Why Do You Keep Getting Hooked by Emotionally Unavailable Men?

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Quiz Questions

1.
When you really start liking someone new, what tends to happen first?
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- A.
  I naturally start putting more energy into the connection, initiating, helping it move forward, and making sure he knows I'm interested.
- B.
  I become more aware of how I'm coming across and start filtering parts of myself that might seem "too much".
- C.
  I start assessing whether he, the relationship, and the pace actually match what I think a good relationship should look like.
- D.
  I enjoy it, but part of me immediately wants to make sure I still have plenty of space and independence.
- E.
  I start noticing every little change and trying to figure out what his words and actions mean.
2.
On a date with someone you really like, which are you most likely to notice yourself doing?
- A.
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  Editing an opinion or preference because you don't want to come across as difficult.
- B.
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  Making sure he's comfortable and keeping the conversation/energy flowing if it dips.
- C.
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  Keep the conversation relatively light until you're sure you can trust him.
- D.
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  Mentally tracking his reactions and later replaying what different moments might have meant.
- E.
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  Quietly comparing him and the date against the picture you have of what the “right” relationship should feel like.
3.
You had a great date and then his communication becomes noticeably slower. What's your most automatic response?
- A.
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  I start running through possibilities about what changed and what it might mean.
- B.
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  Part of me pulls back too. If he's going distant, I'm not going to chase.
- C.
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  I tell myself not to make a big deal of it and try to act completely unbothered.
- D.
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  I start questioning whether this behaviour fits the kind of relationship and partner I believe I should be choosing.
- E.
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  I feel the urge to reconnect, send something, suggest something, or bring the energy back.
4.
You're excited about someone, but you notice something that doesn't sit right. What happens next?
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- A.
  I focus on understanding him and whether I can help make the situation work.
- B.
  I wonder if I'm being too sensitive and hesitate to say anything.
- C.
  I start evaluating whether this flaw means he's not right for me, or whether it's something that could change.
- D.
  I feel myself emotionally backing away.
- E.
  I start trying to determine exactly what the behaviour means before deciding what to do.
5.
If you sense he's pulling back, what is your first instinct:
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- A.
  Reevaluate him and the whole connection,
- B.
  Pull back too and create distance
- C.
  Reach out more, try harder, or plan something to reconnect
- D.
  Act like everything's fine and avoid bringing it up
- E.
  Obsess over what it means and what you should do
6.
Once you’re in a relationship, which feels most familiar?
- A.
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  Focus on what could be better, about him, me or the relationship
- B.
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  Carry more than my share of the planning, emotional labour or effort
- C.
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  Feel myself protecting my independence when the relationship starts requiring more of me
- D.
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  Spend a lot of time trying to figure out where we stand and whether everything is okay
- E.
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  Accommodate what he wants before checking what I actually want
7.
When tension or conflict comes up, what are you most likely to do?
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- A.
  Replay the conversation and try to figure out what it means for the relationship.
- B.
  Focus on what should have happened and what needs to change so it doesn't happen again.
- C.
  Shut down, detach or need significant space before I can engage.
- D.
  Try to repair it quickly and take responsibility for getting us back to okay.
- E.
  Soften or suppress what I'm really feeling so the conflict doesn't get bigger
8.
You know what you want to say to him, but you hesitate. What is most likely to stop you?
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- A.
  I want to be sure my expectation is reasonable and that I'm handling it the right way.
- B.
  I don't want to create distance when I could just be patient and work with him.
- C.
  I worry saying it will make me look needy, difficult or too much.
- D.
  I feel like I need to understand what's happening first before I decide what to say.
- E.
  I don't really want to expose that much of what I'm feeling.
9.
Someone you genuinely like becomes very consistent and makes it clear he wants a relationship. Which reaction feels most familiar?
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- A.
  The closeness suddenly makes me question whether I want it as much as I thought.
- B.
  I'm excited, but I become even more aware of being the kind of partner he'll want to keep.
- C.
  I start seriously evaluating whether this is truly the right choice for my future.
- D.
  I feel relieved and want to invest even more in building the relationship.
- E.
  Even though he's clear, I still find myself questioning whether I'm interpreting everything correctly or making the right decision.
10.
When you really care about someone, which FEAR feels most familiar, even if you don’t consciously think it in these exact words?
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- A.
  If I stop putting in effort, the connection could fade or disappear.
- B.
  If I let someone get too close, I could get hurt or lose too much of myself.
- C.
  If I don't understand what's happening, I could miss something important and get blindsided.
- D.
  If I choose the wrong person or accept the wrong relationship, I could end up disappointed or settling.
- E.
  If I show all of myself, my needs, feelings and opinions, I might become too much for him.
11.
When something feels uncertain in love, which response gives you the most immediate sense of relief or control?
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- A.
  Doing something, reaching out, reconnecting or putting more effort into making things better.
- B.
  Keeping things smooth by not making too much of what I'm feeling or needing.
- C.
  Figuring out what needs to change so the relationship feels more right.
- D.
  Creating some emotional distance so I can breathe and feel more like myself again.
- E.
  Thinking everything through until I feel like I understand what’s happening.
12.
After something feels off or uncertain in a relationship, which feeling are you most likely to be left with afterward?
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- A.
  I feel even more confused or anxious, despite spending so much time trying to figure it out.
- B.
  I feel relieved to have space, but later wonder if I pushed away something I actually wanted.
- C.
  I feel unseen or disconnected, like he doesn’t really know the full version of me.
- D.
  I still feel dissatisfied or unsure, even after trying to figure out what needs to be different.
- E.
  I feel drained or frustrated that I’m putting in more effort than I’m getting back.

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