How has your relationship weathered the storm of parenthood?

Quiz Questions

• 1.
  Our attention has shifted to baby instead of our relationship

  • A.
    Almost Always True
  • B.
    Usually True
  • C.
    Occasionally True
  • D.
    Usually Not True
  • E.
    Almost Never True
• 2.
  I feel my partner hasn’t had to sacrifice as much as I have 

  • A.
    Almost Always True
  • B.
    Usually True
  • C.
    Occasionally True
  • D.
    Usually Not True
  • E.
    Almost Never True
• 3.
  Our arguments are unproductive  

  • A.
    Almost Always True
  • B.
    Usually True
  • C.
    Occasionally True
  • D.
    Usually Not True
  • E.
    Almost Never True
• 4.
  Things don’t feel fair or even in our relationship 

  • A.
    Almost Always True
  • B.
    Usually True
  • C.
    Occasionally True
  • D.
    Usually Not True
  • E.
    Almost Never True
• 5.
  I do most of the parenting work in our relationship 

  • A.
    Almost Always True
  • B.
    Usually True
  • C.
    Occasionally True
  • D.
    Usually Not True
  • E.
    Almost Never True
• 6.
  My partner doesn’t support me the way I need them to 

  • A.
    Almost Always True
  • B.
    Usually True
  • C.
    Occasionally True
  • D.
    Usually Not True
  • E.
    Almost Never True
• 7.
  My partner minimizes my emotions  

  • A.
    Almost Always True
  • B.
    Usually True
  • C.
    Occasionally True
  • D.
    Usually Not True
  • E.
    Almost Never True
• 8.
  Even the small things about my partner get under my skin  

  • A.
    Almost Always True
  • B.
    Usually True
  • C.
    Occasionally True
  • D.
    Usually Not True
  • E.
    Almost Never True
• 9.
  It feels like my partner and I are just roommates and not romantically connected 

  • A.
    Almost Always True
  • B.
    Usually True
  • C.
    Occasionally True
  • D.
    Usually Not True
  • E.
    Almost Never True
• 10.
  My partner seems to be preoccupied with their phone, job, hobbies, etc.  

  • A.
    Almost Always True
  • B.
    Usually True
  • C.
    Occasionally True
  • D.
    Usually Not True
  • E.
    Almost Never True
• 11.
  Our sexual drives are mismatched (one of us has a higher need for sex) 

  • A.
    Almost Always True
  • B.
    Usually True
  • C.
    Occasionally True
  • D.
    Usually Not True
  • E.
    Almost Never True
• 12.
  It seems as though our parenting priorities are completely different  

  • A.
    Almost Always True
  • B.
    Usually True
  • C.
    Occasionally True
  • D.
    Usually Not True
  • E.
    Almost Never True
• 13.
  We don’t agree on parenting philosophies 

  • A.
    Almost Always True
  • B.
    Usually True
  • C.
    Occasionally True
  • D.
    Usually Not True
  • E.
    Almost Never True
• 14.
  I find myself saying or thinking “you never…” or “you always…” 

  • A.
    Almost Always True
  • B.
    Usually True
  • C.
    Occasionally True
  • D.
    Usually Not True
  • E.
    Almost Never True
• 15.
  We’re not getting enough alone time 

  • A.
    Almost Always True
  • B.
    Usually True
  • C.
    Occasionally True
  • D.
    Usually Not True
  • E.
    Almost Never True
• 16.
  We don’t show appreciation to each other 

  • A.
    Almost Always True
  • B.
    Usually True
  • C.
    Occasionally True
  • D.
    Usually Not True
  • E.
    Almost Never True
• 17.
  One of us completely shuts down when we disagree 

  • A.
    Almost Always True
  • B.
    Usually True
  • C.
    Occasionally True
  • D.
    Usually Not True
  • E.
    Almost Never True
• 18.
  My partner puts other family members needs before mine  

