Fight, Flight, Freeze or People Please?

Quiz Questions

• 1.
  First things first, so I can understand you a little better, can you let me know if you currently work by yourself, or manage a team?

  • A.
    I have a full blown internal team with more than 5 people.
  • B.
    I have a small team – and occasionally use freelancers.
  • C.
    I have an “external” team – working with some freelancers.
  • D.
    It's just me - hello! 👋🏼
• 2.
  Let's face it - we all gets our buttons pushed sometimes -  that’s life! But which of the following would make you the most angry?

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  • A.
    When people have hidden agendas.
  • B.
    When people only think of themselves.
  • C.
    Being backed into a corner.
  • D.
    Having to decide in the moment.
• 3.
  Thanks! So how would your closest friends describe you?

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  • A.
    Feisty and Driven
  • B.
    Well Prepared and Deliberate
  • C.
    Non-Confrontational and Cautious
  • D.
    Caring and Helpful
• 4.
  You're enjoying your Sunday Morning when  a customer (who has spent a whole $47 with you) calls. What do you do?

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  • A.
    Feel a bit annoyed, but take so long to decide whether to answer the phone that they ring off.
  • B.
    Immediately panic they're not happy. Gulp down my brioche and answer at once. They must need me.
  • C.
    'Who the *bleep* does she think she is? Calling on a Sunday? Hold my Cappuccino - I need to give this woman a piece of my mind.'
  • D.
    Nothing. Anyway I'm pretty sure that was someone else's phone ringing. 🤷‍♀️
• 5.
  WASP!

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  • A.
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    Kill It Now!
  • B.
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    Run away.
  • C.
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    Hide.
  • D.
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    Catch it (and move it to safety)
  • E.
    Answer E
• 6.
  Which Magical Vitamin Shot would you love to have on tap to get you through the week?

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  • A.
    The Action Activator – to make things happen more quickly or at all!
  • B.
    The Boundary Builder – would be great to say no without worrying what people think of me.
  • C.
    The Bravery Booster – to banish the fear and do exactly what I want.
  • D.
    The Chill Charm – I would love not to react to everything quite so intensely.
• 7.
  What phrase do you hear yourself repeating the most?

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  • A.
    Can we please change the subject?
  • B.
    Less chat. More action.
  • C.
    Would you like me to help you with that?
  • D.
    I can handle it myself.
• 8.
  Which Big Bang Character are you most like?

  • A.
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    Penny: "Don't mess with me."
  • B.
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    Raj: "I don't know what to say"
  • C.
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    Sheldon: "I hate confrontation."
  • D.
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    Leonard: 'Please love me.'
• 9.
  You're out for a run when you spy a bear (and not the cute cuddly kind) What do you do next?

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  • A.
    I stay still, keep quiet and pray very hard that it’ll go on its way soon
  • B.
    Check my pockets for something tasty - to cheer this poor stressed-out beauty up.
  • C.
    Run so fast in the opposite direction that I set a new personal best!
  • D.
    Shout VERY loudly to scare her away or take off my runners to throw.
• 10.
  Your new business cards have arrived 🎉. But they are ugly 😳. Not what you ordered at all. What do you say?

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  • A.
    "What are these? You know that's not what I ordered."
  • B.
    "Ooooh thanks so much - I love them."
  • C.
    "My husband won't like them" (so now I don't need to say what I really think.)
  • D.
    Zilch. Nada. Nothing. But I think of at least 10 things I could have said on the way home!
• 11.
  And finally, being In-Powered™ is about feeling safe with yourself and others, taking action and having impact – even when things are tough. How would it feel to run your whole life from this place of power? 

