What type of people-pleaser are YOU?

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Quiz Questions

1.
When someone says something you disagree with, what do you do?
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- A.
  Remain quiet.
- B.
  Agree with them but feel cringy inside.
- C.
  Find another reason to enforce the other’s statement and prove they are right.
- D.
  Agree with them but politely point out how someone could have a different point of view.
- E.
  No one ever disagrees with me, I’m usually right.
2.
When someone asks you to do something that you don’t want to do, how do you respond?
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- A.
  With a big smile on your face and enthusiasm in your voice.
- B.
  Barely mutter the words, but still oblige.
- C.
  Say you are more than willing to do it, but this other person may be a better fit for getting it done.
- D.
  Complete the task but with great resentment in your heart.
- E.
  Do what was asked of you and feel guilty that you secretly wish you didn’t have to do it.
3.
What is your place in a family argument?
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- A.
  You are able to get everyone to solve the problem.
- B.
  Find yourself in another room.
- C.
  Sitting quietly in the corner.
- D.
  Finding reasons to defend both sides, even though you know you have the solution.
- E.
  Work to take their minds off of the argument and onto something else by doing something really well to distract them.
4.
When your feelings are hurt you…
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- A.
  Feel sad and say nothing.
- B.
  Find reasons to defend the other person’s actions.
- C.
  Figure out how to change your behaviors to suit their needs.
- D.
  As long as the rest of the family isn’t affected, you’ll play it cool.
- E.
  Question if the person even cares for you.
5.
You feel your best when…
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- A.
  You know everyone around you is happy and content.
- B.
  When I feel I am respectful of others wishes and desires.
- C.
  Solving problems for others.
- D.
  The attention is off you.
- E.
  When everything in your life appears "perfect."
6.
You apologize when…
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- A.
  Immediately upon thinking I upset someone.
- B.
  Immediately upon not showing up perfectly.
- C.
  After I cry for doing wrong.
- D.
  Whenever I am told that I should.
- E.
  Whenever someone seems upset, even if it’s not my fault.
7.
For you, free time seems…
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- A.
  Impossible. What free time?
- B.
  Sad.
- C.
  Scary. You don't know what to do with it.
- D.
  Determined by others…
- E.
  Like an indulgence.

Quiz Outcomes

1.
The Peacemaker
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"Let's just keep the peace..." doesn't always work. In an ideal world we're filled with peace and love, but let's face it...the world isn't always ideal. Your people-pleasing archetype is The Peacemaker, so the following probably resonates with you...You put your own needs aside in order to keep the peace in your family, group of friends or in your relationship. You absorb all of the issues around you.You smile and nod while you are really feeling stressed inside about the drama around you.When asked to do something you don't want to, you do it anyway. Then you feel a great amount of resentment after. You defend both sides of an argument, although you definitely have the solution and wish you could side with one person.You're a chronic apologizer.As the peacemaker, you just want everyone to agree and get along. Although you will never be able to accomplish that, there are tools and tips to shift your mindframe to keeping the peace inside yourself instead of worrying about keeping the peace for everyone else. Watch your email for a copy of these results and more on how to go about working with the anxiety that inevitably results from a life spent people pleasing.
2.
The "Good" Girl, or Boy!
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“You are such a good girl!” was probably shared with you often as a child. But “good” and “compliant” don’t need to mean the same things. Your people-pleasing archetype is The “Good” Girl, or Boy”, so the following probably resonates with you…You always strive to be respectful.Your first priority is to be well-behaved in any setting.You strive for perfectionism when it comes to your relationships, career or education.No rule can ever be broken. You feel extremely guilty when you do something wrong.Although respect goes a long way, it's pertinent to use your voice and speak up when necessary. You are a good person, regardless of being “good” or “bad” in the eyes of others. Watch your email for a copy of these results and more on how to go about working with the anxiety that inevitably results from a life spent people pleasing.
3.
The Mediator
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Your people-pleasing archetype is “The Mediator”, so the following probably resonates with you…You are often referred to as the therapist of the family or group.You are the one in the middle of conflict, not by choice but simply to find a solution for both sides. You are the problem solver in order to maintain the status quo within the family or group dynamic.You display leadership qualities and your opinion is respected.You tend to point out the good in everyone’s intentions or perspective. You work hard to get people to understand each other.Although the skillsets of a mediator can come in handy, it is not your responsibility to mediate all conflicts among others. You need to actually get out of the middle of the triangle so people can learn how to deal with conflict on their own. Stepping out of this role can be quite challenging, but I have just the resources for you! Watch your email for a copy of these results and more on how to go about working with the anxiety that inevitably results from a life spent people pleasing.
4.
The Quiet One
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Your people-pleasing archetype is “The Quiet One”, so the following probably resonates with you…You rarely speak up to others.It is difficult for you to express your emotions.Conflict is scary.If you are forced to do so, you feel a great amount of anxiety.You find it safer to stay quiet and listen to the voice of others. You may feel resentment towards others because you feel as if you can’t voice your own opinions.Remaining quiet may seem safe and smart, but in reality you're passively giving permission for others to take advantage of you. Boundaries may seem terrifying, and speaking your truth may feel unreachable. But there is hope! Are you ready to find your voice and your inner peace? Watch your email for a copy of these results and more on how to go about working with the anxiety that inevitably results from a life spent people pleasing.
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The Golden Child
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Your people-pleasing archetype is “The Golden Child”, so the following probably resonates with you…You do everything in your power to show up perfectly in every setting.You are an overachiever. You conform to what others want and need of you in order to try and make everyone happy.You are probably “the favorite.”You do what you are told or asked to do, even when you really don’t want to, and you do it with a smile on your face.Although being perfect gives you a false sense of control, it actually gives all of your control away. Being in the role of "the golden child" can lead to stress, burnout and even a loss of identity. By now, it's probably left you feeling resentful. Watch your email for a copy of these results and more on how to go about working with the anxiety that inevitably results from a life spent people pleasing.