Are You A Boundary Setting Goddess?

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Quiz Questions

1.
Let’s talk boundaries — do you set 'em?
- A.
  You wish! You're dealing with a narcissist...
- B.
  Whenever you try, you get guilted into taking them back.
- C.
  Let's be honest - if you set boundaries, people aren't going to be happy with you and you just can't deal with that.
- D.
  You set them when you need to, at least with most people. But sometimes it's just too hard, like with your parents or partner.
- E.
  You set them whenever you need to. It's not always easy, but your sanity is too important to compromise.
- F.
  All the time, without hesitation!
2.
When respectfully stating your needs is probably going to upset others, you...
- A.
  Do everything possible to avoid having that conversation.
- B.
  Don't give a f*ck. Let 'em get upset - it's their problem if they do.
- C.
  Have the conversation anyway, then profusely apologize for upsetting them. Maybe you even backtrack or diminish yourself in the process.
- D.
  Do what you gotta do, but you do it with empathy and kindness.
3.
You let your partner borrow your car and he spills coffee all over the seat. You...
- A.
  Buy some upholstery cleaner and silently clean it up yourself.
- B.
  Tell your partner that he needs to clean up his coffee spill.
- C.
  Wait a few days before "nicely" asking him to clean up his mess. Resent him in the meantime for being so inconsiderate.
- D.
  Ask your partner if he wouldn't mind cleaning up his mess and that you'll buy the upholstery cleaner for him.
4.
It's 4:30 and your boss just told you that she needs you to work late (again!), but you have a dinner date planned. You...
- A.
  Cancel your date. It's not like you can tell your boss no.
- B.
  Tell your boss that you have a conflict and can't work past your scheduled shift this time.
- C.
  Stay an extra half-hour this time. It's all about compromise, right?
5.
A family member keeps insisting that you go with him to a political rally that contradicts your values. You...
- A.
  Give up and go just to get him off your back.
- B.
  Tell him absolutely not. Conversation over.
- C.
  Try explaining to him again and maybe in a different way why you don't want to go. Maybe he'll back off if he understands your perspective better.
6.
You just met your partner's mom and she told you that her sister got herpes from her ex. You...
- A.
  Are like "Wow, that's crazy! So what happened?!" You're keeping your fingers crossed that she'll approve of you.
- B.
  Wonder why in the world she'd tell you such personal and irrelevant-to-you information about her sister.
7.
Your partner greets you at the door after a long day of work and starts ranting about some trivial encounter s/he/they had an hour ago. You...
- A.
  Stand in the doorway and patiently listen for the next 15 minutes because you don't want to be rude.
- B.
  Move to the couch and give him/her/they your full attention even though you're craving time to decompress.
- C.
  You tell him/her/they that you need to decompress for a bit but that he/she/they can share what happened while you're preparing dinner.
- D.
  You roll your eyes and excuse yourself.
8.
You've agreed to split a bigger-ticket item with someone you don't trust, and he shorts you $20. You...
- A.
  Say nothing. It's only $20, and you don't have the energy to deal with it.
- B.
  Address it immediately in a respectful manner even though you suspect that he's trying to cheat you.
- C.
  Ignore it for now but the next time he wants to split costs you remind him that he owes you $20. Fingers crossed he pays it!
9.
Your parents expect you and your live-in partner to sleep in separate bedrooms when you visit. You...
- A.
  Refuse! This isn't the 1950s, and it's your freaking life. It's not like they're going to kick you out of their house.
- B.
  Tell your parents that you disagree with their rules and will be staying elsewhere.
- C.
  Agree to sleep in separate bedrooms because you don't want to create any controversy.
10.
Your ex is raging at you over the phone because you spent "his child support" on organic food. You...
- A.
  Try repeatedly to convince him that it's important to not feed your child food that's contaminated with pesticides.
- B.
  Tell him calmly that this conversation is over. Click.
- C.
  Freak out on him for being an asshole. Cry. Argue. Defend your actions.

