How secure is your relationship?

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Quiz Questions

1.
Communication
- A.
  
  One or both of us do not communicate well and often become quiet or non-communicative, or angry and over-emotional.
- B.
  
  We are pretty good communicators. Sometimes one or both of us need encouragement to open up or calm down.
- C.
  
  One or both of us have great speaking skills but our listening skills could be better.
- D.
  
  We both communicate well and listen well.
2.
Trust
- A.
  
  Lying has NOT been an issue in my relationships, but by nature, I am a very cautious person and don't trust easily.
- B.
  
  I have been lied to in past and/or current relationships and have trouble trusting people.
- C.
  
  Lying has not been an issue in my relationships. I trust fully.
- D.
  
  There have been lies in my past and/or current relationship but we have worked it through and I am trusting now.
3.
Respect
- A.
  
  We might get heated from time to time, or stop talking to each other briefly, but we do our best to remain polite and kind.
- B.
  
  We speak kindly to each other, try to understand each other and strive to always see the best in each other.
- C.
  
  In our relationship, one or more of these things have happened; foul language and/or name calling, something thrown or slammed, and/or hold, grab, push or hit the other. (Consider the last 2 years.)
- D.
  
  One or both of us raise our voice or become non-communicative. It's not uncommon for us to talk over each other and bounce from one topic to another.
4.
Truth
- A.
  
  One or both of us are often contemplating if lies of omission and "white lies" really count as lies.
- B.
  
  We both strive to always tell the truth, even when it's hard.
- C.
  
  One or both of us struggle with telling the truth either out of habit or fear of the outcome.
- D.
  
  We are both truthful about most things, most of the time.
5.
Humility
- A.
  
  When things don't go one or both of our way, it's not pretty.
- B.
  
  One or both of us struggle with "keeping score," comparing, and when things don't go our way, but we usually come around to understanding and acceptance.
- C.
  
  We both have a clear understanding that we are not always right and do not always need to get our way. Even if we know we are right, we can yield control.
- D.
  
  One or both of us think we are usually right about things and our way is the best way. If others would just do it and see it our way, that would be the best outcome.
6.
Energy
- A.
  
  We are busy, maybe even too busy, but we make some time for just us.
- B.
  
  We are busy but we are diligent about investing in our relationship, by scheduling dates, connecting over coffee, sitting on the patio, etc.
- C.
  
  One or both of us spend too much energy elsewhere than on each other, such as work, the children, friends, extended family, volunteering, our own self-interest and/or social media and games.
- D.
  
  We keep a pretty good work-life balance and spend quality time with one another often.
7.
Togetherness
- A.
  
  We are together on most things, most of the time. Some things we just leave to the other and trust it will be fine. Some things we get into disagreements about, but in the end, it usually works out.
- B.
  
  We are an incredible team when it comes to our family, parenting, financial, emotional, spiritual, health and other goals.
- C.
  
  We have disagreements that we can't work out and are causing a lot of problems between us.
- D.
  
  We have some disagreements and they fester and don't get worked out, but we seem to just carry on.
8.
Sexual Frequency
- A.
  
  We have been sexless for more than 4 months.
- B.
  
  We have had sex less than 10 times in the last 12 months.
- C.
  
  We have sex about twice per month, sometimes more, rarely less.
- D.
  
  We have sex about once per week, sometimes more, rarely less.
9.
Sexual Pleasure
- A.
  
  I get pleasure from sexual relations in my current relationship.
- B.
  
  I get a lot of pleasure from sexual relations in my current relationship.
- C.
  
  I am not interested in sex and do not engage in sex in my current relationship.
- D.
  
  Sexual relations do not give me pleasure in my current relationship.
10.
Love
- A.
  
  I feel my partner is committed to me and loves me, but doesn't always understand me and my emotional needs and desires.
- B.
  
  I feel that my partner is often hostile toward me or is always angry.
- C.
  
  I feel understood, cared for and loved.
- D.
  
  I feel alone, misunderstood, not cared for and not comforted.
11.
Beliefs
- A.
  
  We disagree when it comes to faith and politics.
- B.
  
  We mostly agree on issue of faith and politics.
- C.
  
  Our beliefs about faith and politics are aligned.
- D.
  
  We agree to disagree on issues of faith and politics.

Quiz Outcomes

1.

Insecure

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I'm glad you are here. Your responses indicate that you feel unsettled and maybe even unsafe in your relationship. A person cannot thrive and feel peace when they are in an insecure relationship. Stress is surging through their system and they are vulnerable to mental health issues, such as depression, anxiety, and addiction, and medical struggles such as high blood pressure, over or underweight and gastrointestinal distress. Whether this is your first relationship like this or a pattern, you deserve to have peace, love, and above all, emotional and physical safety.
2.

Satisfied But Issues Occur Too Frequently

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I'm glad you are here! Your responses indicate that your relationship may be a bit tumultuous and not as satisfying as you would like it to be. You might be playing off each other in a way that hits "hot" buttons too often and leaves you being either in conflict or stand-offish or just feeling bad. You know it could be better, but you don't know where to start, or you have tried and not been successful. Trust me! Your relationship can definitely get to the next level! And once you get to the next level, you can move toward even the next level. Are you ready to comit to having an even more satisfying relationship?
3.

Satisfied But Wanting More

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Oh...you guys are good! You're already good but you struggle from time to time, knowing that you could do this better. You have already made efforts to grow your relationship and work through challenges and you have been successful. If you find yourselves saying, "Why does this keep happening?" then you are definitely ready for the next step. You WILL be the couple you dream of being when you commit to it!
4.

Secure

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Bravo! The secure couple has been together long enough to be out of the early, or "honeymoon" stage. They have had to navigate challenges and differences of opinion. They have taken time for each other, to learn about each other and what they can do to love one another best. Not only do they have each other's back, but they don't even question anything about each other. They are aimed in the same life direction as a couple and working together to build a great life together. I'm really glad you are here, because I know you already realize, there's a next level! It can get even better!

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