What’s your Cuckoo type?

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Quiz Questions

1.
Is there someone in your life who tries to monopolize your time and consumes a lot of your emotional energy?
- A.
  Yes!
- B.
  No!
2.
Is there an area of your life that began as a passion and has increasingly grown into an obsessive preoccupation, crippling perfectionism, or, worse, an addiction? (For example, your to-do list, social media, work, volunteering, exercise, cleaning, online dating, shopping.)
- A.
  Yes!
- B.
  No!
3.
Is there someone in your life who is more of a taker than a giver and does not give back to you in the same way?
- A.
  Yes!
- B.
  No!
4.
Is there an area of your life where you are feeding your ego because you are more concerned with success, keeping up appearances, and being the best? Do you feel bound to these internal drives that grow bigger and bigger the more you nurture them?
- A.
  Yes!
- B.
  No!
5.
Is there someone in your life who leaves you feeling overwhelmed because your purpose in life revolves around them, and your voice, feelings, and needs are not mutually acknowledged?
- A.
  Yes!
- B.
  No!
6.
Is there an area of your life that initially appeared to be a good thing or a God thing, yet it has left you feeling empty, lost, and lonely? (For example, a ministry, a career, a project.)
- A.
  Yes!
- B.
  No!
7.
Is there someone in your life who you are unable to have a rational conversation with because simple things become very complicated?
- A.
  Yes!
- B.
  No!
8.
Is there an area of your work, home, or social life that has gradually consumed you and become the primary source of your identity, worth, and value?
- A.
  Yes!
- B.
  No!
9.
Is there someone in your life who leaves you feeling confused and misunderstood, but you cannot put your finger on exactly how or why?
- A.
  Yes!
- B.
  No!
10.
Is there an area of your life where you tend to neglect your mental health and emotional wellbeing and you experience stress and burnout as a result? Do you also tend to neglect or not prioritize relationships with the people closest to you? (For example, your marriage, friendships, and family.)
- A.
  Yes!
- B.
  No!
11.
Is there someone in your life who you feel manipulates you, and your gut is telling you something is not right?
- A.
  Yes!
- B.
  No!
12.
Is there an area of your life that has overtaken you, and the more you try to control it, the more out of control you feel? (For example, food, drugs, work, TV, drinking)
- A.
  Yes!
- B.
  No!
13.
Is there someone in your life you feel responsible for carrying the emotional weight of the relationship?
- A.
  Yes!
- B.
  No!
14.
Is there an area of your life about which you have become driven by your performance instead of guided by your purpose, and you have lost your peace of mind and joy as a result?
- A.
  Yes!
- B.
  No!
15.
Is there someone in your life you feel has been gradually deceiving you over a period of time, and you realize this person is not who you thought they were?
- A.
  Yes!
- B.
  No!
16.
Is there an area of your life that originally fulfilled you, but now drains you and no longer truly satisfies the longings of your soul or your heart’s deepest desires?
- A.
  Yes!
- B.
  No!
17.
Is there someone in your life who is never satisfied, no matter how much you try to love, help, and please them?
- A.
  Yes!
- B.
  No!
18.
Is there someone in your life who twists the truth and avoids dealing with facts and becomes accusatory, critical, or overly emotional when you try to point it out?
- A.
  Yes!
- B.
  No!

Quiz Outcomes

1.
Congratulations, You are an Outlier!
You are not presently hosting a cuckoo in your “nest,” The Relationship Cuckoo or The Self-Inflicted Cuckoo. Based upon your responses, it sounds like you are currently living cuckoo-free. There is a strong likelihood that the other people in your life are suffering under the toxic weight of a cuckoo. Now you can help them break free from their unhealthy relationships, toxic thinking, and self-sabotaging behaviors. There is always room to grow and ensure your nest is not vulnerable to being invaded by future cuckoos. Or perhaps you realize you are displaying some cuckoo-type behavior in your relationships.
2.
You are hosting the Self-Inflicted Cuckoo in your Life "Nest!"
Hosting The Self-Inflicted Cuckoo likely means you are engaging in some form of toxic thinking and self-sabotaging behavior. Rather than hosting The Relationship Cuckoo with a person who continues to hurt you and take advantage of you – it is your own behaviors and thinking patterns that are keeping you stuck. You’re likely dealing with a whole flock of Self-Inflicted Cuckoos – from perfectionism, addictions, analysis paralysis, work-a-holic tendencies, and comparisonitis. To seeking your worth and value from your accomplishments. Or, your passions have grown turned into obsessions that feel overwhelming and all-consuming. Your thought life primarily consists of endless rationalizing, reasoning, and ruminating. Perhaps you turn to coping mechanisms to help you cope with stress, insecurity, and anxiety such as: overeating, drinking, shopping, gossiping, on-line dating, and endless social media scrolling, to name a few.
