tend to run out of steam before I'm finished with projects. (agree/disagree)
- A.
  Strongly agree
- B.
  Agree somewhat
- C.
  Neither agree nor disagree
- D.
  Disagree somewhat
- E.
  Strongly disagree
16.
GREAT job - these questions aren't easy. Last question: "I struggle the most with..." (it's hard, but just pick one)
- A.
  feeling satisfied and fulfilled.
- B.
  asking others for support.
- C.
  getting clear on what I want and need.
- D.
  acting on a solid plan.
- E.
  acting without thinking (oops).
- F.
  not being able to stop moving.
- G.
  starting but not ever finishing things.

Quiz Outcomes

1.
Safety
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Your unmet need might be related to safety.If you spend a lot of time overthinking or have a hard time making decisions, you might have an unmet need of safety.If your developmental environment was chaotic, loud or volatile (even only occasionally) can make it harder to act decisively to meet your life, career, relationship or financial goals, but there are things you can do to shift this.Healing this unmet need begins with getting tuned into what's going on within your mind and your body, as many with this block are much better scanning their environment than tuning into their internal world, or live more in their head than in the outer world.Please know that the present moment is a time machine, and you may be able to heal this unmet need using somatic tools.
2.
Acceptance/Belonging
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Your unmet need may be related to acceptance and/or belonging.Whether you're a recovering perfectionist or an active professional procrastinator, you may have a fear of making mistakes that keeps you from taking action to meet your life, career, relationship or financial goals. This pattern sometimes comes from a fear of criticism from those around you that often goes way back to childhood.Healing this unmet need begins with body awareness to notice what part of you is afraid of losing connection if you do something imperfectly. Please know that the present moment is a time machine, and you may be able to heal this unmet need using somatic tools.
3.
Nurturing
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You may have an unmet need of nurturing.If you have a hard time receiving compliments or have a hard time taking in the good things in life, you may have an unmet need related to nurturing (i.e. the experience of having your needs met in a reliable, attuned way). This missing experience in childhood can create a block to being able to receive support, care or the good things in life as adults.If you have more than the occasional moment of feeling lonely, you're not alone. This unmet need can feel painful and requires support to move through - there is a grieving process that needs to happen before we can feel like we can fill up with nourishment (from ourselves or others) without "leaking" it all back out or blocking it from entering in the first place.In addition to finding the right support in your community, moving through this kind of block begins with filling up your heart and soul with connection to yourself.Please know that the present moment is a time machine, and you may be able to heal this unmet need using somatic tools.
4.
Inherent Worth
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You may have an unmet need related to inherent worth.If you are allergic to resting or if the idea of doing nothing gives you anxiety, you just might have an unmet need related to feeling worthy by just who you are, not what you do.This unmet need leads do lots of doing because of worth and productivity being linked together. As long as we keep "doing," we feel like just maybe we'll be enough.However, this strategy breaks down at some point because all of that doing becomes unsustainable. We all need rest and times of slowing down or doing nothing (while awake, not just while we sleep) to just integrate life.Rest also helps our nervous system recover from moments of high stress (aka hyperarousal). Working with this block means doing the thing you probably don't want to do, which is stop all the doing.Healing this unmet need begins with doing nothing, and studying your discomfort with it. It continues with rewiring beliefs around "enoughness" - this work is done gently, slowly, over time.Please know that the present moment is a time machine, and you may be able to heal this unmet need using somatic tools.
5.
Support & Presence
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You may have an unmet need related to support and presence.This unmet need leads us to be extremely self-reliant. For many of us, we can get our needs met just fine, unless it involves asking another person. If you have a hard time asking others for help, a lack of safe, reliable support in your caregiving environment may have been part of your experience as a child.Healing through this unmet need begins with body awareness to learn why asking for support is hard for you. It won't always be so hard once the pain of not getting your needs met in the past is out of the way.It also involves recognizing how valid, important and big our needs actually are. We survived by making our needs small enough to meet them ourselves.Please know that the present moment is a time machine, and you may be able to heal this unmet need using somatic tools.
6.
Capability & Lovability
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You may have an unmet need related to feeling capable AND lovable.If you can start projects but have a hard time finishing things, you just might have an unmet need around feeling capable. Sometimes we were only given attention when we felt sick, or created drama... over time we learn that we are only lovable if we're INcapable.The result? We may not finish projects we start, because then we'll never be rejected. If this pattern sounds like you, this unmet need is begging for you to understand why you've left things undone, without judging yourself.Making an inventory of unfinished projects, journaling about the "why" of it being unfinished, and perhaps actually finishing a small one, could be a great start.Please know that the present moment is a time machine, and you may be able to heal this unmet need using somatic tools.