The Personal Performance Profile (PPP)

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Quiz Questions

1.
I am usually the one who gives in in my relationships.
- A.
  Yes
- B.
  No
2.
I have trouble saying NO, so I am sometimes overcommitted and stressed.
- A.
  Yes
- B.
  No
3.
When I get mad, I usually don't show it.
- A.
  Yes
- B.
  No
4.
I am the one who generally keeps the peace.
- A.
  Yes
- B.
  No
5.
I sometimes will tell a lie to avoid conflict.
- A.
  Yes
- B.
  No
6.
I feel very upset if someone is mad at me.
- A.
  Yes
- B.
  No
7.
I had an over protective parent who worried a lot.
- A.
  Yes
- B.
  No
8.
I am afraid of making people upset or angry.
- A.
  Yes
- B.
  No
9.
I tend to be very cautious.
- A.
  Yes
- B.
  No
10.
I had a critical and/or angry parent and tried very hard to win their approval.
- A.
  Yes
- B.
  No
11.
I grew up with an angry parent or sibling who intimidated me and/or was violent with me.
- A.
  Yes
- B.
  No
12.
I didn't feel protected growing up.
- A.
  Yes
- B.
  No
13.
I feel angry when others try to control me or tell me what to do.
- A.
  Yes
- B.
  No
14.
I lose my temper a lot.
- A.
  Yes
- B.
  No
15.
I change jobs a lot.
- A.
  Yes
- B.
  No
16.
I have problems with drugs, alcohol, porn or gambling.
- A.
  Yes
- B.
  No
17.
My partner did/does things behind my back.
- A.
  Yes
- B.
  No
18.
My partner did/does things to make me jealous.
- A.
  Yes
- B.
  No
19.
My partner started/starts our fights because he/she/they don't listen to me.
- A.
  Yes
- B.
  No
20.
My life is one problem after another and constantly stressed.
- A.
  Yes
- B.
  No
21.
I feel like no one really understands me.
- A.
  Yes
- B.
  No
22.
My early relationship with my partner/past partner was intense and passionate.
- A.
  Yes
- B.
  No
23.
I hope for more in my relationships and am often disappointed.
- A.
  Yes
- B.
  No
24.
When people do try to respond to my needs, it's too little, too late.
- A.
  Yes
- B.
  No
25.
I can sense when others pull away from me.
- A.
  Yes
- B.
  No
26.
I can list all the times I've been hurt or disappointed.
- A.
  Yes
- B.
  No
27.
Sometimes I find myself picking fights.
- A.
  Yes
- B.
  No
28.
When I'm clearly hurt, if my partner doesn't/did not pursue me and ask me what's wrong, I hurt more.
- A.
  Yes
- B.
  No
29.
I desire more connection in my life than I have.
- A.
  Yes
- B.
  No
30.
I seem to end up waiting/or used to wait for my partner to be available and pay attention to me.
- A.
  Yes
- B.
  No
31.
I grew up in a family with serious problems; anger, violence, addiction, abuse and /or neglect.
- A.
  Yes
- B.
  No
32.
I have a history of being in destructive relationships.
- A.
  Yes
- B.
  No
33.
I suffer from depression/anxiety.
- A.
  Yes
- B.
  No
34.
Most of my life I have felt unworthy & unloveable.
- A.
  Yes
- B.
  No
35.
One of my parents was abusive and the other passive.
- A.
  Yes
- B.
  No
36.
My partner mistreats/mistreated me, but it would be worse to be alone.
- A.
  Yes
- B.
  No
37.
I hide things from people so that they won't be angry.
- A.
  Yes
- B.
  No
38.
I functioned as the parent in my home growing up.
- A.
  Yes
- B.
  No
39.
I suffered some sort of abuse during my childhood or saw other's being abused.
- A.
  Yes
- B.
  No
40.
I feel emotionally empty, detached, disconnected.
- A.
  Yes
- B.
  No
41.
My partner has/had a lot more emotional needs than I do.
- A.
  Yes
- B.
  No
42.
I am independent and self-reliant.
- A.
  Yes
- B.
  No
43.
My partner complains/complained that I don't show enough affection.
- A.
  Yes
- B.
  No
44.
I need space. I feel annoyed if someone wants to be with me a lot.
- A.
  Yes
- B.
  No
45.
I like to make decisions on my own.
- A.
  Yes
- B.
  No
46.
I'm uncomfortable when someone is very emotional.
- A.
