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You're... Ready to DEEPEN
Congratulations on completing the quiz! You're ready to DEEPEN more intimacy in your relationship.According to your results, you are rocking your intimate relationship. Congratulations! I know how much personal and shared work it's taken you to get there.Is there one aspect of your intimate connection (emotionally, physical, intellectual, spiritual) that you would love to take to an even DEEPER level?If you want to relate even more consciously and with even more passion, I'd be privileged to walk alongside you.I'm fascinated by what makes for truly deep and inspiring intimate relationships and I would love to stay connected with you to keep learning together.“The best love is the kind that awakens the soul; that makes us reach for more, that plants a fire in our souls and brings peace to our minds.”- Nicholas SparksThree tips to deepen intimacy...1. See Your Relationship As Your GuideSeeing your relationship as a place you can lean into for individual growth is a beautiful practice. When you shift perspective away from the two of you and onto what is happening for the body of the love between you, then patterns, synchronicities and symmetries are revealed in a new light. I teach couples a practice called the Body of Our Love - from Anne Geraghty's book 'How Loving Relationships Work'.2. Share your love as inspirationLove like yours is precious and rare. How can you offer inspiration and guidance to the next generation on how to make a relationship successful?3. Explore slower lovemakingIf your love making has become a little predictable, a beautiful practice is the art of slower sex. It's easy to see sex as a task, or to start with some kind of goal. A deepening practice is the practice of relaxing into sexuality as an expression of your deep care and heart connection. No where to get, nothing to achieve - more an open curiosity about the changing sensations and energies. I teach more about this in my program. This way of making love is perfect for couples where aging bodies mean the old ways of doing things are no longer available."Hello - I'm Nicola Foster and I'm a brave, loving soul just like you"Hey there 👋 I’m Nicola, Relationship and Intimacy Therapist and founder of Real Relating. If you're feeling concerned or hopeful about the state of your union I'm here to help!Relationships can be heaven and they can be...Well let's just say they can bring out our shadow .How do I know? Well, I’ve been there, too.Not long after my 30th birthday - my partner of 5 years went missing. As weeks and months passed I went through a rollercoaster of grief, anger, fear, loneliness and shame. He eventually came back after several months travelling the world.I went on to spend my thirties socialising and getting busy. I dated - and it was arduous and frustrating and rarely fun. I also chose some challenging relationships where I was carrying unprocessed anger, self-doubt and whole lot of fear of abandonment.BUT thankfully age 40 I found a relationship and sexuality teacher who helped me learn an enormous amount about relationships and intimacy.Over the next decade, I learned how to trust again and how to love with an open heart. I left my corporate job in sales and marketing and retrained as a Relationship and Psychosexual Therapist. Now I love to support couples and individuals who want to have the healthiest, happiest, sexiest relationships they can. My teaching brings together knowledge, tools and techniques from studying relationship, attachment and trauma for over 10 years. I've been on a long journey of learning how to inhabit my body, after years of being stuck in my head. I now incorporate mindfulness and embodiment practices through all of my work.Not sure where to begin? Check out these ways..1. Follow me on Instagram! @realrelatingwithnicola I regularly post more tips like these, links to new blogs, upcoming workshops and share free resources. Maybe soon some reels - if can finally figure out how!2. Read this post on the blog. It's all about how The Wheel of Consent which is a cornerstone of my work : https://www.realrelating.com/blog/the-wheel-of-consent-and-why-i-love-working-with-it3. Listen to an episode of the podcast. Intimacy Matters is my podcast featuring wisdom and insights from wonderful teachers and guides on all things Intimacy and Relationship.P.S. Expect to see me in your inbox with your step-by-step guide How to Uplevel Your Intimacy 🆙 🎉you can of course unsubscribe any time.