  • A.
    Almost Always True
  • B.
    Usually True
  • C.
    Occasionally True
  • D.
    Usually Not True
  • E.
    Almost Never True
• 19.
  I feel like my partner is only affectionate when they want sexual intimacy 

  • A.
    Almost Always True
  • B.
    Usually True
  • C.
    Occasionally True
  • D.
    Usually Not True
  • E.
    Almost Never True
• 20.
  I tell my partner what I need and they don’t listen 

  • A.
    Almost Always True
  • B.
    Usually True
  • C.
    Occasionally True
  • D.
    Usually Not True
  • E.
    Almost Never True
• 21.
  Since becoming parents, we don’t prioritize each other 

  • A.
    Almost Always True
  • B.
    Usually True
  • C.
    Occasionally True
  • D.
    Usually Not True
  • E.
    Almost Never True
• 22.
  There has been a breach of trust that I haven’t been able to move past 

  • A.
    Almost Always True
  • B.
    Usually True
  • C.
    Occasionally True
  • D.
    Usually Not True
  • E.
    Almost Never True
• 23.
  We resort to name calling in conflict  

  • A.
    Almost Always True
  • B.
    Usually True
  • C.
    Occasionally True
  • D.
    Usually Not True
  • E.
    Almost Never True
• 24.
  We struggle to communicate effectively  

  • A.
    Almost Always True
  • B.
    Usually True
  • C.
    Occasionally True
  • D.
    Usually Not True
  • E.
    Almost Never True
• 25.
  My partner is constantly pointing out my shortcomings  

  • A.
    Almost Always True
  • B.
    Usually True
  • C.
    Occasionally True
  • D.
    Usually Not True
  • E.
    Almost Never True
• 26.
  I am critical of my partner 

  • A.
    Almost Always True
  • B.
    Usually True
  • C.
    Occasionally True
  • D.
    Usually Not True
  • E.
    Almost Never True
• 27.
  I don’t feel seen in my relationship 

  • A.
    Almost Always True
  • B.
    Usually True
  • C.
    Occasionally True
  • D.
    Usually Not True
  • E.
    Almost Never True
• 28.
  I feel my partner is selfish 

  • A.
    Almost Always True
  • B.
    Usually True
  • C.
    Occasionally True
  • D.
    Usually Not True
  • E.
    Almost Never True
• 29.
  There is so much pressure to have sex in my relationship 

  • A.
    Almost Always True
  • B.
    Usually True
  • C.
    Occasionally True
  • D.
    Usually Not True
  • E.
    Almost Never True
• 30.
  I feel guilty for the lack of sex in my relationship  

  • A.
    Almost Always True
  • B.
    Usually True
  • C.
    Occasionally True
  • D.
    Usually Not True
  • E.
    Almost Never True

Quiz Outcomes

• 1.
  Good Foundation

  It looks like your relationship has weathered the storm of parenthood. You and your partner likely know what it takes to get through the hard stuff and are taking necessary steps to maintain a solid foundation. This doesn’t mean that you should stop working at it. Check out this communication resource to keep an open dialogue with your partner.
• 2.
  Cracks in the Structure

  Here’s the thing with your relationship...it may look fine from the outside, but there are some imperfections that need to be tended to. The issue becomes when these small “cracks” or issues grow into bigger cracks that are beyond repair. Let's get proactive.
• 3.
  Needs some repairs

  There are some issues in your relationship that need your immediate attention. Maybe you and your partner aren’t connecting how you used to or how you hoped you’d be after bringing home a baby. Your differences and struggles are starting to create negative feelings and a major disconnect. This is a good time to work on what’s in need of repair.Start here...
• 4.
  Needs a Rebuild

  We (likely) didn’t need to tell you this, but your relationship is in trouble. You might feel like throwing in the towel. One or both of you is running on fumes and this can feel overwhelming (Insert constantly thinking “Where do we start?!?”). We want to let you know that even though it feels impossible, it doesn’t have to be.Let's get to work.