  Yes
- B.
  No
47.
I rarely cry.
- A.
  Yes
- B.
  No
48.
When bad things happen, I get over it and move on.
- A.
  Yes
- B.
  No
49.
Nothing gets me too bothered or upset.
- A.
  Yes
- B.
  No
50.
We all did pretty much our own thing growing up in my family.
- A.
  Yes
- B.
  No

Quiz Outcomes

1.
Your Personal Performance Profile is: Seeks To Please
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This profile develops when you grow up in an environment where approval felt conditional — with a critical, demanding, or overprotective parent or authority figure. Over time, you learned to stay attuned to others' emotions and expectations as a way to stay safe and avoid conflict. At its core, this pattern is driven by anxiety and a deep need for external validation. What this looks like in your life and leadership:Persistent worry about how others perceive youAvoiding criticism or mistakes at all costsRelying on praise or reassurance to feel confidentDiscomfort when others pull away or seem disapprovingFear of rejection that shapes how you make decisions Here is what is important to understand: this pattern was a smart adaptation. It helped you navigate your environment. But what protected you then may now be limiting you in how you lead, communicate, and show up in your most important relationships. Your Transformation Goal Learn to tolerate others being upset or disappointed without letting that drive your decisions. When you can separate your worth from other people's reactions, you stop shrinking and start leading from a place of real confidence. Your Next Step Your results are just the starting point. The real work is understanding exactly how this profile is playing out in your specific life, relationships, and career and building a clear path to shift it.In a complimentary Personal Performance Profile Discovery Session, we will:Complete a full diagnosis of your profile and how it shows up for you personallyIdentify where it is costing you the most in your career, relationships, or bothUncover the specific patterns keeping you stuckMap out the exact steps to move forwardSchedule Your Discovery SessionThis session is worth $350 and it’s available to you for FREE. If you are ready to stop letting this pattern run the show, let’s talk.
2.
Your Personal Performance Profile is: Tries To Control
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This profile develops when you grow up in an environment where there is unpredictability, instability, or a lack of safety. Early on, you learned that staying in control was the best way to protect yourself and manage uncertainty. At its core, this pattern is driven by a need for certainty, control, and emotional safety. What this looks like in your life and leadership:Frustration or anger when things feel out of your controlResistance to being directed or told what to doA tendency to assign blame when things go wrongHeightened sensitivity to perceived threats or challengesA strong need to direct outcomes and stay one step ahead Here is what is important to understand: this pattern made sense. In an unpredictable environment, staying in control kept you safe. But what protected you then may now be creating friction in how you lead, how you collaborate, and how you show up in your closest relationships. Your Transformation Goal Begin to identify where the need for control is actually a response to fear rather than a genuine need for order. Learning to tolerate uncertainty and to trust others is where your greatest growth can happen. That starts with processing the losses and injuries that created this pattern in the first place. Your Next Step Your results are just the starting point. The real work is understanding exactly how this profile is playing out in your specific life, relationships, and career and building a clear path to shift it. In a complimentary Personal Performance Profile Discovery Session, we will:Complete a full diagnosis of your profile and how it shows up for you personallyIdentify where it is costing you the most in your career, relationships, or bothUncover the specific patterns keeping you stuckMap out the exact steps to move forwardSchedule Your Discovery SessionThis session is worth $350 and it’s available to you for FREE. If you are ready to stop letting this pattern run the show, let’s talk.
3.
Your Personal Performance Profile is: YoYo's Back and Forth
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This profile develops when connection and attention during childhood were inconsistent. There were moments when you felt truly seen, supported, and valued, but that connection was not always available. At times, the people you depended on became absorbed in their own struggles and emotionally unavailable, leaving you hoping and waiting to feel close again. Over time, this created a heightened sensitivity to shifts in others' behavior and a deep longing for consistent connection. At its core, this pattern is driven by a desire for connection, reassurance, and emotional security. What this looks like in your life and leadership:A feeling of being misunderstood or not fully seenRelationships that start with real intensity but become difficult to sustainDisappointment that shows up as frustration or anger when expectations are not metA strong awareness when others pull back or disengageHolding onto past hurts and letdowns longer than you would like Here is what is important to understand: your sensitivity is not a flaw. It developed because you had to track the emotional temperature of those around you just to feel safe. But when that pattern runs unchecked, it can create cycles of reactivity that push away the very connection you are seeking. Your Transformation Goal The shift begins when you learn to get underneath the anger and access the more vulnerable feelings driving it; the hurt, the fear of being left, the longing to be truly seen. When you can communicate from that place, everything changes. You become far more likely to be heard, and far more likely to get the connection you have always wanted. Your Next Step Your results are just the starting point. The real work is understanding exactly how this profile is playing out in your specific life, relationships, and career and building a clear path to shift it. In a complimentary Personal Performance Profile Discovery Session, we will:Complete a full diagnosis of your profile and how it shows up for you personallyIdentify where it is costing you the most in your career, relationships, or bothUncover the specific patterns keeping you stuckMap out the exact steps to move forwardSchedule Your Discovery Session This session is worth $350 and it’s available to you for FREE. If you are ready to stop letting this pattern run the show, let’s talk.
