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Your Parent Archetype is . . . the Cycle-Breaker
The Cycle-Breaker is growing as a parent and helping their family thrive through breaking free from the unhealthy aspects of their childhood upbring and starting fresh patterns, traditions, and practices. Cycle-Breakers believe that the unhealthy aspects of their childhood environment are the root of their personal and family problems, and that the way to avoid perpetuating the cycle is to reject the behaviors, identity, and style of their childhood environment. They believe that by taking on new self- and parent-identities, they can break the cycle of injustice, neglect, and abuse.This Parent Archetype draws on the mythical archetypes of the Liberator, the Rebel, the Warrior, and the Hero."It’s up to us to break generational curses. When they say, ‘It runs in the family,’ you tell them, ‘This is where it runs out." — Unknown What the Cycle-Breaker wantsThe Cycle-Breaker wants their children to have the emotional, cultural, and material family life that they did not have as children. They want their kids to feel the love and attention the Cycle-Breaker didn’t receive as a child, and wants their kids to never feel the shame, control, and judgment the Cycle-Breaker felt as a child. If the Cycle-Breaker grew up in a culturally conservative home, they want their kids to experience an open, diverse, and dynamic cultural home environment. And if the Cycle-Breaker grew up in a lax, culturally uninvolved home, they want their kids to experience a rich, more demanding cultural home environment. Finally, if the Cycle-Breaker grew up in a financially under-resourced or unstable home, they want their kids to experience financial security or even abundance. What the Cycle-Breaker fearsThe Cycle-Breaker can fear that no matter what they do, they will perpetuate the dysfunction of their childhood home environment. They fear that, despite their best efforts, they will wind up becoming their parents. Cycle-Breakers at their bestThe Cycle-Breaker truly breaks free of the emotional wounds and destructive patterns of their childhood. They do the deep inner work and realize that changing patterns, letting go of old narratives, and developing new ways of being in the world are lifelong practices. They come to understand that their parents were doing the best they could as they coped with their parents cycles of abuse, neglect, and scarcity. They hold it all with grace and compassion.When Cycle-Breakers are stressed and under-resourcedThe Cycle-Breaker can reject all the parts, people, and aspects of their childhood in anger and resentment. In an effort to break the cycle, they battle with the anxiety and depression that can arise from living life detached from extended family, a childhood community, and generational traditions. When they indiscriminately reject their upbringing, they throw out the baby with the bath water and lack the nourishing emotional and cultural resources of their family of origin. Next steps for Cycle-Breaker growthThe Cycle-Breaker grows when they realize that changing the trappings of life (geography, financial security, careers, parenting styles), is only a step toward truly breaking cycles. The Cycle-Breaker grows when they do the deep inner work to heal what needs to be healed. This gives them the clarity to break free of what will never serve them and their family but accept and integrate the parts of their upbringing that can still nourish.And who are we to tell you about your Parent Archetype? We're glad you asked...Yes Collective offers a new model of holistic mental wellness just for parents. We help you navigate the overwhelming and often lonely minefield of modern parenting with professional coaching and expert wellness resources all in your back pocket.We’re a team of therapists, credentialed health experts, and wellness coaches who are passionate about supporting holistic parent mental wellness. Our app is free for all parents to join. Once inside you can sign up for YES Parent Coaching, our professional parent coach-led wellness program. We also have fresh daily content and expert-designed workshops that can help you discover and live out your vision of family thriving. Next steps on your Yes Journey:1. Look for your free Parent Archetype e-book in your email inbox! We'll be reaching out soon, and following up with other goodies!2. Join the Yes Collective app for free today! On your desktop and mobile devices, our app is chocked full of expert resources that will energize and inspire the Cycle-Breaker in you!3. Download the podcast! Each week, we bring on the absolute best guests to talk about the deep stuff that matters most to parents. From doctors, researchers, and therapists talking about actionable health science to celebrities like Busy Phillips, Tembi Locke, and Melissa Joan Hart getting real about their own family thrive journeys, the Yes Collective Podcast is going to be your new bestie. 3. Follow us on social! We bring the party straight to your feed on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter. Give us a follow!See you in Yes Collective!
