Discover Your Relationship Style, Enhance Your Life!

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Quiz Questions

1.
I am usually the one who gives in in my relationships.
- A.
  Yes
- B.
  No
2.
I have trouble saying NO, so I am sometimes overcommitted and stressed.
- A.
  Yes
- B.
  No
3.
When I get mad, I usually don't show it.
- A.
  Yes
- B.
  No
4.
I am the one who generally keeps the peace.
- A.
  Yes
- B.
  No
5.
I sometimes will tell a lie to avoid conflict.
- A.
  Yes
- B.
  No
6.
I feel very upset if someone is mad at me.
- A.
  Yes
- B.
  No
7.
I had an over protective parent who worried a lot.
- A.
  Yes
- B.
  No
8.
I am afraid of making my partner upset or angry.
- A.
  Yes
- B.
  No
9.
I tend to be very cautious.
- A.
  Yes
- B.
  No
10.
I had a critical and/or angry parent and tried very hard to win their approval.
- A.
  Yes
- B.
  No
11.
I grew up with an angry parent or sibling who intimidated me and/or was violent with me.
- A.
  Yes
- B.
  No
12.
I didn't feel protected growing up.
- A.
  Yes
- B.
  No
13.
I feel angry when others try to control me or tell me what to do.
- A.
  Yes
- B.
  No
14.
I lose my temper a lot.
- A.
  Yes
- B.
  No
15.
I change jobs a lot.
- A.
  Yes
- B.
  No
16.
I have problems with drugs, alcohol, porn or gambling.
- A.
  Yes
- B.
  No
17.
My partner does things behind my back.
- A.
  Yes
- B.
  No
18.
My partner does things to make me jealous.
- A.
  Yes
- B.
  No
19.
My partner starts our fights because he/she/they don't listen to me.
- A.
  Yes
- B.
  No
20.
My life is one problem after another and constantly stressed.
- A.
  Yes
- B.
  No
21.
I feel like no one really understands me.
- A.
  Yes
- B.
  No
22.
My early relationship with my partner was intense and passionate.
- A.
  Yes
- B.
  No
23.
I hope for more in my relationship and am often disappointed.
- A.
  Yes
- B.
  No
24.
When my partner does try to respond to my needs, it's too little, too late.
- A.
  Yes
- B.
  No
25.
I can sense when others pull away from me.
- A.
  Yes
- B.
  No
26.
I can list all the times my partner has hurt or disappointed me.
- A.
  Yes
- B.
  No
27.
Sometimes I find myself picking fights.
- A.
  Yes
- B.
  No
28.
When I'm clearly hurt, if my partner does not pursue me and ask me what's wrong, I hurt more.
- A.
  Yes
- B.
  No
29.
I desire more connection in my relationship than I have.
- A.
  Yes
- B.
  No
30.
I seem to end up waiting for my partner to be available and pay attention to me.
- A.
  Yes
- B.
  No
31.
I grew up in a family with serious problems; anger, violence, addiction, abuse and /or neglect.
- A.
  Yes
- B.
  No
32.
I have a history of being in destructive relationships.
- A.
  Yes
- B.
  No
33.
I suffer from depression/anxiety.
- A.
  Yes
- B.
  No
34.
Most of my life I have felt unworthy & unloveable.
- A.
  Yes
- B.
  No
35.
One of my parents was abusive and the other passive.
- A.
  Yes
- B.
  No
36.
My partner mistreats me, but it would be worse to be alone, so I stay.
- A.
  Yes
- B.
  No
37.
I hide things from my partner so that he/she/they won't be angry.
- A.
  Yes
- B.
  No
38.
I functioned as the parent in my home growing up.
- A.
  Yes
- B.
  No
39.
I suffered some sort of abuse during my childhood or saw other's being abused.
- A.
  Yes
- B.
  No
40.
I feel emotionally empty, detached, disconnected.
- A.
  Yes
- B.
  No
41.
My partner has a lot more emotional needs than I do.
- A.
  Yes
- B.
  No
42.
I am independent and self-reliant.
- A.
  Yes
- B.
  No
43.
My partner complains that I don't show enough affection.
- A.
  Yes
- B.
  No
44.
I need space. I feel annoyed if someone wants to be with me a lot.
- A.
  Yes
- B.
  No
45.
I like to make decisions on my own.
- A.
  Yes
- B.
  No
46.
I'm uncomfortable when someone is very emotional.
- A.
  Yes
- B.
  No
47.
I rarely cry.
- A.
  Yes
- B.
  No
48.
When bad things happen, I get over it and move on.
- A.
  Yes
- B.
  No
49.
Nothing gets me too bothered or upset.
- A.
  Yes
- B.
  No
50.
We all did pretty much our own thing growing up in my family.
- A.
  Yes
- B.
  No