3.
Congratulations, You are an Outlier!
You are not presently hosting a cuckoo in your “nest,” The Relationship Cuckoo or The Self-Inflicted Cuckoo. Based upon your responses, it sounds like you are currently living cuckoo-free. There is a strong likelihood that the other people in your life are suffering under the toxic weight of a cuckoo. Now you can help them break free from their unhealthy relationships, toxic thinking, and self-sabotaging behaviors. There is always room to grow and ensure your nest is not vulnerable to being invaded by future cuckoos. Or perhaps you realize you are displaying some cuckoo-type behavior in your relationships.
4.
You are hosting the Relationship Cuckoo in you Life "Nest!"
Hosting The Relationship Cuckoo means you often find yourself carrying the emotional weight of the relationship, giving more than you are able, saying yes when you really mean no, and receiving little to no reciprocation. You continually feel hurt by this person and you chronically neglect yourself to please them and take care of them even though they are never satisfied and don’t give back to you in the same way. You’ve adopted the role of pleaser, rescuer, caretaker or always being available. Your relationship is monopolizing your time and consumes a lot of your energy. You leave conversations with this person feeling confused, manipulated, and deceived – even a bit crazy.
5.
You Are Hosting the Combination Cuckoo!
Hosting a Combination Cuckoo is the most common of the 4 types. Check out detailed descriptions of the Relationship Cuckoo and the Self-Inflicted Cuckoo.Most days, you are trapped in a vortex of unhealthy relationships, toxic thinking, and self-sabotaging behavior occurring simultaneously. You really invest yourself deeply both in your relationships and your work – whether it be a career, ministry, or a passion project. You are high achieving, self-motivated, and your own worst critic. You put a great deal of pressure on yourself to do all things well and often feel as though you haven’t done enough. You’re intelligent, conscientious, and hard-working; you do it all. You have an intense inner drive to succeed in business, family matters, and community-related endeavors. The truth is, underneath, you battle insecurity, doubt, and fear.
6.
You are Hosting the Relationship Cuckoo in you Life "Nest!"
Hosting The Relationship Cuckoo means you often find yourself carrying the emotional weight of the relationship, giving more than you are able, saying yes when you really mean no, and receiving little to no reciprocation. You continually feel hurt by this person and you chronically neglect yourself to please them and take care of them even though they are never satisfied and don’t give back to you in the same way. You’ve adopted the role of pleaser, rescuer, caretaker or always being available. Your relationship is monopolizing your time and consumes a lot of your energy. You leave conversations with this person feeling confused, manipulated, and deceived – even a bit crazy.
7.
You are Hosting the Combination Cuckoo!
Hosting a Combination Cuckoo is the most common of the 4 types. Check out detailed descriptions of the Relationship Cuckoo and the Self-Inflicted Cuckoo.Most days, you are trapped in a vortex of unhealthy relationships, toxic thinking, and self-sabotaging behavior occurring simultaneously. You really invest yourself deeply both in your relationships and your work – whether it be a career, ministry, or a passion project. You are high achieving, self-motivated, and your own worst critic. You put a great deal of pressure on yourself to do all things well and often feel as though you haven’t done enough. You’re intelligent, conscientious, and hard-working; you do it all. You have an intense inner drive to succeed in business, family matters, and community-related endeavors. The truth is, underneath, you battle insecurity, doubt, and fear.
8.
You are Hosting the Relationship Cuckoo in your Life "Nest!"
Hosting The Relationship Cuckoo means you often find yourself carrying the emotional weight of the relationship, giving more than you are able, saying yes when you really mean no, and receiving little to no reciprocation. You continually feel hurt by this person and you chronically neglect yourself to please them and take care of them even though they are never satisfied and don’t give back to you in the same way. You’ve adopted the role of pleaser, rescuer, caretaker or always being available. Your relationship is monopolizing your time and consumes a lot of your energy. You leave conversations with this person feeling confused, manipulated, and deceived – even a bit crazy.
9.
You are Hosting the Combination Cuckoo in your Life "Nest!"
Hosting a Combination Cuckoo is the most common of the 4 types. Check out detailed descriptions of the Relationship Cuckoo and the Self-Inflicted Cuckoo. Most days, you are trapped in a vortex of unhealthy relationships, toxic thinking, and self-sabotaging behavior occurring simultaneously. You really invest yourself deeply both in your relationships and your work – whether it be a career, ministry, or a passion project. You are high achieving, self-motivated, and your own worst critic. You put a great deal of pressure on yourself to do all things well and often feel as though you haven’t done enough. You’re intelligent, conscientious, and hard-working; you do it all. You have an intense inner drive to succeed in business, family matters, and community-related endeavors. The truth is, underneath, you battle insecurity, doubt, and fear.