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  • A.
    Connected – I would have better and easier relationships
  • B.
    Balanced - I would understand my emotions and how to manage them better
  • C.
    Persuasive – I would know how to get heard and get results
  • D.
    Confident. I would understand my needs and be able to communicate them easily

Quiz Outcomes

• 1.
  Your Dominant Style is ..Fight

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  So, when it comes to conflict - your dominant style is to fight right back. (Step into the ring - Mike Tyson's in town!)(BTW: No boxes here! There will be other ways that you react but I'll go into these later!)You are honest, clear and transparent and people know where they stand with you. If something needs saying - then you're always the one who says it!You are a good friend and people trust you because they know exactly what to expect. You are extremely protective towards the important people in your life and your strong morals and values mean you have a clear sense of what is right and wrong.However, secretly you might find it difficult to understand that others might have a different point of view to you. How can that even happen?!Which means that when those red buttons get pressed you find yourself in attack mode ALOT!With your colleagues.With your partner.With that stupid driver - who doesn't know how to signal.Even the television gets it in the neck! It's stressful and it's exhausting.You want the world to change, and even though I'm guessing you think that means convincing others to change too - I'm here to tell you there's a better way!“Consider how hard it is to change yourself and you'll understand what little chance you have in trying to change others. ” Jacob M. BraudeBut what does this mean in Real Life?Have you ever noticed that when someone shares something they’re struggling with, most of us tend to switch into advice-mode?“Oh no, you should do X”“Have you tried...”“If I were you I would definitely...”But most of the time we haven’t even taken the time to listen to the entire story, or dug deep enough to understand where they’re really coming from?And here's the thing: it's not our fault!Since childhood, most of us have been taught that difficult feelings are to be avoided as much as possible. And as soon as they appear.Within ourselves (too painful!) 🤕 but also — within others (too scary!) 👻The answer is simple. Take the pressure off yourself to respond and fix and just listen. By being open and offering a listening ear we help the other get their thoughts sorted... And the bonus of this approach is that we might end up discovering that the fear of the feeling is often more uncomfortable than the feeling itself!Because they're only feelings right?Ok, so it's about time I introduced myself!Every day I work with smart, talented people like you, who want to get to the next level in their career or business.That's how I've discovered what specific habits make a real difference in having more impact in your life. The things that give you the confidence to show up as the best version of you, anytime, anywhere. Some of these things are so simple and logical, yet so powerful, they should be part of any school curriculum.You might be happy with your result or a little embarrassed about it. But the key thing is understanding it.Because by taking this quiz and the time to understand it, you are already one step ahead of the competition my friend!So, want some easy wins that you can implement right away?If your dominant style is Fight, you probably, x,y.z ..... so try this:1.2.3.With all that said, we are all human beings! (NSS)We don't fit into convenient equal shaped boxes.. We are messy, complex and downright unpredictable at times! So even though your dominant style is FIGHT, you know there's so much more to you than a label and throughout the quiz, you probably recognised different ways that you react dependent on each situation.Keep an eye on your inbox where I will be sending you more details on your dominant style and digging deeper into the other 3 styles, flight, freeze and people please. Because when we really understand all the facets of our personality and of others - that's when we can really skyrocket our impact!
• 2.
  Your Dominant Style is ..Flight