Quiz Outcomes

1.
Doormat
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You, my dear, are most definitely a goddess...but not at setting boundaries! At least not yet. Judging by your results, I'm guessing that you're a peace-loving spirit who avoids conflict under most circumstances. You may wear this as a badge of honor, but this conflict avoidance results in crappy relationship dynamics. And, if you're entangled with someone who doesn't respect your needs, your desire for harmony means you're going to have to tolerate a boatload of ickiness - maybe even abuse, manipulation, and gaslighting - that no goddess deserves. “Empowered Women 101: A confident woman knows that forgiving is important, but sticking around for constant abuse isn't being confident; it is called being a doormat.” ― Shannon L. Alder"Boundary setting helps you prioritize your needs over other people's wants." ― Lauren KensonReady to invoke your own boundary setting goddess? Keep reading!Peace, beautiful! I’m Kristi Amdahl ✨I’m a boundary setting goddess who helps women like you set unwavering boundaries with manipulative people...from a place of compassion and love.After working with a mentor for seven years and experiencing hell on earth, I've discovered that one of the secrets to living an empowered and beautiful life is to understand the art of setting boundaries from the heart. Without hostility, resentment, or bitterness. Are you willing to start taking up space in your life? Are you ready to swap being a doormat with being a boundary setting goddess? Here's what to do:1. Subscribe to my podcast Illuminated Goddess where I share bite-size episodes (mostly 20-minutes) centered around setting boundaries, self-care practices when engaging with manipulative souls, and related topics.2. Check out my blog post How I Set Boundaries From A Place of Love. I breakdown the framework I use for setting boundaries with my "spiritual sandpaper".3. Check out my other blog post Simple Self-Care Practices That Will Help Get You Calm & Grounded. In this post, I share six accessible (and mostly in-the-moment) practices I use for managing the anxiety, stress, and other ickiness that comes with being manipulated, gaslighted, or belittled.Plus, I have a gift for you! Click below to access my beautiful guide "Cultivate the Courage to Set & Enforce Strong Boundaries.✨
2.
Boundary Setting Goddess In Training
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You, my love, are stepping into your boundary setting goddess glory...but you still have to work out the kinks!Your results tell me that you're (mostly) okay with setting boundaries with people who generally respect you or aren't overly manipulative. But those who readily manipulate you to get what they want pose the greatest challenge for you, as you're likely putting their needs ahead of your own. One way manipulative souls get their power to control, manipulate, and gaslight from us is when we let their "minor" violations go unchecked. We do this because calling them out on their BS is a losing game. Their entitlement leads them to refuse to follow the social contract that non-manipulators follow. Rationalizing with someone like this or trying to get him to understand your position on anything is a losing game. Period. So, if you only take one thing away from this quiz, let it be that you stop going down that rabbit hole. Practice being okay even if he isn't okay with you.“Are you a flying monkey? Be careful. Don't get caught up in a narcissist's mind games.” ― Mitta Xinindlu"Do not justify, apologize for, or rationalize the healthy boundary you are setting. Do not argue. Just set the boundary calmly, firmly, clearly, and respectfully." ― Crystal AndrusReady to nurture your own boundary setting goddess? Keep reading!Peace, beautiful! I’m Kristi Amdahl ✨I’m a boundary setting goddess who helps women like you set unwavering boundaries with manipulative people...from a place of compassion and love.After working with a mentor for seven years and experiencing hell on earth, I've discovered that one of the secrets to living an empowered and beautiful life is to understand the art of setting boundaries from the heart. Without hostility, resentment, or bitterness. Are you willing to start taking up space in your life? Are you ready to swap being a doormat with being a boundary setting goddess? Here's what to do:1. Subscribe to my podcast Illuminated Goddess where I share bite-size episodes (mostly 20-minutes) centered around setting boundaries, self-care practices when engaging with manipulative souls, and related topics.2. Check out my blog post How I Set Boundaries From A Place of Love. I breakdown the framework I use for setting boundaries with my "spiritual sandpaper".3. Check out my other blog post Simple Self-Care Practices That Will Help Get You Calm & Grounded. In this post, I share six accessible (and mostly in-the-moment) practices I use for managing the anxiety, stress, and other ickiness that comes with being manipulated, gaslighted, or belittled.Plus, I have a gift for you! Click below to access my beautiful guide "Cultivate the Courage to Set & Enforce Strong Boundaries.✨
3.
Boundary Setting Goddess
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Radiant being, you are the epitome of a boundary setting goddess!Your results suggest that you're comfortable setting boundaries with pretty much anyone. And, you're okay with not being understood, liked, or supported by people who try to manipulate you. THIS. IS. HUGE. The only caution I have to offer is that your enthusiasm for taking up space and not taking shit from anyone has the potential to go a bit overboard. Yes, not being afraid of confrontation is beautiful, but can you do it from a place of love instead of fear? For example, if you develop a "can't touch me!" mindset and then duke it out with the gal who disrespects you, you're missing the point. The world needs your light and love.“You can be a good person with a kind heart and still say no to people.” ― Tracy AmaloneReady to support your own boundary setting goddess? Keep reading!Peace, beautiful! I’m Kristi Amdahl ✨I’m a boundary setting goddess who helps women like you set unwavering boundaries with manipulative people...from a place of compassion and love.After working with a mentor for seven years and experiencing hell on earth, I've discovered that one of the secrets to living an empowered and beautiful life is to understand the art of setting boundaries from the heart. Without hostility, resentment, or bitterness. You're willing to start taking up space in your life! But are you ready to do it from place of love? That's the epitome of being a boundary setting goddess!Why not...1. Subscribe to my podcast Illuminated Goddess where I share bite-size episodes (mostly 20-minutes) centered around setting boundaries, self-care practices when engaging with manipulative souls, and related topics.2. Check out my blog post How I Set Boundaries From A Place of Love. I breakdown the framework I use for setting boundaries with my "spiritual sandpaper".3. Check out my other blog post Simple Self-Care Practices That Will Help Get You Calm & Grounded. In this post, I share six accessible (and mostly in-the-moment) practices I use for managing the anxiety, stress, and other ickiness that comes with being manipulated, gaslighted, or belittled.Plus, I have a gift for you! Click below to access my beautiful guide "Cultivate the Courage to Set & Enforce Strong Boundaries.✨

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