10.
You are Hosting the Relationship Cuckoo in your Life "Nest!"
Hosting The Relationship Cuckoo means you often find yourself carrying the emotional weight of the relationship, giving more than you are able, saying yes when you really mean no, and receiving little to no reciprocation. You continually feel hurt by this person and you chronically neglect yourself to please them and take care of them even though they are never satisfied and don’t give back to you in the same way. You’ve adopted the role of pleaser, rescuer, caretaker or always being available. Your relationship is monopolizing your time and consumes a lot of your energy. You leave conversations with this person feeling confused, manipulated, and deceived – even a bit crazy.
11.
You are Hosting the Combination Cuckoo in your Life "Nest!"
Hosting a Combination Cuckoo is the most common of the 4 types. Check out detailed descriptions of the Relationship Cuckoo and the Self-Inflicted Cuckoo. Most days, you are trapped in a vortex of unhealthy relationships, toxic thinking, and self-sabotaging behavior occurring simultaneously. You really invest yourself deeply both in your relationships and your work – whether it be a career, ministry, or a passion project. You are high achieving, self-motivated, and your own worst critic. You put a great deal of pressure on yourself to do all things well and often feel as though you haven’t done enough. You’re intelligent, conscientious, and hard-working; you do it all. You have an intense inner drive to succeed in business, family matters, and community-related endeavors. The truth is, underneath, you battle insecurity, doubt, and fear.
12.
You are Hosting the Relationship Cuckoo in your Life "Nest!"
Hosting The Relationship Cuckoo means you often find yourself carrying the emotional weight of the relationship, giving more than you are able, saying yes when you really mean no, and receiving little to no reciprocation. You continually feel hurt by this person and you chronically neglect yourself to please them and take care of them even though they are never satisfied and don’t give back to you in the same way. You’ve adopted the role of pleaser, rescuer, caretaker or always being available. Your relationship is monopolizing your time and consumes a lot of your energy. You leave conversations with this person feeling confused, manipulated, and deceived – even a bit crazy.
13.
You are Hosting the Combination Cuckoo in your Life "Nest!"
Hosting a Combination Cuckoo is the most common of the 4 types. Check out detailed descriptions of the Relationship Cuckoo and the Self-Inflicted Cuckoo.Most days, you are trapped in a vortex of unhealthy relationships, toxic thinking, and self-sabotaging behavior occurring simultaneously. You really invest yourself deeply both in your relationships and your work – whether it be a career, ministry, or a passion project. You are high achieving, self-motivated, and your own worst critic. You put a great deal of pressure on yourself to do all things well and often feel as though you haven’t done enough. You’re intelligent, conscientious, and hard-working; you do it all. You have an intense inner drive to succeed in business, family matters, and community-related endeavors. The truth is, underneath, you battle insecurity, doubt, and fear.
14.
You are Hosting the Relationship Cuckoo!
Hosting The Relationship Cuckoo means you often find yourself carrying the emotional weight of the relationship, giving more than you are able, saying yes when you really mean no, and receiving little to no reciprocation. You continually feel hurt by this person and you chronically neglect yourself to please them and take care of them even though they are never satisfied and don’t give back to you in the same way. You’ve adopted the role of pleaser, rescuer, caretaker or always being available. Your relationship is monopolizing your time and consumes a lot of your energy. You leave conversations with this person feeling confused, manipulated, and deceived – even a bit crazy.
15.
You are Hosting the Combination Cuckoo in your Life "Nest!"
Hosting a Combination Cuckoo is the most common of the 4 types. Check out detailed descriptions of the Relationship Cuckoo and the Self-Inflicted Cuckoo.Most days, you are trapped in a vortex of unhealthy relationships, toxic thinking, and self-sabotaging behavior occurring simultaneously. You really invest yourself deeply both in your relationships and your work – whether it be a career, ministry, or a passion project. You are high achieving, self-motivated, and your own worst critic. You put a great deal of pressure on yourself to do all things well and often feel as though you haven’t done enough. You’re intelligent, conscientious, and hard-working; you do it all. You have an intense inner drive to succeed in business, family matters, and community-related endeavors. The truth is, underneath, you battle insecurity, doubt, and fear.
16.
You are Hosting the Relationship Cuckoo in your Life "Nest!"
