Your Parenting Executive: Who’s Running the Show?

Quiz Questions

• 1.
  What is the biggest struggle you have in your home right now?

  • A.
    My teen gets stuck when things don’t work out as planned.
  • B.
    My teen struggles with understanding their emotions or knowing how to express them
  • C.
    We can’t figure out the real problem
• 2.
  How do you and your spouse/partner handle parenting?

  • A.
    They want to do things the way they were raised and I think my way is better
  • B.
    One of us is very emotional. The other is too stoic or serious
  • C.
    We each think our solution is the better one
• 3.
  Describe the home you grew up in as a child/teen

  • A.
    At least one of my parents felt it was their way or the highway. My ideas weren’t heard
  • B.
    My parents weren’t aware of how their intense feelings impacted us kids
  • C.
    My parents picked sides during disagreements. They didn’t allow us to work things out
• 4.
  What do you wish your parents did differently when you were growing up?

  • A.
    I wish I was more empowered, that there weren’t so many rules, and we could just go with the flow
  • B.
    Maybe if they showed a little vulnerability, talked about feelings, and made it okay for us to share our feelings too
  • C.
    Less punishment, less yelling, and more helping us figure things out peacefully
• 5.
  If you could eliminate all (or many) of the problems and struggles in your home, what would it look like?

  • A.
    I would just go with the flow more and understand that my teen will struggle sometimes
  • B.
    Having a teen who understood their strengths and weaknesses and asked for help when needed without the explosion
  • C.
    Identifying problems and figuring out solutions together, collaboratively and peacefully
• 6.
  What’s currently stopping you from taking the next step to have the relationship you really want with your tween/teen?

  • A.
    I just feel stuck. I don’t think anything I try will work.
  • B.
    I feel hurt, depleted and on edge whenever they’re around. I think they feel the same way too
  • C.
    I’m not sure about the best solution or the next steps

Quiz Outcomes

• 1.
  Flexibility

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  Inflexible Parenting. The challenge in your home is you feel like you’re stuck and in a rut. You, your partner/spouse, and even your kids are stuck in a cycle of negative thinking and interacting with one another in the same way day after day. You’re frustrated, they’re frustrated, but you all keep going back to that same pattern. The solution? Flexible Parenting. Learning to be more flexible in your parenting approach plus learning ways to teach your tween/teen to be flexible in their thinking and their behaviors. Feeling stuck in the midst of a negative cycle is common. You probably learned a lot of these patterns during your childhood with your own parents and family members. Since we often parent the way we were parented, that foundation has been established and can be difficult to break. You’re in luck. This digital guide will teach you how to think in more flexible ways and end the never-ending battle in your home and with your tween/teen.
• 2.
  Emotional regulation

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  Emotionally Dysregulated Parenting. The challenge in your home is that you and everyone else feels on edge, because no one knows what to expect emotionally. Sometimes you or your spouse respond calmly, other times you over-react to the same situation. Your tween/teen is probably confused by the inconsistency of your response. On the flip side, you never know what kind of response you’ll get from your tween/teen. Sometimes they’re pleasant when they wake up or come home from school; other times, they are a raging monster and everything annoys them. Everyone is walking on eggshells in your home and it seems like everyone is miserable. The solution? Emotionally Regulated Parenting. Learning proven tips, tools, and strategies for parental self-regulation, so you can pass that on through co-regulation, and then your tween/teen can learn self-regulation. This digital guide will teach you how to manage your own emotions in ways you didn’t learn, so that you can break the cycle in your own parenting and raise more emotionally regulated kids.
• 3.
  Problem solving

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  Problem-Focused Parenting. The challenge in your home is that you tend to see the problems, although you’re not always sure what the exact problem is. Your home might be trapped in a blame-game loop where everyone seems to be pointing fingers at everyone else, but not focusing on the solution. But, it’s hard to find the solution when you can’t identify the real problem. The solution? Solution-Focused Parenting. Learn to identify the problems that are leading to the difficult interactions, poor habits, and disagreements. Then, feel confident about finding the right solutions. As parents, when we focus more on the problem in front of us, rather than the real problem that’s driving it, we’ll be stuck in a feedback loop with no real solutions. This digital guide will teach you proven strategies to dig past the problems into real solutions to stop those unhealthy and unproductive feedback loops.