Is My Parent a Narcissist?

Quiz Questions

• 1.
  Does your parent often (check all that apply):

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    Criticize your choices
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    Guilt-trip you
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    Ignore your boundaries
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    Manipulate your emotions
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    Make you question your reality
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    None of these
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  Have you often felt like you could never be "good enough" for your parent? 

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    Yes
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    No
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    Sometimes
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  Do you often feel misunderstood or harshly judged by your parent?

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    Yes
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    No
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    Sometimes
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  Does your parent often blame you or others for their problems instead of taking personal responsibility?

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    Yes
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    No
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    Sometimes
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  Do you often feel guilty or ruminate about things you said or didn't say after a conversation with your parent?

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    Yes
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    No
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    Sometimes
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  Does your parent often turn the conversation back to their own wants, needs, or feelings?

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    Yes
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    No
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    Sometimes
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  Do you notice your parent's emotions often swinging from untouchable confidence to depressed victim?

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    Always
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    Sometimes
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    Rarely
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    Never
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  Do you often find yourself apologizing to your parent (or feeling like you should), even for things you can't control or didn't do?

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    Yes
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    No
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    Sometimes
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  Growing up, did you often feel like you were "walking on eggshells" around your parent?

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    Yes
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    No
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    Sometimes
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  Growing up, did you often feel responsible for your parent's emotions or mood?

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    Yes
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    No
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    Sometimes

Quiz Outcomes

• 1.
  MILD RISK

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  If you scored between 0 to 9, it's mildly likely you have a narcissistic parent.Overall, you probably feel like you have a good relationship with your parent, although there are some areas you believe need improving.At times, you likely feel misunderstood, dismissed, or invalidated by your parent. You've probably been researching various questions online, trying to figure out if your parental relationship struggles are "normal".You might've felt as if something is missing from your relationship and that healthier communication is needed to improve the quality of your relationship.You feel like if you could:Set better boundariesCommunicate more effectivelyFeel more heard and understoodStop being guilt-tripped or criticizedThen you would be able to have a more satisfying and meaningful relationship with your parent!Based on these results, it's time to start considering professional help.In order to move forward and not regress further, it's essential that you: Understand the origins of your current struggles (most of our issues stem from childhood)Learn to recognize your triggers (self-awareness leads to self-trust)Identify specific ways to improve your relationship (with or without your parent's involvement)Set healthy boundaries (based on your values, not what others expect from you)Hi! I'm Chelsey Brooke Cole, licensed psychotherapist and Certified Partner Trauma Therapist specializing in narcissistic abuse, relationship trauma, and helping introverts/empaths thrive. I take a very collaborative, compassionate approach to the counseling process because I’ve seen that the most important aspect of healing is a safe, supportive relationship. Having experienced narcissistic abuse myself and working with countless narcissistic abuse survivors, I understand the confusion, pain, and hurt these relationships can cause. However, I also know that healing is possible and that meaning, purpose, and fulfillment can still be found whether the narcissist is in or out of your life.If you signed up to get my newsletter right before seeing your results, you're all set! You'll be receiving free resources and options for connecting with me in my welcome email. If you didn't sign up, but still want to dive into more narcissistic abuse support resources, visit my website by clicking the link below!
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  MODERATE RISK

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  If you scored between 10 to 19, it's moderately likely that you have a narcissistic parent. Most days, when thinking about your relationship with your parent, you probably feel confused, overwhelmed, discouraged, frustrated, powerless, or a mix of all of these. You've probably been researching various questions online, trying to figure out if your parental relationship struggles are "normal".You often feel guilted, invalidated, and misunderstood by your parent.You've probably noticed yourself ruminating about the relationship and maybe even feeling guilty for thinking of your parent as being narcissistic or toxic. For a long time, you've likely wondered: "Is it me? Or is something actually wrong with them?" Based on these results, it's time to reach out for professional help.In order to move forward and not regress further, it's essential that you: Understand what having a narcissistic parent looks and feels like (because you'll likely second-guess yourself until you know)Learn to validate your own reality (because toxic people will always gaslight you)Identify specific ways to improve your relationship (with or without your parent's involvement)Set healthy boundaries (whether you keep a close relationship or go no contact)Hi! I'm Chelsey Brooke Cole, licensed psychotherapist and Certified Partner Trauma Therapist specializing in narcissistic abuse, relationship trauma, and helping introverts/empaths thrive. I take a very collaborative, compassionate approach to the counseling process because I’ve seen that the most important aspect of healing is a safe, supportive relationship. Having experienced narcissistic abuse myself and working with countless narcissistic abuse survivors, I understand the confusion, pain, and hurt these relationships can cause. However, I also know that healing is possible and that meaning, purpose, and fulfillment can still be found whether the narcissist is in or out of your life.If you signed up to get my newsletter right before seeing your results, you're all set! You'll be receiving free resources and options for connecting with me in my welcome email. If you didn't sign up, but still want to dive into more narcissistic abuse support resources, visit my website by clicking the link below!
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  HIGH RISK

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  If you scored between 20 to 28, it's highly likely that you have a narcissistic parent.Most days, when thinking about your relationship with your parent, you probably feel confused, overwhelmed, helpless, sad, discouraged, frustrated, powerless, or a mix of all of these. You've probably been researching various questions online, trying to make sense of your emotions and to determine once and for all if your parent is a narcissist or possibly even psychopathic.You're likely exhausted from the manipulations, invalidating comments, and guilt-laden messages you receive from your parent.You ruminate constantly (never fully sure of what you think or feel), overthink everything (even simple decisions), and struggle to set boundaries (especially with your parent).For a long time, you've likely wondered: "Is it me? Or is something actually wrong with them?" Based on these results, it's time to reach out for professional help.In order for growth and healing to happen, it's essential that you: Understand the origins of your current struggles (being raised by a narcissistic parent leaves scars)Learn to validate your own reality (because they will always gaslight you)Set healthy boundaries (whether you keep a close relationship or go no contact)Hi! I'm Chelsey Brooke Cole, licensed psychotherapist and Certified Partner Trauma Therapist specializing in narcissistic abuse, relationship trauma, and helping introverts/empaths thrive. I take a very collaborative, compassionate approach to the counseling process because I’ve seen that the most important aspect of healing is a safe, supportive relationship. Having experienced narcissistic abuse myself and working with countless narcissistic abuse survivors, I understand the confusion, pain, and hurt these relationships can cause. However, I also know that healing is possible and that meaning, purpose, and fulfillment can still be found whether the narcissist is in or out of your life.If you signed up to get my newsletter right before seeing your results, you're all set! You'll be receiving free resources and options for connecting with me in my welcome email. If you didn't sign up, but still want to dive into more narcissistic abuse support resources, visit my website by clicking the link below!