Quiz Outcomes

1.
Your Relationship Style is: Seeks To Please
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How It DevelopedThis relationship style develops when you grow up in a home with an angry, critical or overprotective parent.Anxiety is the main driver of this style.You tend to focus on the feelings and needs of others to keep you out of touch with your own feelings.Common Traits of this Style Include:WorryAvoiding Criticism or making mistakesFeeling anxious if your partner wants time aloneDepends of praise and EncouragementFears RejectionTransformation GoalLearn to tolerate other people being angry with you. Recognize that you are anxious and fearful of people’s responses. Pleasers avoid rejection at all costs.Seeking to please others is really a way to soothe deep anxiety inside.Knowing your RELATIONSHIP STYLE will help you become aware of and set specific transformation goals so that you can remove what's blocking your success in life and business.Next StepsWant to learn more about how to break free of the negative patterns that impact your health, well-being and relationships?Click here to schedule a Relationship Style Discovery Session.Together in this session we will: Complete the diagnosis of your relationship style Show you how your style impacts your relationships in life and business.Uncover how you can stop your style from sabotaging your success Determine what specific habits you can implement to meet your transformation goals.Let's discover how we can work together so that you can advance your career, and have happier, healthier, more connected relationships at home, at work and in your communities.
2.
Your Relationship Style is: Tries To Control
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How it DevelopedThis relationship style develops when you grow up in a home with chaos, turmoil, abuse or addiction.Your parents were the source of anger, danger, abuse, anxiety and fear.You grow up in a destructive and dangerous environment.Common Traits of this Style Include:Anger - especially when other people try to control you or tell you what to doBlame - you blame your partner for starting fightsJealousyAggressionPossessivenessYou learned from a young age how to fight back to hide the fear and anxiety you feel deep inside. Early on its control or be controlled. It's how you learned to survive.Transformation GoalLearn to grieve your childhood injuries and losses and ease your anger. Learn to forgive those who harmed you and ask forgives of those you’ve harmed. Take responsibility and confess that you’ve hurt others. Also, forgive yourself.Knowing your RELATIONSHIP STYLE will help you set specific transformation goals so that you can foster greater intimacy and connection in your relationships.Next StepsWant to learn more about how to break free of the negative patterns that impact your health, well-being and relationships?Click here to schedule a Relationship Style Discovery Session.Together in this session we will:Complete the diagnosis of your relationship style Show you how your style impacts your relationships in life and business.Uncover how you can stop your style from sabotaging your success Determine what specific habits you can implement to meet your transformation goals.Let's discover how we can work together so that you can advance your career, and have happier, healthier, more connected relationships at home, at work and in your communities.
3.
Your Relationship Style is: YoYo's Back and Forth
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How it DevelopedThis relationship style develops if you've experienced some periods of abandonment growing up. There were times that your parents truly connected with you but it wasn't consistent.Your parents became so absorbed in their own stuff that they became unavailable to you and you are left hoping and waiting for connection. Common Traits of this Style Include:Feeling like no one understands youRelationships have passionate beginnings, followed by disappointments and let downsDisappointments show up as angerSenses when your partner pulls awayKeeps tabs on hurts and letdownsGrowing up in the Yo-Yo environment, you tend to focus more on the behavior of others and their shortcomings and less on your own.Transformational Goal:It’s helpful for you to learn the more vulnerable feelings that are underneath the anger of your disappointment. When you do, you’ll have a greater chance of being heard.Knowing your RELATIONSHIP STYLE will help you set specific transformation goals so that you can foster greater intimacy and connection in your relationships.Next StepsWant to learn more about how to break free of the negative patterns that impact your relationships?Click here to schedule a Relationship Style Discovery Session.Together in this session we will:Complete the diagnosis of your relationship style Show you how your style impacts your relationships in life and business.Uncover how you can stop your style from sabotaging your success Determine what specific habits you can implement to meet your transformation goals.Let's discover how we can work together so that you can advance your career, and have happier, healthier, more connected relationships at home, at work and in your communities.
4.
Your Relationship Style is: Looks To Accept Blame
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How it DevelopedThis relationship style experienced chaos, turmoil, addiction or abuse in the home, but the more passive kids in this environment had a more fearful and anxious response. They want to keep the peace in the home to lessen the turmoil.They look to take the blame. Everything is their fault because they are bad and unloveable.Common Traits of this Style Include:Fears being alone and becomes dependentHides information for fear of inducing angerLow self-esteemNervous and FearfulDepression and AnxietyEverything is your fault because if you were good, this wouldn't happen. You are always yielding to keep the peace.Transformational Goal:Learn to recognize and soothe your underlying anxiety and speak words of comfort to the anxious child still inside of you.Knowing your RELATIONSHIP STYLE will help you set specific transformation goals so that you can foster greater intimacy and connection in your relationships.Next StepsWant to learn more about how to break free of the negative patterns that impact your relationships?Click here to schedule a free Relationship Style Discovery Session.Together in this session we will:Complete the diagnosis of your relationship style Show you how your style impacts your relationships in life and business.Uncover how you can stop your style from sabotaging your success Determine what specific habits you can implement to meet your transformation goals.Let's discover how we can work together so that you can advance your career, and have happier, healthier, more connected relationships at home, at work and in your communities.
5.
Your Relationship Style is: Evades Emotions
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How it DevelopedThis relationship style develops in homes where the parents were emotionally unavailable.There is a lack of comfort and nurturing in childhood so they disconnect.They learned to avoid conflict and confrontation, ignore their feelings and downplay or deny their needs.Your independence made your parents happy.Common Traits of this Style Include:IndependentMinimal emotional needsShows little affectionUncomfortable around emotional peopleRarely CriesAvoids ConfrontationAs evaders, you are shut down to your emotions and needs. You are often overwhelmed by wanting affection and not receiving any so you hide your needs under the veneer of independence.Transformational Goal:Learn to recognize what you are feeling and expand your range of emotions.Knowing your RELATIONSHIP STYLE will help you set specific transformation goals so that you can foster greater intimacy and connection in your relationships.Next StepsWant to learn more about how to break free of the negative patterns that impact your relationships?Click here to schedule a free Relationship Style Discovery Session.Together in this session we will:Complete the diagnosis of your relationship style Show you how your style impacts your relationships in life and business.Uncover how you can stop your style from sabotaging your success Determine what specific habits you can implement to meet your transformation goals.Let's discover how we can work together so that you can advance your career, and have happier, healthier, more connected relationships at home, at work and in your communities.