Is My Partner a Narcissist?

Quiz Questions

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  Does your partner appear cold, aloof, annoyed, or disgusted when discussing your or others' emotions? 

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    Always
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    Sometimes
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    Rarely
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    Never
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  Does your partner often believe that he/she deserves special treatment?

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    Always
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    Sometimes
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    Rarely
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    Never
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  Does your partner often talk in big, bold, or arrogant ways about his/her achievements, goals, or status?

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    Always
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    Sometimes
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    Rarely
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    Never
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  Do you often feel manipulated or used by your partner, as if they're only interested in you when they need or want something?

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    Always
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    Sometimes
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    Rarely
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    Never
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  Do you constantly feel a need to entertain or validate your partner in order to keep their attention or interest?

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    Always
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    Sometimes
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    Rarely
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    Never
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  Does your partner often project their own emotions onto you (i.e., accuse you of feeling or doing what he/she is actually doing)?

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    Always
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    Sometimes
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    Rarely
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    Never
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  Does your partner consistently avoid taking personal responsibility and become super defensive instead?

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    Always
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    Sometimes
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    Rarely
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    Never
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  Do you often leave conversations with your partner feeling (check all that apply):

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    Confused
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    Guilt/Shame
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    Hopeless/Helpless
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    Invalidated/Misunderstood
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    None of these
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  Does your partner act sullen, depressed, or withdrawn if things don't go their way?

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    Always
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    Sometimes
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    Rarely
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    Never
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  Has your partner ever been emotionally or sexually unfaithful?

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    Yes
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    No

Quiz Outcomes

• 1.
  MILD RISK

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  If you scored between 0 to 14, it's mildly likely you have a narcissistic partner.Overall, you probably feel like you have a good relationship, although there are some areas you believe need improving.At times, you likely feel misunderstood, dismissed, or invalidated by your partner. You've probably been researching various questions online, trying to figure out if your relationship struggles are "normal".You might've felt as if something is missing and that healthier communication is needed to improve the quality of your relationship.You feel like if you could:Set better boundariesCommunicate more effectivelyFeel more heard and understoodStop being guilt-tripped, criticized, or invalidatedThen you would be able to have a more satisfying and meaningful relationship!Based on these results, it's time to start considering professional help.In order to move forward and not regress further, it's essential that you: Learn to differentiate between healthy and toxic relationship patterns (or you risk staying confused and unsure) Understand what a healthy attachment looks and feels like (because sometimes we mistake trauma bonds for love)Identify specific ways to improve your relationship (with or without your partner's involvement)Set healthy boundaries (based on your values, not what others expect from you)Hi! I'm Chelsey Brooke Cole, licensed psychotherapist and Certified Partner Trauma Therapist specializing in narcissistic abuse, relationship trauma, and helping introverts/empaths thrive. I take a very collaborative, compassionate approach to the counseling process because I’ve seen that the most important aspect of healing is a safe, supportive relationship. Having experienced narcissistic abuse myself and working with countless narcissistic abuse survivors, I understand the confusion, pain, and hurt these relationships can cause. However, I also know that healing is possible and that meaning, purpose, and fulfillment can still be found whether the narcissist is in or out of your life.If you signed up to get my newsletter right before seeing your results, you're all set! You'll be receiving free resources and options for connecting with me in my welcome email. If you didn't sign up, but still want to dive into more narcissistic abuse support resources, visit my website by clicking the link below!
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  MODERATE RISK

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  If you scored between 15 to 28, it's moderately likely that you have a narcissistic partner. Most days, when thinking about your relationship, you probably feel confused, overwhelmed, discouraged, frustrated, powerless, or a mix of all of these. You've probably been researching various questions online, trying to figure out if your relationship struggles are "normal".You might've felt as if you're "going crazy" or wondered if the person you're dealing with is narcissistic, toxic, or possibly psychopathic.You've probably noticed yourself ruminating more, being in a state of fogginess, or having trouble making even simple decisions. For a long time, you've likely wondered: "Is it me? Or is something actually wrong with them?" Based on these results, it's time to reach out for professional help.In order for growth and healing to happen, it's essential that you: Learn to differentiate between healthy and toxic relationship patterns (or you risk staying confused and unsure) Understand what a healthy attachment looks and feels like (because sometimes we mistake trauma bonds for love)Set firm boundaries if you stay (to protect your mind and heart)Arm yourself with the right coping strategies if you leave (because it won't be easy)Hi! I'm Chelsey Brooke Cole, licensed psychotherapist and Certified Partner Trauma Therapist specializing in narcissistic abuse, relationship trauma, and helping introverts/empaths thrive. I take a very collaborative, compassionate approach to the counseling process because I’ve seen that the most important aspect of healing is a safe, supportive relationship. Having experienced narcissistic abuse myself and working with countless narcissistic abuse survivors, I understand the confusion, pain, and hurt these relationships can cause. However, I also know that healing is possible and that meaning, purpose, and fulfillment can still be found whether the narcissist is in or out of your life.If you signed up to get my newsletter right before seeing your results, you're all set! You'll be receiving free resources and options for connecting with me in my welcome email. If you didn't sign up, but still want to dive into more narcissistic abuse support resources, visit my website by clicking the link below!
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  HIGH RISK

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  If you scored between 29 to 42, it's highly likely that you have a narcissistic partner. Most days, you likely feel confused, exhausted, hypervigilant, overwhelmed, anxious, depressed, or a mix of all of these. You've probably been researching various questions online, desperate to make sense of what you've been experiencing.You feel as if you're "going crazy" and wonder if the person you're dealing with is narcissistic, toxic, or even psychopathic.You ruminate constantly (never fully sure of what you think or feel), overthink everything (even simple decisions), and live in a never-ending state of worry, doubt, and guilt. If you could sum up your relationship problems in two statements, it would be feeling like you're never enough and that no matter what, you can't win.Based on these results, it's time to reach out for professional help.In order for growth and healing to happen, it's essential that you: Understand what you're going through (narcissistic abuse is messy, toxic, and multi-layered)Learn to validate your own reality (because they will always gaslight you)Set firm boundaries if you stay (to protect your mind and heart)Arm yourself with the right coping strategies if you leave (because it won't be easy)Hi! I'm Chelsey Brooke Cole, licensed psychotherapist and Certified Partner Trauma Therapist specializing in narcissistic abuse, relationship trauma, and helping introverts/empaths thrive. I take a very collaborative, compassionate approach to the counseling process because I’ve seen that the most important aspect of healing is a safe, supportive relationship. Having experienced narcissistic abuse myself and working with countless narcissistic abuse survivors, I understand the confusion, pain, and hurt these relationships can cause. However, I also know that healing is possible and that meaning, purpose, and fulfillment can still be found whether the narcissist is in or out of your life.If you signed up to get my newsletter right before seeing your results, you're all set! You'll be receiving free resources and options for connecting with me in my welcome email. If you didn't sign up, but still want to dive into more narcissistic abuse support resources, visit my website by clicking the link below!