Do you have healthy boundaries?

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Quiz Questions

1.
You've been invited for a dinner with your family, but you don't feel like going – what do you do?
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- A.
  Tell them no. If I don't feel like going, I won't force myself to go.
- B.
  I hit them with the classic 'I've got a headache' or 'I'm busy at work' excuse. I just don't want to hurt their feelings.
- C.
  My family knows that I'm a lone wolf so they won't expect me to show up anyway.
2.
Someone cuts you in line ahead. Do you speak up?
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- A.
  I cringe and look away. I'm slightly annoyed but I don't want to cause unnecessary conflict.
- B.
  I snap at the person and ask: "Are you blind? I was here first!"
- C.
  I say something like: "Excuse me, the line starts here."
3.
If your friends had an argument, what would you do?
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- A.
  I don’t touch conflict with a 10 foot pole. It's their problem not mine.
- B.
  It’s hard for me to stay on the sidelines. I tend to get too involved.
- C.
  If they're open to it, I help them talk through their feelings when they're both present. I don't pick sides.
4.
What's your opinion about boundaries?
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- A.
  They’re definitely necessary. Sometimes it’s hard to turn things down, but you can't pour from an empty cup.
- B.
  I love boundaries. They help me to keep toxic people at bay. If something drains me, it’s not happening.
- C.
  I find it difficult to reject people. If I don’t do what they want, they probably won't like me anymore.
5.
Your friend tells several private stories about you at a party in front of others that make you feel embarrassed. What do you do?
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- A.
  I won't talk to him for the rest of the evening hoping that he will get the message.
- B.
  I pull him aside and express how uncomfortable that made me feel. I want to keep my personal matters private.
- C.
  I don't say anything because he will dismiss it anyway. It was a mistake to let him too close.
6.
What statement resonates with you the most?
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- A.
  I give too much and receive too little.
- B.
  Selfcare isn't selfish.
- C.
  People can't be trusted.
7.
Your boss tells you your latest report needs more work when you're about to leave on vacation. How do you handle it?
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- A.
  I nod my head and keep a straight face. But inside, I’m lighting her office on fire.
- B.
  I have to bite my tounge. I don't want to do it but at the same time I don't want to let her down.
- C.
  I say that I'm unavailable to complete the task until my leave is over.
8.
You come home exhausted from work and find your house in a mess. Your spouse is playing video games as usual. What do you do?
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- A.
  I let the dirty dishes and laundry pile up as a signal of my dissatisfaction. I also refuse to cook dinner.
- B.
  I talk about the household duties and suggest a fair plan.
- C.
  I clean a mess because what's the point of making drama. I don't want to look like I'm nagging or bossy.
9.
You go on a vacation with your friends. Everybody wants to go to a beach party but you don't feel like drinking. Would you...?
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- A.
  Participate anyway but without drinking.
- B.
  Drink so they won't perceive me as weird.
- C.
  Go with them but wish I had not gone.
10.
The food you ordered in a restaurant is cold or overcooked. What would you do?
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- A.
  I would eat it anyway. I never complain.
- B.
  I would explain the situation to the waiter and request a replacement.
- C.
  I wouldn't say anything and decide not to ever come to eat at that restaurant again. Maybe I would also leave them a bad review.
11.
You asked your friend to go shopping with you but she said no. How do you feel about it?
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- A.
  I said ‘yes’ to going shopping with her when I didn’t want to. I think she is selfish.
- B.
  I will keep my distance. Next time when she wants something from me I won't bother.
- C.
  She has a right to say no. Maybe we can find another activity that we both enjoy.
12.
Your partner invites you to spend Christmas with his family. His mother keeps asking when you're getting married and having kids and makes you feel very uncomfortable.
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- A.
  I just smile awkwardly every time she brings it up and quickly try to change the topic.
- B.
  I ask my partner to deal with it.
- C.
  I pull her aside when time is appropriate and say something like: “I understand how important it is to you that your son gets married, but I need to have my own space. Let us decide what we want."

