Couples Relationship Quiz

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Quiz Questions

1.
How do You usually feel when bringing concerns to your partner?
- A.
  Like I have to walk on eggshells
- B.
  Mostly calm and comfortable
- C.
  I rarely have concerns to share
- D.
  Annoyed that my partner doesn't understand me better
2.
What most often happens when you have a disagreement with your partner?
- A.
  Heated discussions or debates
- B.
  Blaming and criticism
- C.
  Attempt to understand by asking questions
- D.
  One or both of us walks away or distances
3.
If you could change one thing about your partner's personality what would it be?
- A.
  Their habits or lifestyle
- B.
  Their communication
- C.
  How they show love and affection
- D.
  Their opinions and beliefs
4.
How are You Most Likely to Spend Extra Money?
- A.
  I don't have extra money
- B.
  On Leisure, fun or travel
- C.
  On Saving or Investments
- D.
  On buying something I want
5.
How do You most enjoy spending quality time with your partner?
- A.
  Going out for a date night
- B.
  Spending time with friends or family
- C.
  A night in together on the couch
- D.
  Doing different things while sharing the same space
6.
How sexually compatible do you feel ?
- A.
  I wish my partner would initiate or be more interested in sex
- B.
  I wish my partner would be satisfied with less sex
- C.
  I think I am mostly satisfied with our sexual relationship
- D.
  We seldom or rarely ever have sex
7.
How do you get along with friends & family
- A.
  My friends have concerns about my partner
- B.
  One (or both) of us are estranged from significant loved ones
- C.
  We get along well with each other's close friends & family
- D.
  I have concerns about my partner's friends
8.
How do you feel when you're away from your partner?
- A.
  I feel like I can be more myself with others than my partner
- B.
  I worry and can obsess about what my partner is doing
- C.
  I think of my partner but enjoy time apart
- D.
  I enjoy my freedom and prefer not to communicate my whereabouts when away from my partner.
9.
What makes you feel the most loved?
- A.
  Physical or verbal affection
- B.
  Sharing space, time and conversations together
- C.
  Doing an Activity or Going to an Event Together
- D.
  When my partner gets me a gift or does something for me
10.
How would you feel if things didn't work out?
- A.
  I would be devastated and irreversibly rejected
- B.
  I would be sad but I know I will be ok eventually
- C.
  I would blame myself
- D.
  I would feel a sense of relief and freedom