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  So, when it comes to conflict - your dominant style is to run from the situation as fast as you can. (Forest Gump has nothing on you!)(BTW: No boxes here! There may be other ways that you react but I'll go into these later!)So, I'm guessing that you think of yourself as shy, or introverted. But from, the answers you've given - I also know that you’re pretty self-sufficient. You enjoy being around people (at least those you feel safe with) and you are respectful to the ideas and opinions of others.Which doesn't mean you don't have your own ideas too - the difference is that you don’t feel the need to push them onto others. Ideally, people should just notice that you are smart & interesting! There's no need to make a lot of noise about it.You tend to treat people and situations with caution, even suspicion sometimes. You are the Queen of Excuses 👑You know how to avoid difficult situations AND you cancel things ALOT!And sometimes you think that perhaps a little white lie won’t hurt.A good dose of sympathy and another venting session with your best friend makes things feel better in that moment. But surprise surprise - nothing changes. And your problems are back.You're stuck in a cycle of complain and run and nothing gets fixed.I want you to know that there's a better way!“Quiet people have the loudest minds."Stephen HawkingHave you ever noticed that when someone shares something they’re struggling with, most of us tend to switch into advice-mode?“Oh no, you should do X”“Have you tried...”“If I were you I would definitely...”But most of the time we haven’t even taken the time to listen to the entire story, or dug deep enough to understand where they’re really coming from?But here's the thing: it's not our fault!Since childhood, most of us have been taught that difficult feelings are to be avoided as much as possible. Within ourselves (too painful!) 🤕 but also — within others (too scary!) 👻The answer is simple. Take the pressure off yourself to respond and fix and just listen. Being open and offering a listening ear we help the other get their thoughts sorted... And the bonus of this approach is that we might end up discovering that the fear of the feeling is often more uncomfortable than the feeling itself!Because they're only feelings right?Ok, so it's about time I introduced myself!Every day I work with smart, talented people like you, who want to get to the next level in their career or business.That's how I've discovered what specific habits make a real difference in having more impact in your life. The things that give you the confidence to show up as the best version of you, anytime, anywhere. Some of these things are so simple and logical, yet so powerful, they should be part of any school curriculum.You might be happy with your result or a little embarrassed about it. But the key to improvement is understanding it.But by taking this quiz and the time to understand what's really going on, you are already one step ahead of the competition my friend!So, want some easy wins that you can implement right away?If your dominant style is Flight, the key you probably ..... so try this:1.2.3.With all that said, we are all human beings! (NSS)We don't fit into convenient equal shaped boxes.. We are messy, complex and downright unpredictable at times! So even though your dominant style is FLIGHT, you know there's so much more to you than a label and I bet that through the quiz you already recognised different ways that you react dependent on each situation.Keep an eye on your inbox where I will be sending you your own personal action plan and digging a little deeper into the other 3 areas. Because when we really understand all the facets of our personality and those of others - that's when we really boost our impact!
• 3.
  Your Dominant Style is ..Freeze

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  So, when it comes to conflict - your dominant style is to Freeze! (Hand me Harry Potter's Invisibility Cloak - so no one can see me!)(BTW: No boxes here! There may be other ways that you react but I'll go into these later!)You are thorough, detailed and have amazing attention to detail. You don't rush things and would rather take your time to make sure that everything is just right. You are trustworthy and your friends always know that they can count on you.You love to gather information and are always well prepared. And you'd rather say nothing than open your mouth and spout nonsense just for the sake of it. You sleep on things - a lot! 🛏But when things go wrong it feels like your brain stops working! Am I right?Your brain freezes. (Thanks a lot brain!)You literally can’t think of a single thing to say, or what to do. Energy drains from you, and you feel like you've become invisible. Yes, you’re still in the room but no longer reacting or listening, but what's the point? You’re just sitting there.Which frankly makes you feel stupid. And hello imposter syndrome and comparisonitis! 👋🏼BUT of course you always know what to done when the conflict is over.You know that you've something valuable to contribute but you just can't kick yourself into action when it matters. You think the solution is to say nothing rather than say something that's not perfect.I'm here to tell you there's a better way!"We can't hide ourselves and expect to be seen"@minaa_bHave you ever noticed that when someone shares something they’re struggling with, most of us tend to switch into advice-mode?“Oh no, you should do X”“Have you tried...”“If I were you I would definitely...”But most of the time we haven’t even taken the time to listen to the entire story, or dug deep enough to understand where they’re really coming from?But here's the thing: it's not our fault!Since childhood most of us have been taught that difficult feelings are to be avoided as much as possible. Within ourselves (too painful!) 🤕 but also — within others (too scary!) 👻The answer is simple. Take the pressure of yourself to respond and fix and just listen. Being open and offering a listening ear we help the other get their thoughts sorted... And the bonus of this approach is that we might end up discovering that the fear of the feeling is often more uncomfortable than the feeling itself!Because they're only feelings right?Ok, so it's about time I introduced myself!Every day I work with smart, talented people like you, who want to get to the next level in their career or business.That's how I've discovered what specific habits make a real difference in having more impact in your life. The things that give you the confidence to show up as the best version of you, anytime, anywhere. Some of these things are so simple and logical, yet so powerful, they should be part of any school curriculum.You might be happy with your result or a little embarrassed about it. But the key to improvement is understanding it.But by taking this quiz and the time to understand what's really going on, you are already one step ahead of the competition my friend!So, want some some easy wins that you can implement right away?If your dominant style is Flight, the key you probably ..... so try this:1.2.3.With all that said, we are all human beings! (NSS)We don't fit into convenient equal shaped boxes.. We are messy, complex and down right unpredictable at times! So even though your dominant style is FREEZE, you know there's so much more to you than a label and I bet that through the quiz you already recognised different ways that you react dependent on each situation.Keep an eye on your inbox where I will be sending you your own personal action plan and digging a little deeper into the other 3 areas. Because it's not just about understanding the intricacies of our own personality - when we also understand those of others - that's when we really boost our impact!
• 4.
  Your Dominant Style is ..People Please