Quiz Outcomes

1.
Your boundaries are healthy
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You allow for some flexibility in relationships, but also know where to draw the line if necessary. You can both accept and say no. You know your values and what you want and you're not afraid to communicate it. You understand that you can't pour from an empty cup so you prioritize your own self care. Healthy boundaries allow you to:Have self-respect. Share personal information gradually, in a mutually rewarding and trusting relationshipProtect your physical and emotional spaceBe assertive Be authenticSay yes only when you mean it Separate your needs, thoughts, feelings, and desires from others Empower yourself to make healthy choices“Boundaries protect the things that are of value to you. They keep you in alignment with what you have decided you want in life. That means the key to healthy boundaries is knowing yourself and what you want." Interested to Learn More About Boundaries? 1) Read this post on my blog. It's a deep dive into boundaries.2) Download my free Boundaries Worksheet 3) Think you could benefit from some personalized tips, support and guidance right now? Hop on a free call with me. 4)Get inspired on my Facebook page and join a community of Liberation pathfinders.Hi, I’m Kamila! ✨My passion is to help to set others free from what weighs them down.Through releasing my own unprocessed emotions, traumas and through reprogramming my beliefs, I experienced a tremendous shift that resulted in a greater sense of liberation. In order to achieve this, I had to draw upon a variety of tools. I now share these tools in my work with others. You don’t have to wait for anything outside of you to change. All you need is a willingness, guidance and a clear intention. There’s nothing more fulfilling for me than seeing transformation in my clients when they set themselves free!
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Your boundaries are porous
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Porous boundaries are weak or poorly expressed. They're unintentionally harmful. They often result in feeling depleted, overextending yourself, depression, anxiety, and unhealthyrelationship dynamics.You may find it difficult to say no sometimes and separate your feelings and desires from others. You are not required to set yourself on fire to keep others warm. "Daring to set boundaries is about having the courage to love ourselves, even when we risk disappointing others." ~ Brené BrownReady to Learn More About Boundaries and Set Yourself Free? 1) Know Your Personal TruthYour personal boundaries are based on your own value system and perspective and might be totally different from those of your friends, other people, parents, society or partner. Nobody else but you can tell you where your boundaries lie. Therefore it is crucial to know yourself more and your own personal truth if you want to develop healthy boundaries. What are your top 5 values? What are your non-negotiables? What are your top priorities in life right now?2) Reconnect With Your EmotionsOur feelings always communicate to us whether our boundaries have been violated or not. Therefore it is crucial to befriend our own emotions and pay attention to them. Emotions that signal to us violation of our boundaries may be anger, frustration, or resentment.This can be quite confusing especially if, in our childhood, we were shamed or dismissed for how we felt and for what we wanted. This childhood dynamic often leads to disconnection from our feelings. And disconnection from our feelings leads to a struggle with making decisions and taking actions that are in alignment with our true north. 3) Learn How to Be More AssertiveAssertiveness is generally defined as a way of communicating that is clear, confident, and self-assured. Being assertive is simply expressing what you prefer. Being straightforward. Saying how you feel. Asking for changes. Standing for what you believe in despite potential disapproval. Saying no without having a need to make excuses or justify your preference. It enables you to express your boundaries without infringing on the rights of others.4) Take Time to UnwindHi, I’m Kamila! ✨My passion is to help to set others free from what weighs them down.Through releasing my own unprocessed emotions, traumas and through reprogramming my beliefs, I experienced a tremendous shift that resulted in a greater sense of liberation. In order to achieve this, I had to draw upon a variety of tools. I now share these tools in my work with others. You don’t have to wait for anything outside of you to change. All you need is a willingness, guidance and a clear intention. There’s nothing more fulfilling for me than seeing transformation in my clients when they set themselves free!Looking for a Little Extra Guidance? 1) Read this post on my blog. It's a deep dive into boundaries.2) Download my free Boundaries Worksheet 3) Think you could benefit from some personalized tips, support and guidance right now? Hop on a free call with me. 4)Get inspired on my Facebook page and join a community of Liberation pathfinders.
3.
Your boundaries are rigid
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Rigid boundaries involve building walls to keep others out as a way to protect yourself. But staying safe by lockingyourself in leads to a whole other set of problems.You feel uncomfortable with too much closeness and tend to keep your distance. In relationships, you may find it difficult to trust people and be vulnerable. Your boundaries may be too strict sometimes. You would benefit from a bit more flexibility and openness. “We build too many walls and not enough bridges"~ Isaac NewtonInterested to Learn More About Boundaries? 1) Read this post on my blog. It's a deep dive into boundaries.2) Download my free Boundaries Worksheet 3) Think you could benefit from some personalized tips, support and guidance right now? Hop on a free call with me. 4)Get inspired on my Facebook page and join a community of Liberation pathfinders.Hi, I’m Kamila! ✨My passion is to help to set others free from what weighs them down.Through releasing my own unprocessed emotions, traumas and through reprogramming my beliefs, I experienced a tremendous shift that resulted in a greater sense of liberation. In order to achieve this, I had to draw upon a variety of tools. I now share these tools in my work with others. You don’t have to wait for anything outside of you to change. All you need is a willingness, guidance and a clear intention. There’s nothing more fulfilling for me than seeing transformation in my clients when they set themselves free!

Do you have healthy boundaries?

Take this less than 5 min quiz to find out what type of boundaries do you have - healthy, rigid or porous? + Free Bonus Setting Healthy Boundaries Worksheet.

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