Are You Prioritizing You, Or Still Living A Shrink To Fit Life?

Quiz Questions

• 1.
  You’re having your adult kids over for dinner. After you’ve cooked, served the food, and refilled their plates, they’ve finished their meals just as you’ve finally sat down to enjoy yours. You:

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  • A.
    Apologize for taking so long to join them.
  • B.
    Offer to serve dessert, and ask if they’d like leftovers to take home. They’ve had a long week.
  • C.
    Ask them to stay seated with you as you eat. You want to relish your time together.
• 2.
  Your sister phones to tell you about her new self-care routine that includes a cleaner diet, a short walk, and time on a meditation app. You:

  • A.
    Roll your eyes. How old are we, anyhow?- you think. Who does she think she is, a Kardashian?
  • B.
    Start a mental calculation of all the New Years Resolutions you've made and ignored for the past many years.
  • C.
    Feel a jolt of inspiration. Your sister also has a full plate. If she can do it, maybe you can, too!
• 3.
  Today you've carved an hour out of your schedule to write, something you've been meaning to do for years. At long last. You:  

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  • A.
    Are flooded with self-doubt, thinking… "Why would someone ever spend time reading what’s on my mind?" 
  • B.
    Keep checking your phone. What if someone needs to get a hold of you?
  • C.
    Put your phone on Do Not Disturb, set your phone's timer, and get started. Everyone has to start somewhere, right?
• 4.
  Your toxic relationship ended years ago, only now, you're the one still perpetuating negative messages about you. You:

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  • A.
     Assume this is how life is. Not everyone can love themselves, right? At least you don’t have to walk on eggshells any longer. 
  • B.
    Join a dating app to find a man who will make you feel better about yourself.
  • C.
    Enroll in a support group or get professional help.
• 5.
  Your mid-twenties child moved back home after a break-up six months ago, just as you were learning to love your empty nest. You:

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  • A.
    Put on a happy face. You don't want to add to your child's  misery by talking about expectations. 
  • B.
    Buy some new sheets and furnishings. You can't help but feel that your own relationship issues have contributed to this failure to launch, and you feel guilty.
  • C.
    Have a much needed conversation about some ground rules, including the division of labor and what financial contribution you desire until the designated move-out date.
• 6.
  You've been offered your dream job that will maximize your years of experience, but at an entry-level salary. You know you're worth more. You:

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  • A.
    Accept the offer as is. After all, you'll probably get some raises in the next few months or years, right? 
  • B.
    Ask for a few days to think about it. Maybe you can find a second job if curbing your expenses further isn't possible.
  • C.
    List three ways you'll bring the company value, and make a counter-offer.
• 7.
  Your teen neighbor is interviewing you for a school project on women's history and asks you a pointed question: When did you give up your own aspirations and choose to support everyone else's?

  • A.
    Dreams? What dreams? I've been playing a lifelong game of musical chairs, following the script someone else wrote.
  • B.
    I never made the decision. Things I dreamed of like travel or other hobbies needed to be deferred to take care of my family. Now it feels too late to pick them back up.
  • C.
    I'm proud to have cared for my family when they needed me, but my time is now.

Quiz Outcomes

• 1.
  Cruise Director

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• 2.
  Maid

  Watch this if you're ready to shift course and greenlight your own dreams.
• 3.
  Executive