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  So, when it comes to conflict - your dominant style is to People Please! (Ok Cinderella - it's time to put down the duster! )(BTW: No boxes here! There may be other ways that you react but I'll go into these later!)You are everyone's go to friend and you connect effortlessly with others because you care about their needs. You pride yourself on how empathetic you are and people love you becuase they feel seen and understood when they are around you. You are impeccably fair and understand others' perspectives (particularly if they're kind ones)And you LOVE being asked to help and offer your help regularly. Cakes for the bake sale? I'll do them? Lift to the airport ? I got you! Shoulder to cry on? -Here's the tissues.You relish compliments and people saying thank you. Because that means you did a good job. ⭐️But sometimes you worry that maybe it’s not enough. Did I do a good enough job?Are people mad at me? Do people even like me? And then heaven forbid - things go wrong because you hate conflict! It feels like you'd rather be unhappy for the rest of your life, just as long as no one else is angry at you.Please, please, please don’t be mad. Don’t leave me. Don’t fire me.Feeling responsible for other people’s wellbeing can be exhausting, overwhelming and you start to resent it.I'm here to tell you there's a better way!"If you want to make everyone happy, don't be a leader - sell ice cream to them." Steve JobsHave you ever noticed that when someone shares something they’re struggling with, most of us tend to switch into advice-mode?“Oh no, you should do X”“Have you tried...”“If I were you I would definitely...”But most of the time we haven’t even taken the time to listen to the entire story, or dug deep enough to understand where they’re really coming from?But here's the thing: it's not your fault!Somewhere along the way you’ve learned that it’s selfish to put yourself first. You are here to serve others. Since childhood most of us have been taught that difficult feelings are to be avoided as much as possible. Within ourselves (too painful!) 🤕 but also — within others (too scary!) 👻The answer is simple. Take the pressure of yourself to respond and fix and just listen. Being open and offering a listening ear we help the other get their thoughts sorted... And the bonus of this approach is that we might end up discovering that the fear of the feeling is often more uncomfortable than the feeling itself!Because they're only feelings right?Ok, so it's about time I introduced myself!Every day I work with smart, talented people like you, who want to get to the next level in their career or business.That's how I've discovered what specific habits make a real difference in having more impact in your life. The things that give you the confidence to show up as the best version of you, anytime, anywhere. Some of these things are so simple and logical, yet so powerful, they should be part of any school curriculum.You might be happy with your result or a little embarrassed about it. But the key to improvement is understanding it.But by taking this quiz and the time to understand what's really going on, you are already one step ahead of the competition my friend!So, want some some easy wins that you can implement right away?If your dominant style is Flight, the key you probably ..... so try this:1.2.3.With all that said, we are all human beings! (NSS)We don't fit into convenient equal shaped boxes.. We are messy, complex and down right unpredictable at times! So even though your dominant style is PEOPLE PLEASE, you know there's so much more to you than a label and I bet that through the quiz you already recognised different ways that you react dependent on each situation.Keep an eye on your inbox where I will be sending you your own personal action plan and digging a little deeper into the other 3 areas. Because it's not just about understanding the intricacies of our own personality - when we also understand those of others - that's when we really boost our impact!