Your Financial Attachment Style is Mostly Avoidant
Welcome to the attachment style that most of your colleagues have with money: Avoidant. I'm sorry to say this, friend, but the above picture is exactly what happens when money discomfort is avoided.You know this instinctively as a therapist--avoidance prolongs and worsens pain. It also prevents the healing and resolution of the issue at hand. Conversations about money make most people uncomfortable, but for therapists, money avoidance is an especially prevalent issue. You probably went into the field because you have a passion for helping others. You know you deserve to get paid for the important work you do, but there's something supremely uncomfortable about the idea of making money "off of other people's pain." Ick! No wonder you don't like to think about it! Like most of your colleagues, if the idea of making a budget or getting a clear picture of your net worth sounds like those impossible math equations that haunted you in school, it's no wonder you're a little avoidant. If "having money" conjures up negative images, sensations, and the like, you're unconsciously doing things to part with your money. And who can afford to do that? So what can be done about your avoidance? First, you're doing something right now! You're thinking about it as you read this. Grab some paper and a pen and go a little deeper by journaling as you become aware of what comes up as you ponder the following questions:1. When you think of your current financial situation, what words, images, sensations, emotions, etc. emerge? 2. What are the biggest fears you have about money? 3. On a scale from 0-10, where 0 means not at all and 10 means completely, how confident are you in your ability to manage what you have well?4. Imagine for a moment that you waved a magic wand, and suddenly, you no longer feel any fears, discomfort, ick, etc. when it comes to money. From this place, on a scale from 0-10, where 0 means not at all and 10 means completely, how confident are you in your ability to manage what you have well?5. How much math was required for your subjective confidence level to increase? (answer: none)You can improve your relationship with money, grow in confidence with your ability to manage your money, and dump old, unhelpful beliefs that aren't serving you. And you can do it in community with 19 other amazing private practice clinicians in the Financial Flow Program for Private Practice Therapists!5 months of growing time + 16 hours of group work + awesome community support + doable homework that actually helps = You finding your Financial Flow!