Hosting The Relationship Cuckoo means you often find yourself carrying the emotional weight of the relationship, giving more than you are able, saying yes when you really mean no, and receiving little to no reciprocation. You continually feel hurt by this person and you chronically neglect yourself to please them and take care of them even though they are never satisfied and don’t give back to you in the same way. You’ve adopted the role of pleaser, rescuer, caretaker or always being available. Your relationship is monopolizing your time and consumes a lot of your energy. You leave conversations with this person feeling confused, manipulated, and deceived – even a bit crazy.
17.
You are Hosting the Combination Cuckoo in your Life "Nest!"
Hosting a Combination Cuckoo is the most common of the 4 types. Check out detailed descriptions of the Relationship Cuckoo and the Self-Inflicted Cuckoo. Most days, you are trapped in a vortex of unhealthy relationships, toxic thinking, and self-sabotaging behavior occurring simultaneously. You really invest yourself deeply both in your relationships and your work – whether it be a career, ministry, or a passion project. You are high achieving, self-motivated, and your own worst critic. You put a great deal of pressure on yourself to do all things well and often feel as though you haven’t done enough. You’re intelligent, conscientious, and hard-working; you do it all. You have an intense inner drive to succeed in business, family matters, and community-related endeavors. The truth is, underneath, you battle insecurity, doubt, and fear.
18.
You are Hosting the Relationship Cuckoo in your Life "Nest!"
Hosting The Relationship Cuckoo means you often find yourself carrying the emotional weight of the relationship, giving more than you are able, saying yes when you really mean no, and receiving little to no reciprocation. You continually feel hurt by this person and you chronically neglect yourself to please them and take care of them even though they are never satisfied and don’t give back to you in the same way. You’ve adopted the role of pleaser, rescuer, caretaker or always being available. Your relationship is monopolizing your time and consumes a lot of your energy. You leave conversations with this person feeling confused, manipulated, and deceived – even a bit crazy.
19.
You are Hosting the Combination Cuckoo in your Life "Nest!"
Hosting a Combination Cuckoo is the most common of the 4 types. Check out detailed descriptions of the Relationship Cuckoo and the Self-Inflicted Cuckoo.Most days, you are trapped in a vortex of unhealthy relationships, toxic thinking, and self-sabotaging behavior occurring simultaneously. You really invest yourself deeply both in your relationships and your work – whether it be a career, ministry, or a passion project. You are high achieving, self-motivated, and your own worst critic. You put a great deal of pressure on yourself to do all things well and often feel as though you haven’t done enough. You’re intelligent, conscientious, and hard-working; you do it all. You have an intense inner drive to succeed in business, family matters, and community-related endeavors. The truth is, underneath, you battle insecurity, doubt, and fear.
20.
You are Hosting the Relationship Cuckoo in your Life "Nest!"
Hosting The Relationship Cuckoo means you often find yourself carrying the emotional weight of the relationship, giving more than you are able, saying yes when you really mean no, and receiving little to no reciprocation. You continually feel hurt by this person and you chronically neglect yourself to please them and take care of them even though they are never satisfied and don’t give back to you in the same way. You’ve adopted the role of pleaser, rescuer, caretaker or always being available. Your relationship is monopolizing your time and consumes a lot of your energy. You leave conversations with this person feeling confused, manipulated, and deceived – even a bit crazy.
21.
You are Hosting the Combination Cuckoo in your Life "Nest!"
Hosting a Combination Cuckoo is the most common of the 4 types. Check out detailed descriptions of the Relationship Cuckoo and the Self-Inflicted Cuckoo.Most days, you are trapped in a vortex of unhealthy relationships, toxic thinking, and self-sabotaging behavior occurring simultaneously. You really invest yourself deeply both in your relationships and your work – whether it be a career, ministry, or a passion project. You are high achieving, self-motivated, and your own worst critic. You put a great deal of pressure on yourself to do all things well and often feel as though you haven’t done enough. You’re intelligent, conscientious, and hard-working; you do it all. You have an intense inner drive to succeed in business, family matters, and community-related endeavors. The truth is, underneath, you battle insecurity, doubt, and fear.
22.
You are Hosting the Combination Cuckoo in your Life "Nest!"
Hosting a Combination Cuckoo is the most common of the 4 types. Check out detailed descriptions of the Relationship Cuckoo and the Self-Inflicted Cuckoo. Most days, you are trapped in a vortex of unhealthy relationships, toxic thinking, and self-sabotaging behavior occurring simultaneously. You really invest yourself deeply both in your relationships and your work – whether it be a career, ministry, or a passion project. You are high achieving, self-motivated, and your own worst critic. You put a great deal of pressure on yourself to do all things well and often feel as though you haven’t done enough. You’re intelligent, conscientious, and hard-working; you do it all. You have an intense inner drive to succeed in business, family matters, and community-related endeavors. The truth is, underneath, you battle insecurity, doubt, and fear.