4.
Your Personal Performance Profile is: Looks To Accept Blame
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This profile develops in environments where there was chaos, turmoil, or instability at home. As a child, you responded by becoming the peacekeeper. The one who stayed quiet, stayed small, and took responsibility for things that were never yours to carry. If you could just be good enough, maybe things would calm down. Maybe the people you loved would be okay. At its core, this pattern is driven by a desire to avoid conflict, maintain safety, and preserve connection. What this looks like in your life and leadership:A fear of conflict or being alone that drives you to yield even when you should notTaking responsibility for situations that are not your faultWithholding your thoughts or feelings to avoid triggering a negative reactionLow self-esteem that quietly undermines your confidence and decisionsAn underlying current of anxiety, fearfulness, or depression that is hard to shake Here is what is important to understand: you were not bad. You were a child doing the only thing that felt safe in an unsafe environment. That adaptation protected you then. But carrying it into your adult life and leadership means you are still shrinking, still over-apologizing, still putting everyone else's comfort ahead of your own needs and voice. Your Transformation Goal The shift begins with learning to recognize the anxiety underneath the pattern and meeting it with compassion rather than more self-blame. The child who learned to keep the peace deserves to finally be reassured, not criticized. When you can offer yourself that, you stop yielding out of fear and start leading from a place of genuine strength. Your Next Step Your results are just the starting point. The real work is understanding exactly how this profile is playing out in your specific life, relationships, and career and building a clear path to shift it. In a complimentary Personal Performance Profile Discovery Session, we will:Complete a full diagnosis of your profile and how it shows up for you personallyIdentify where it is costing you the most in your career, relationships, or bothUncover the specific patterns keeping you stuckMap out the exact steps to move forward Schedule Your Discovery SessionThis session is worth $350 and it’s available to you for FREE. If you are ready to stop letting this pattern run the show, let’s talk.
5.
Your Personal Performance Profile is: Evades Emotions
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This profile develops in homes where emotional expression was limited, unsupported, or simply unavailable. There was not much comfort or nurturing to draw from, so you learned to disconnect from your needs and handle things on your own. Your independence was not just a personality trait, it was a survival strategy. And in many ways, it worked. It may have even made the people around you proud. At its core, this pattern is driven by a need for self-protection, independence, and emotional control. What this looks like in your life and leadership:A strong sense of self-reliance that makes asking for help feel unnecessary or uncomfortableDownplaying or dismissing your emotional needs, even to yourselfDiscomfort around people who are highly emotional or expressiveLimited emotional expression that others can misread as distance or indifferenceAvoiding conflict or difficult conversations, even when they matter Here is what is important to understand: underneath the independence, the longing for real connection and affection never went away. You just learned to bury it so effectively that it became hard to find. And that same skill that kept you composed and self-sufficient is now the thing creating distance in your most important relationships and limiting your ability to lead with emotional intelligence. Your Transformation Goal The shift begins with simply learning to notice what you are feeling, not to fix it or manage it, just to recognize it. Expanding your emotional range does not mean becoming someone who falls apart. It means becoming someone who can access the full depth of who they are and bring that into their relationships and their leadership. Your Next Step Your results are just the starting point. The real work is understanding exactly how this profile is playing out in your specific life, relationships, and career and building a clear path to shift it. In a complimentary Personal Performance Profile Discovery Session, we will:Complete a full diagnosis of your profile and how it shows up for you personallyIdentify where it is costing you the most in your career, relationships, or bothUncover the specific patterns keeping you stuckMap out the exact steps to move forwardSchedule Your Discovery SessionThis is a $350 session, and I open a limited number of spots each month. If you are ready to stop letting this pattern run the show, let’s talk.