Quiz Outcomes

1.
COMPATIBLE COMPADRES
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COMPATIBLE COMPADRESYour relationship has a healthy foundation of communication, similar interests and values. The differences that occur in your relationship are unlikely to be due to incompatibilities, but more likely due to not having talked about the values underlying certain issues and conflicts. Understanding Values Can Help You to:Resolving Conflict CompassionatelyEnhance Intimacy & ConnectionDevelop and grow through challenges.3 Date Night Activities:1. Date Night Decisions- Pick Something You Need to Make a Decision About. Each person must think of 10 possible responsesWrite them all downTake turns sharing Cross of choices that neither agrees toStar the good ones Commit to a plan of action and a time to come back and discuss.2. Do a Commitment Check Even if there are no major issues or concerns being brought up for discussion, don't assume that there are no hidden wishes, needs or desires. Commitments are not meant to last for a lifetime. You have to continually check-in to understand how you (and your partner) have changed/grown over the course of time and how these variables effect the type of relationship you want and have. Some questions to prompt conversations around commitment:Do we want to do this for another year?What is working and what do you wish to change? *Note remember to stay away from accusations and blaming. Use I statements and replace criticism with communicating emotions.Is there a specific request or wish you want to make of me? When making requests of your partner it's important to make it actionable and clear, while also telling your partner how you would feel if the request were met. Remember your partner always has a choice as to what they will or will not commit to.Individual and relationship needs change, so make it a habit to check in with each other to see if either of you are craving some quality couple time. Through good communication, you can ensure you stay on the same page, which can be especially helpful as you move through different seasons of life.3. Get to the Heart of the Matter -Pick a repetitive issue that you disagree about: Take turns talking about your personal life experiences that make your perspective important to you. Just try to listen and understand without making your partner wrong or change them. Share about what different values or beliefs may be underlying some of your relationship patterns or conflict.
2.
Connecting through Communication
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You have a fundamental fondness and connection in your relationship, but sometimes communication isn't clear enough to get an accurate message through. Enhancing communication and listening skills can take your connection to the next level. 3 Date Night Activities1. Take Time to TalkTake time to talk about something that is important to you with your partner.Each person identiifes an issue that is important for them to discussUse a timer to share talking time if neededTake turns listening and talking for a set amount of time (no more than 2 minutes). Each person can talk about anything they want related to the identiifed issueYou must accurately reflect what you understand your partner to be saying to get a pointYour partner decides if you get the point (based on if you completely understood what they said).Do this for 10 to 20 minutes.2. Learn Your Fighting StylesAsk each other: "How would I know when you're flooded (overwhelmed with stress or emotion)?"Ask each other your "Fighting styles". Do you explode and need to get things off your chest (combative style)?Do you want to talk it out and address issues as they arise (diplomatic style)?Do You need space and time away to process (avoidant style)? Bonus: Want more? Role play the triggered situation and how your partner would like you to respond.Switch roles.Have fun!3. Brainstorm a list of Ways to Soothe Each Other when Stressed or Triggered.Take turns answering the following 4 Questions one at a time: 1. How do your bring up issues or concerns? 2. Do you bottle things up. 3. How would I know when you are stressed? 4. How do you know when I am stressed?Make sure to take time to practice these skills during a tough or difficult conversation.
3.
Differences Not Deal Breakers
5 Love LanguagesEach person must think of 10 possible responses.Quality timePhysical touchActs of serviceReceiving gifts.How to Flock TogetherYou have some differences in how you much time you like to spend together and how you express emotions and affection. However these are not deal breakers. In fact most couples differ from each other in the same exact ways.It's important to accept your partner's style and habits without needing to change them or make them wrong. Here's some intimacy ice breakers the next time you are judging your partner.1. Bring Perspective to Your Priorities Take some time to Individually rank the following priorities from 1-4. 1 being the highest priority and 4 being the least important priority for how you spend time. Share your answers and how differences play out in your relationship:The relationship with partnerRelationships with friends and familyLeisure activities or hobbiesWork or Professional growth.Remember: Go for quality over quantity.When it comes to your time together, balanced doesn’t always mean equal. Free yourselves from feeling that you need to match the actual amount of time you spend on separate interests to the amount of time together, and instead focus on the quality of your time together. When you’re fully present with each other, you can feel highly connected even after a short period of time. Work on figuring out and communicating about what helps you both feel most in tune with each other.2. Level-Set your Love languages: Share about your love languages using the following prompts The two languages you most easily giveThe two languages to most like to receiveCreate an intention to start speaking your partner's love language.Some couples have similar love languages. However, most don't. Differences in how you share and receive love doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with your relationship. In fact, nurturing individual love languages as a couple can be a major strength. The key is to be cognizant of is whether you feel balanced in your level of connection even if your share affection in different ways.3. Identify Your Strengths and Growth Areas Individually write down 3 of your biggest strengths and 3 of your biggest challenges in your relationship. Then try to guess your partner's answer before sharing your responses. Make sure to start with the strengths before diving into areas for improvement.
4.
Time To Build (or Rebuild) Trust
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There are not many things that are clear cut deal-breakers in a relationship. Most people can work things out as long as their relationship commitments are similar.Take the time to strengthen your communication skills before trying to negotiate disagreements, disappointments or differences.Take some time to create rules for your conversations. Hold each other accountable to doing what you identified.1. A night Out: Share What a Perfect Date Would Include for each of You. Look for things that overlap and make a plan to make it happen. Be open to trying new things.Even if you don’t currently share a lot of interests, it doesn’t mean you never will. Keep an open mind when it comes to trying new things together, or even re-trying an activity that you previously weren’t interested in. You never know when you’ll find something you both love. Not only that, but trying new things together gives you a burst of feel-good endorphins, similar to those when you were first dating.Maybe you don’t share any specific hobbies or pastimes, but chances are you have a few things in common. Capitalize on those things. If you share a sense of humor, go see a comedy show or watch your favorite comedian’s latest stand-up special. Big fans of a certain band or musician? Get tickets to go see them live. Both coffee snobs? Date your way through all the coffee shops in the city. Whatever quirky things you have in common, make it special – let it be your thing.2. Create Ground Rules Establish ground rules for difficult conversations. Some examples can include: Listen without interruptingShow respect through eye contact and watching your tone.Pay attention and Don't interruptTake a break if either person gets flooded or too upset .3. Values ConversationReflect on a recent disagreement you hadIdentify the predominant emotion that you feel/felt in the exchangeTalk with your partner about the value or need that causes you to feel this wayLook for common ground Talk about ways to respect each other's needs and values while honoring what's important to you individually. Finally, lean into what you both share or identify as important.